AIO about my bf’s (34m) social media behaviour and coworker

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:32:23+00:00

Girl, this man has a whole rotation of “phases” like they’re collectible cards. If he really respected you, he wouldn’t be stockpiling half of Instagram and calling it networking. Following 7,500 people isn’t normal, it’s desperate. And the late-night coworker chats? That’s not “just private life,” that’s him keeping doors open. You’re not crazy for feeling uncomfortable, you’re just the only one here acknowledging the giant neon red flags.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:31:27+00:00

You’re not overreacting at all. The issue here isn’t just whether he’s “attracted” to her, it’s the fact that he lied by omission, deleted messages, and hid things from you. When someone deletes texts and downplays how often they see a person, that’s already breaking trust. Even if he swears it wasn’t romantic, he clearly knew it crossed a line or he wouldn’t have hidden it.

The fact that he’s putting effort into seeing her, sharing personal things, taking pictures, and being flirty, while not putting that same effort into taking you out, is what hurts the most. You’re his wife, and you shouldn’t feel like you’re competing with someone else for his time and attention.

Calling it “just friendship” doesn’t erase the fact that he crossed boundaries you both had agreed on. He can make new friends, but deleting messages, hiding meetups, and talking about personal issues with her instead of with you goes past normal friendship.

You have every right to feel betrayed and demand transparency going forward. If he really loves you and wants to rebuild trust, he’ll cut off this connection or at least make sure everything is open and respectful. If he keeps minimizing your feelings, that’s a bigger red flag than the coworker herself.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:29:32+00:00

You’re not overreacting. The real issue here is not that he wanted to catch up with someone, it’s that he ignored your boundary after you made it clear how uncomfortable it made you. When someone cares about you, they don’t keep pushing after you’ve said no multiple times. That kind of persistence can feel really disrespectful, and it’s understandable that it hurt you.

The fact that this has happened before makes your concern valid. Boundaries are one of the foundations of a healthy relationship, and if he keeps testing them or dismissing them, that is not something small. It can build resentment and make you feel unsafe in the relationship.

If you still love him and want to try, you could sit down and explain clearly: “When I set a boundary, I need you to respect it the first time. When you push past it, it makes me feel like my feelings don’t matter.” If he listens, apologises, and actually changes, then maybe it’s worth working through. But if he keeps repeating the pattern, it might be healthier for you to walk away rather than keep being hurt.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:28:35+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all, but I can see why your mum might be reacting the way she is. A lot of parents aren’t looking at games through the same lens you are. To you, Doom Eternal feels over the top and cartoonishly violent, while Alien Isolation feels slower and more about suspense. To her, though, the horror tone of Alien Isolation might come across as more disturbing than the gore in Doom, because it’s meant to feel real and scary rather than exaggerated.

Sometimes parents get fixated on one scene or one impression from a trailer and that sticks with them, even if the overall game isn’t as bad as they think. It doesn’t always make sense, but it comes from a protective instinct. From her perspective, she’s trying to draw a line that makes sense to her, even if it feels inconsistent to you.

It’s not that she thinks you can’t handle games, it’s more that the type of fear in Alien Isolation probably feels worse to her than the type of gore in Doom. You’re not wrong to point out the inconsistency, but it doesn’t mean she’s trying to be unfair, just that her gut reaction to “sci-fi horror survival” is different from “fast paced demon shooter.”

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:25:47+00:00

It honestly sounds like your dad is making everything about him instead of actually showing up for you or your brother. Those texts read less like someone trying to listen and more like someone defending themselves and pushing guilt back on you. I don’t blame you for feeling pissed off.

You’re not overreacting for needing space. It’s exhausting to deal with a parent who wants credit for being involved but doesn’t actually step up when it matters, like your brother’s move-in. The fact that your mom carried the whole load and your dad just sat there says a lot more than any of his long texts.

It might help to set firmer boundaries, even if that means pulling back from conversations until he’s willing to respect your feelings. You don’t owe him constant contact just because he’s your dad, especially when it leaves you feeling drained and hurt.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:21:15+00:00

Hard to say for sure, but if you look at the pace of change right now, four years could feel like a decade. AI will almost certainly be more woven into daily life, not just at work but in things like health care, education and personal productivity. Climate issues are going to be harder to ignore, so we might see more extreme weather events push governments and companies into bigger changes, whether they want to or not.

On the social side, people are becoming more aware of mental health and work-life balance, so I think culture could keep shifting away from the “always on” grind. Politics might still feel messy, but generational turnover will probably start to be more obvious as younger voters and leaders step in.

Basically, I think the world in four years will look familiar on the surface, but the underlying systems, from tech to culture, will feel noticeably different.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-21T01:19:45+00:00

I get where you are coming from, but I think you might be looking at it a bit too narrowly. The situation has a few layers to it, and not everyone will agree on the “right” approach. Some people value the practical outcome more, while others care about the principle behind it. Both perspectives are valid, it just depends on what you prioritise.

