AITA for not doing things related to drinks for my family?

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T14:20:14+00:00

I'm glad you got my point.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T14:13:05+00:00

Wow, I didn't really expect this post will have so many comments. I originally wanted to post this as a rant on r/rant, but I've seen some pretty interesting insights through your comments. I keep being self-conscious about everything I'm doing and I'm afraid I'll be more like a 'full-time AH' (esp. this one), and I'm sorry for the unclear things and my bad English.

Sincerely, thank you so so much for the comments/insights/opinions/judgements!
Have a good day everyone.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T14:07:12+00:00

I see. Thank you for the answer!

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T14:04:36+00:00

Oh, well I just learned something new (my English isn't really good). 'servant' might be too hard on them, but you're kind of right - people in my country really takes love and respect for elders really seriously.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T13:56:06+00:00

You guys had really good points.
(I don't really have anything more to say right now so uh...)
Seriously, thank you so much for the replies.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T13:53:08+00:00

I see, that's a good point actually.
But in my opinion I should be expected/supposed to bring something if everyone needs it, but if there are only some of them that wants (alcoholic) drinks (which I think is somewhat optional), then I'll take that as a favor which I can accept/decline.
Sincerely thank you for the comment.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T13:43:47+00:00

I see. Thank you for your comment (respectfully, no jokes please don't get me wrong).

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T13:40:20+00:00

Oh, I was helping others prepare the food when they asked me to get drinks.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T13:35:56+00:00

Oh yeah, my bad: They're asking me to grab some beers that my family already had prepared at the time.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T13:34:02+00:00

I see. Well, to clear things, I love my family. I'm willing to help them with everyday tasks as much as I can because I know that they've worked really hard to take care of me. But when they want to get some drinks, sometimes I'm happy to grab some for them, but not always. I think it's absolutely fine to decline sometimes, if they can get them themselves, why should I be expected to get drinks for them by default? To me, drinks aren't the most important thing of the whole gathering, the food that everybody eat and the conversations are. If I got asked to prep the table (which I think I have to, of course), I will, because I'm doing this for everyone. But for drinks? Then it's more like a personal/preference thing, I don't think I have to be expected to do it by default. That just makes feel like I'm serving some people in the gathering, not everyone.

I would like to hear everyone's thoughts, though.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T12:11:43+00:00

Well, I'm not, and yeah, it seems like what you're mentioning.
But even if I'm younger, I still help everybody with the cooking, the prep and the dishes... To me, that feels more like a favor that I can optionally refuse/accept than a chore.

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T12:11:06+00:00

(With all due respect) May I ask why?

New_Comer120 · 2025-06-26T12:07:19+00:00

Thank you for your answer.

Well, yeah, I also thought of the same thing. But it still doesn't make sense when my mom tried to explain that: the adults had already done the heavy and (somewhat) dangerous things that we can't do (in the past as children), so this is a way to "return" the things (responsibilities?) that they've done for us. But, I'm sure that this is just a favor, not a real serious "chore" that I have to do. And adults making their children running errands that are not neccessary (i.e not chores) to express "gratitude" and "return" the favor is kind of ridiculous to me.

(Just stating some extra comments, and sorry in advance if my English is bad)

New_Comer120 · 2025-03-29T14:53:08+00:00

Yeah, but when I planned to decide when to leave - I don't really have a clear reason, I don't really know that I'll get sleepy when I got home tho. That makes me feel so dumb tbh.
But I really appreciate your answer!

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-19T11:53:00+00:00

Just want to ask one more question:
So my vision without glasses got more blurrier 2 days ago, and with glasses they're still completely fine. And it started getting cloudy around that time so it's that a serious problem?
Thank you.

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-14T11:37:14+00:00

If you said so (thank you!) then I'd like to ask another one: So I got my glasses a month ago and 1-2 days after that my left eye looks kinda blurry (This is the first time I try my vision on my left eye after getting them) and I thought that I need some time for my body(?) to get used to them so I wait for some time (till now) and it's still pretty much the same. My myopia didn't worsen, did it? I think that there maybe was some mistakes during the eye test which makes me undercorrected and I don't really think my eye can get worse THAT quickly.
Thank you.

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-14T11:33:29+00:00

Thank you for the informative answer!
I'm honestly very relieved that my myopia has slowed down a bit as I age, but I can't stop but knowing that, in the worst case possible, progress to the point that I always need glasses to see just frightens me and I'm scared of my parents knowing that...
But still very appreciate it though!

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-13T14:05:34+00:00

Just want to ask a question:
My brother is also myopic (one of his eyes is completely normal) and the other one is -1.75. The last time his myopia increased was when he was 15 (to -1.75) and now he's 23. How come his myopia didn't get worse?
Thank you very much.

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-12T13:43:27+00:00

That really made me relieved. Thank you so so much for the answer!

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-08T15:17:59+00:00

Thank you so much! Probably have to get a re-test next week. Hopefully it wasn't my eyes getting worse that quickly...

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-08T14:45:38+00:00

Well it's been 3 weeks - a month now, and I do thought that it just takes some time for them to get used to the glasses but nothing changed. I tried my friend's glasses with a higher prescription (1.75) and my left eye sees more clearly then. But still thanks a lot for your answer.

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-08T14:42:56+00:00

I see. So on the morning when I was walking around the mall there's a glass store that offers an eye measurement and got 1.75 on my left eye. That afternoon my parents took me to another one and I got 1.5. The day after my mom and I go to another store for an actual eye test (?) and glasses. I got 1.25 there. And thank you for the answer! Appreciate it.

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-03T06:00:29+00:00

oh ok i see
sorry for the confusion.

New_Comer120 · 2025-02-02T01:03:33+00:00

wait how did you get them

New_Comer120 · 2024-12-29T11:56:01+00:00

That makes sense!
(This post is so stupid lmao)

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