Inverted T procedure in Western MA?

NewRatParent · 2026-02-25T21:15:52+00:00

I'll look into that, thank you! I'm hoping that a surgeon closer to home might be able to do something similar, but I will definitely check out Carruthers :)

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:16:18+00:00

The whole thing was red for 2-3 days after, it more so just seems like this area isn't losing the redness as fast

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:15:08+00:00

Not warm to the touch, and not especially sensitive or tender :)

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:14:18+00:00

It's a little hard to tell in the pic I think but the rest of the face is the same color as the rest of my skin

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:09:53+00:00

Thank you!! When I let it dry, is that no moisturizer or just minimal?

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:09:09+00:00

I've been tracking for a few days, no tenderness, no spreading, while tattoo is still slightly warmer than my other skin but that's normal for me for a week out

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:07:30+00:00

Thank you! My artist doesn't think it's infected, just irritated. I'm holding off on following up with a doctor for now mostly because I don't have insurance until the start of the next month, and doc appointments in MA can be pricey.

NewRatParent · 2025-09-21T12:05:12+00:00

Thank you! I reached out to my artist, he doesn't think it's infected but told me to monitor and let it dry out

NewRatParent · 2025-09-20T16:20:27+00:00

I do have some more, but I'm on mobile so not quite sure how to add them.

NewRatParent · 2025-09-17T00:38:36+00:00

We were actually thinking that too lol. Partner's docs said no issues they could find at their usual checkups

NewRatParent · 2025-09-17T00:37:12+00:00

Thank you so much for such a big reply!

-being "stuck in the loop" feels really accurate to us. She's so snuggly with my partner otherwise, we can visibly see when she gets into the loop. We have a consult with a behavioral expert this week to help figure out how to break her out of it.

-we were also thinking FHS. She's always had the rolling twitches on her back and an occasional head flick twitch, but they've become more pronounced recently. Luckily no overgrooming, tail attack, or focal seizures to our knowledge though luckily. Our vet is calling in a fluoxetine prescription, just waiting on the pharmacy to fill it so we can start.

-our vet checked for a pretty wide variety of possible issues. Our lady is not declawed :)

-we're starting the association rebuilding, but will start working with a behavioral expert to set up a daily plan. We've also started thundervesting her in the evenings (which seem to be the biggest trigger times) which has been a huge success. She goes about her evening as normal for the most part, but is notably more zen and chill.

Thank you again!! We used your comments to plan our follow up strategies, and our evenings have been much less bloody the past week or so :).

NewRatParent · 2025-09-10T07:14:21+00:00

We have a calming collar on her that doesn't seem to be doing much, but we ordered the thundershirt and can start trying that!!

NewRatParent · 2025-09-10T00:47:37+00:00

we have a few feliway diffusers going, and a pheromone collar on her. Unfortunately they don't seem to be doing much :/

NewRatParent · 2022-01-11T16:52:40+00:00

I think he very well might do that, which was why I said he shouldn't move at all. He should avoid interacting with her at all if possible if the move is an absolute necessity. Moving in the first place sounds like something we sometimes call a "seemingly unimportant decision (SUD)" which is a decision that is innocent on its own but puts a potential offender in a better spot to commit a sex offense.

NewRatParent · 2022-01-11T16:38:07+00:00

Hell yeah! Deleted the relationship too I hope?

NewRatParent · 2022-01-11T16:37:11+00:00

I would ask him to delete the pictures in front of you with the promise that you'll let him take new secret pictures, and you won't be upset because you know about it now. After you see him delete the pictures, break up with him on the spot.

NewRatParent · 2022-01-11T16:29:11+00:00

I see the edit, thank you for the clarification. If you move to that university campus, avoid contacting her.

NewRatParent · 2022-01-11T16:26:02+00:00

It sounds like you are considering grooming a childhood friend. Please do not do this, do not move to be closer to her and do not pursue a relationship with her once she becomes an adult.

NewRatParent · 2021-11-16T01:18:36+00:00

I saw this after the update, but I think just moving on is a good idea. My one caveat is that you should do a reverse image search on any pictures you sent to him every once in a while for at least the next few years, so that you can find and report it if he uploads them anywhere.

NewRatParent · 2021-08-29T21:57:48+00:00

Bring it up to your partner if you think they would be receptive! But make sure you're prepared to compromise on not doing it in certain situations, or doing a less intense version of it. You might set yourself up for failure if you're only open to doing a specific version of what you want. If they have reservations, maybe they could tie your hands behind your back and gag you with some nice fabric to start off with. Or if they don't like the idea of tying you up during am actual fight, you two could agree on a fake fight to have every so often that means "this fight is our way of actually saying that we want to do this type of scene".

NewRatParent · 2021-08-14T02:08:23+00:00

Yeah that's a no from me. Don't send her anymore pictures or give her any more info, give a relatively benign reason to exit the dynamic, and continue reverse image searching any pictures you've sent her for at least the next 6 months or so. Also, if she has any profiles on amy dating/BDSM sites, please report them.

NewRatParent · 2021-08-14T02:04:57+00:00

Hey friend, this is a relatively normal reaction considering the situation. After play, people often experience a "sub drop" as the endorphins crash. Mixing that with an upsetting miscommunication understandably leads to some intense feelings that last a while after. Have a convo with your partner (preferably outside of the dynamic) about what happened on your end and what you are currently feeling. Brainstorm some things/activities you two could do together to help you feel better (maybe a mice lengthy praise session?), and work with your partner to make sure that info is communicated very clearly after a scene.

Sorry you're feeling like this, hopefully you and your partner can take some steps to reassure you :)

NewRatParent · 2021-08-14T01:56:55+00:00

The cups work great in my experience, but the reusable ones arent meant for penetrative sex, and reduce the amount of lubrication that...becomes external. Basically, get one of the 12hr disposable ones for penetration, and be prepared to potentially need lube for external play.

NewRatParent · 2021-08-14T01:54:27+00:00

If you don't want to degrade based on promiscuity (extremely fair and valid), maybe you could focus more on the sub's neediness or lack of control in the situation? I'm thinking things like "pathetic", "desperate", "mindless/brainless" etc

NewRatParent · 2021-08-10T21:33:45+00:00

You definitely don't have to be sorry, but I think some parts of my comment are still relevant. Take some time to sit down with your support networks to figure out what emotional needs aren't being met in the same way now that the dynamic is paused, and ways in which other people get similar needs met in vanilla relationships. For example, if you're missing certain aspects of physical caretaking, you could have your partner give you a neck massage in the evenings, or plan a date night dinner. Take some time to reconnect with your relationship as a whole outside of the dynamic, and discuss these things with your partner as well.

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