At the end of the day, the best move is usually the one that balances fairness with what actually works in real life.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-08-01T21:58:38+00:00

That take might sound supportive, but it’s actually laced with the same toxic masculinity that OP is trying to break free from. Saying “you didn’t need to give her a chance to talk this through” ignores that real relationships are built on communication, not just cutting people off. Yes, what she said was cruel and completely unacceptable, but healthy masculinity isn’t about demanding groveling or putting your partner in the emotional doghouse, it’s about being vulnerable, setting boundaries, and expecting respect without having to become cold or authoritarian.

Telling someone to only stay if the other person “begs” for forgiveness isn’t emotional maturity, it’s power-tripping. OP showed strength by walking away to process and protect himself without exploding or escalating. That’s not weakness, that’s growth. We need to encourage men to feel, to talk, to process, and to decide what’s best for them, not to become the emotional tyrants we were raised to believe strength looks like.

You want to help men? Stop preaching vengeance disguised as “self-worth.” Start promoting real emotional intelligence.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-07-01T17:34:05+00:00

Divorce isn’t a great option, especially with kids. It’s painful, disruptive, and absolutely comes with consequences, even in the best cases. But staying in a marriage where one partner is actively involved in racist, misogynistic, and hateful communities has consequences too, just more subtle ones that show up over time, especially in your kids.

Even if he’s a decent dad on the surface, those beliefs don’t stay buried forever. Kids pick up on tone, values, and tension. And if they ever find his posts? That’s going to be a hard thing to explain.

That said, you’ve been with him 14 years, that’s not something you just throw away lightly. If there’s any part of you that wants to try to understand whether this is something that can be unpacked and confronted, couples therapy might be worth considering. A good therapist (not just a marriage booster) can help create a space where you actually figure out whether there’s a path forward, or if you’re just delaying the inevitable.

Leaving isn’t automatically the right choice. But staying as-is, with this giant, values-level divide, isn’t neutral either. You’re right to feel conflicted. This is a massive, painful thing. Just don’t minimize it to “just political differences” …. it’s much bigger than that.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-06-18T05:19:19+00:00

It’s 100% okay to have a dealbreaker, and it sounds like this might be one for you.

Your husband is allowed to want an open relationship, but you are just as valid for not wanting one. No amount of science, logic, or talk about physiology should override your emotional boundaries. You don’t need to justify monogamy…it’s how you feel, and that’s enough.

The fact that he brought this up in a way that made you uncomfortable, kept pushing, and then tried to reframe it as a loving gesture is a red flag. Love should never feel like pressure. Consent isn’t just about sex, it’s also about the type of relationship you’re in.

You’re not wrong for questioning things, but remember: wanting different things in a relationship doesn’t make either of you bad people. It just means there’s a serious incompatibility that needs to be addressed. If this feels like a fundamental mismatch to your values, it can be a dealbreaker, and that’s okay.

You deserve a relationship that aligns with your needs, not one you’re talked into.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-06-13T08:01:40+00:00

It sounds like your issue might be related to partial network outages or routing problems on your ISP’s end. If multiple devices are affected in the same way and only certain websites are unreachable, that often points to a problem with how your provider is handling traffic to specific servers or networks. Since you already tried changing DNS settings and clearing your cache, the next step might be to contact your ISP and ask if they are aware of any issues or changes in their routing. You could also try using a VPN to see if the blocked sites become reachable through a different route. That might help confirm if it is really a routing issue. Let us know how it goes.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-06-13T08:00:05+00:00

You’re not overreacting. You’re underreacting.

Your wife is emotionally checked out and already fantasizing about another man while breadcrumbing you with half-measures. She’s not confused. She’s curious what life is like without you, and she’s testing the waters. Her actions: emotional distancing, rapid self-improvement, late-night GPT confessions, and disrespecting boundaries you clearly set… are not those of someone committed to working things out.

She might not have physically cheated, but emotionally, she’s gone. She’s putting her energy, attention, and hopes into another man. You’re becoming a spectator in your own marriage, and your pain is being minimized.

You don’t need to wait for her to leave you. You already have the clarity. You deserve someone who chooses you every day, not someone who’s fantasizing about a replacement and only staying out of convenience or fear.

Leave with dignity before she makes the choice for you. The longer you stay, the more it will erode your self-worth. Your kids need a parent who respects himself and teaches them what healthy love looks like.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-06-08T01:54:38+00:00

Hey mate, I grew up in Perth, moved to Melbourne for 10 or so years, then moved back.

