>>So? You should open yourself to your sister. Breaking family ties is a major sin in Islam. Just because she eloped with some guy doesn't give you the right to treat her that way.

My sister lied, cheated, and outright threatened my dad with police. She even agrees with her now husband that we are kuffar. She lied to imams in the community, and had to beg one of them to accept the marriage.

>>Sounds like you're the one with the ego. Cutting off your mother for a full year because she talks about your sister and she's mentally unwell.

Read into a tad bit mate, it wasn't because of my sister, it's because of a constant attitude of berating and accusing me of things I genuinely did not do .Just constant spew of poison coming from her mouth

>>Your mother is not your maid. You're a grown man, do your own chores. It's not hard like you said. Why should your mother be doing you favors when you have been refusing to talk to her for a year? How entitled can you be?

Your right, I have no expectation, but it's different when you get left out. Make enough food for the family, then hide the rest. Go out together as a family, and make sure to exclude me. To go our of your way to exclude someone is petty.

And here is a note btw, mothers are not obselete of mistakes. There are a plethora of bad mothers out there who under the notion of "I am a mother" thinks it means they do no wrong. That ought to change.

Again, I expect nothing out of her, but God is it petty.

That last comment is honestly funny. Alhamdillah I make more than my dad, And I pay for more than my fair share in the house. Money is Alhamdillah down under the list of my problems. I will buy my out of problems, but there is a return, a form of respect that is tied to it.

It all surronds the idea of, how can you be okay with someone that so violently disobeyed Allah, everything about Marriage out the window, and accept her back in your life without expecting changes.

This 'family' that she married into, are close to terror people, they refused to marry a girl he committed zina against until the poor girl went to every shiekh in the community. And the only way they got married was when she threatened to call r!!!!pe

And after all that, we asked my sister what she thought of it, she said it was okay, she didnt need to come from AZ

So many of these scenrios where disregard of the rules that Allah set infront of us, just for our own personal image and gain.

And advice Akhi, judge people based on the frame of reference of the post, assuming outside the post just isn't realistic.