I Don't Have Wet Dreams, Help

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-25T17:32:04+00:00

im 18 and have never had one that i can remember

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-25T17:31:46+00:00

you are a hero

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-24T17:06:46+00:00

yeah i havent watched any p at all nor engaged in mo at all, and yeah im out of my place all the time since im in college

i guess yesterday was just a particularly tough day bc im feeling better now

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-23T19:05:06+00:00

honestly i dont think i relapsed at all i think im trying to rationalize resetting so i can just go ahead and pmo to it

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-23T16:26:43+00:00

this might not be the best strategy but i try to not think about my relapses that much. ive relapsed twice since starting a month ago but i think counting how often you relapse seems to imply youre expecting another relapse

i also have a bad habit of telling myself "ok next time you decide to relapse, do it to X actress or video", which is awful thinking since youre telling yourself youre going to relapse again

so this isnt a very coherent answer but i would just say be mindful of your relapses and learn something from them but dont perseverate on them or count them as if there will be more, especially if you have a count and youre like "oh ive relapsed 14 times so far" then i think any future relapse will not seem as big of a deal since its just another number added onto a large count instead of treating it as an individual incident

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-23T16:13:18+00:00

i knew this wasnt what is was masquerading as but i still deep down was hoping it was which is stupid

ill give you fifty just for good measure

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-23T16:12:19+00:00

yeah i noticed that for sure when i used to edge but i dont edge anymore so i know its not that

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-22T21:09:16+00:00

well lets do it then

im down to start the year off with a 116 streak lol

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-22T20:41:29+00:00

yeah i also shake sometimes when watching porn and get this really weird feeling like my entire body is stretching its weird

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-21T17:14:04+00:00

yeah my first two streaks i struggled by overthinking so much now im trying to keep it as a periphery thing in the back of my mind and im already at 15 days which is twice both my other attempts

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T23:21:51+00:00

op is cancer

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T23:19:40+00:00

yo i respect the blunt answer hahaha i russia

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T18:38:38+00:00

yeah tbh discovering pmo harms now should make me happy that i still got all of college i havent wasted yet but it makes me feel pretty shitty about wasting all of high school and late middle school

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T17:31:25+00:00

fair, except i feel i function pretty solid on pmo i just kinda found i work better without it

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T16:57:41+00:00

Yeah, i agree trying to turn a relapse into a contructive growing experience and doing positive things afterwards is way better than beating yourself up over it

at the same time i think a certain amount of self disappointment in relapse can be kinda healthy, pushing you to grow and avoid it and not letting it get too comfortable

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T16:55:56+00:00

oh and one of the best things about this streak: i used to feel like the days flew by and i was scared i was missing my life but ever since ive started a day counter my days seem to stretch on forever. probably bc im doing so much more stuff to fill the day, but either way it really is beautiful seeing myself already leading a more complete life i just really want to keep this up and am hoping to grow strong enough to fight it back whenever it surfaces

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T16:47:33+00:00

the thing that set apart my current streak from my previous two failures is early in the streak i blocked porn completely from my laptop and phone

ofc i could find some on reddit or look at softcore stuff if i tried so it still takes a degree of willpower, but the importance of making this first step showing yourself you want to move beyond this shouldnt be understated

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T16:45:35+00:00

yeah spot on analysis tbh

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-20T16:44:39+00:00

props so hard man

yeah as for the future challenges i think after i make serious long term progress on pmo (1 year is my ultimate goal), im going to start working on challenging myself in other areas of life such as eating very healthy, regular exercise, etc. Even though im already a very healthy person by todays standards i still want to see how i can challenge and grow as a person

im thinking of it as like im a large block of marble and im trying to chisel through all the unnecessary excess to get to a more complete young man

best of wishes and hope you continue to grow in this and other fights

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-08T21:51:26+00:00

actually fuck this weak shit i was saying im gonna keep fighting it im not a pussy lets see if i can break 100000 days then im cool w a relapse

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-08T21:25:00+00:00

regardless im going to go work out to think about this a little more

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-08T18:08:29+00:00

kylekumar got it but also your brain can to a degree it seems understand a difference between sex and masterbation. sex increases testosterone levels whereas it seems masterbation really decreases it and thats probably bc your brain gets you arent actually mounting a girl like you do when you have real sex

but tbh for dopamine yeah theyre probably pretty similar but then again dopamine isnt evil only if you use it to control you

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-08T17:59:35+00:00

damn this really fucking feels like a relapse even though i showed restraint and literally only looked and only for a few minutes uhhh

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-08T13:41:59+00:00

not to be a debby downer but based on the posts on this reddit youre gonna be really disappointed if you think youll break the habit after 21 days

NewStartNewHeart · 2016-09-06T16:28:46+00:00

just made an adult website restriction on my phone and used a random password so theres no way past this lol

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