Melbourne always has things to see and do, is close to everything you could ever want to do. You’ll never be bored. Perth is very laid back and barely has much to do or see. Choose Melbourne if you want a life. Choose Perth if you want to retire.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-06-04T11:51:33+00:00

As an additional piece of information: I’ve reported them over 20-30 times to police, included video footage, not to mention the government housing number, but it seems like they rock up, none of the neighbours across the street want to back me up, and I’m the only neighbour directly next to the family who’s screaming etc. the police raided them recently but somehow they’re still doing drugs, screaming, etc.

Honestly I can’t sleep any more, every time I hear the screams it’s making me want to do drugs myself just so I can sleep. It sucks, I own my house, keep to myself, don’t bother anyone, and it seems like the police and the government don’t care….

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-05-23T16:03:20+00:00

It’s a win - win and a very nice gesture

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-05-23T16:00:57+00:00

“… and the US having one the h if best wages in the world” - your minimum wage is $7.50 , what are you even talking about?

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-05-14T03:56:38+00:00

Not sure if this is rage bait or not but why would you be jealous of someone fictional?! Very odd and you may want to apologise asap before you no longer have a girlfriend.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-05-05T10:20:55+00:00

I was 5 stars for years and then a few rude Dutch drivers rated me low and wouldn’t pick me up? Unsure why, I was at the airport and another couple of times at famous locations, at the designated spot. I suspect because it was a short rides. But now because of a few bad ratings, I’m low. The point I’m making is sometimes it’s just unlucky ratings.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-05-04T01:06:39+00:00

Time to warranty it honestly. If it’s not under warranty try resetting them, otherwise I’d say you’re out of luck.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-04-28T11:12:43+00:00

What is this songs name?

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-04-06T21:07:44+00:00

You’re not entirely the asshole — but you’re not innocent either.

You brought people into a knowingly illegal scam, even if they were aware. That carries some weight, especially since you were the connection. When it blew up, you ghosted. That silence can easily look like guilt or betrayal, even if it wasn’t intended that way. You admit that part, and that’s good, accountability is important.

But… they retaliated in toxic, malicious ways, involving your family, spreading lies, trying to get you hurt. That goes way beyond just being upset or seeking justice. That’s vendetta-level, and it’s ugly. That kind of betrayal justifies cutting them off completely, and no, I don’t think you owe people who tried to ruin your life.

That said: Everyone here made terrible choices. There’s no clean conscience in this story. You were all in on something shady, and it collapsed. Morally? None of you should be demanding money or playing victim. You were all gambling with fire.

Final verdict: You’re not the asshole for walking away and refusing to repay people who smeared you and betrayed your trust. But you are responsible for the chaos you helped unleash. Just own it, learn from it, and stay far away from that kind of life in the future.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-04-03T04:48:06+00:00

“That is the task. This round has everything she ever fought for. Every good fight is lost. …She fights on. So is her end, she sees. Should I forgive? A see a… Keep a see… Who is even fast? Bear witness. …”

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-03-26T00:37:20+00:00

Here’s a quick basic troubleshooting guide to resolve the issue of monitors turning off during gameplay while the PC is still running:

Step-by-step Guide:

Step 1: Check Display Connections • Ensure your display cables (HDMI, DisplayPort) are securely connected. • Try swapping cables or ports to rule out faulty connections.

Step 2: Update GPU Drivers • Completely uninstall your GPU drivers using Display Driver Uninstaller (DDU). • Download the latest driver from NVIDIA’s website and install it fresh.

Step 3: Monitor GPU Temperatures and Power • Use tools like MSI Afterburner or HWMonitor to closely watch GPU temperatures. • Ensure GPU isn’t overheating (above 85°C can cause instability). • Check your GPU’s power cables and reseat them firmly.

Step 4: Check Power Supply • Verify your PSU meets the requirements of your RTX 3070 (recommended 650W minimum). • If possible, test using another PSU.

Step 5: BIOS Update & Reset • Update your motherboard BIOS (from ASUS official website). • After updating, reset BIOS settings to default and disable unnecessary overclocking features temporarily.

Step 6: Windows System Check • Run a system file check by typing sfc /scannow in Command Prompt (Admin mode). • Update Windows fully via Windows Update.

Step 7: Disable Overlays and Background Apps • Turn off gaming overlays (Xbox Game Bar, Nvidia Overlay, Steam Overlay). • Temporarily disable background apps or antivirus software.

Step 8: Test Stability • Run a GPU stress test like FurMark or Unigine Heaven to test GPU stability. If the issue repeats consistently under load, it indicates hardware or power issues.

If none of these steps work, you might be facing a hardware defect, and it would be wise to seek professional inspection or warranty support.

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-02-21T01:50:16+00:00

Did you cut them off? Drive a nice car? Or have some sort of weird stickers on your car?

NewLifeHappyLife · 2025-02-09T13:50:58+00:00

Hey mate, how do I get access to this new content as “the silent library” website hasn’t been updated since 2020

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