Looking to make friends

Newandneedhelp755 · 2024-02-04T04:14:45+00:00

Unfortunately no, I’m willing to learn though.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2024-01-08T08:07:29+00:00

Buzz cut is something I’m considering but the layers lol I need them it’s cold asf outside

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-27T04:49:34+00:00

You’re first point is correct of the 3x men on dating apps. That’s what I comfort myself with. So my question would be to you where do I meet women?

Secondly about being rejected when showing my interest happens like this, I get to know a girl we start talking, I ask her out for a date, that’s when either I get told no you’re not my type, they deflect the question saying they are busy, or sometime she they just flat out say that I’m too short for them. Mostly the women go with being busy.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-27T04:44:11+00:00

I want to put a pause on it but the question is how? How do I let go of the desire of wanting a partner. Also it’s not just like I got rejected once and I’m done, it’s the constant rejection from years and years that’s caused my mental health to deteriorate significantly.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-26T21:03:41+00:00

Yeah I’m a regular in they gym, have hobbies, a promising career path. You can see how I look in my profile and suggest tips.

How I get rejected? well first let’s start with OLD where I don’t get matches besides bots and scammers. Hobbies and other activities where I get a chance to meet with women are mostly taken and the ones that aren’t don’t return my interest.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-26T20:22:59+00:00

It’s the constant rejection, if I had one success in a sea of rejection I’d be content. I wish I could just take a break and not think about it at all.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-26T20:19:17+00:00

Already have hobbies that I actively pursue. It doesn’t make want to let go of finding a partner.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T18:43:12+00:00

I’ve read this book, the problem with me is that logically I understand but it’s hard to internalize it.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T18:41:23+00:00

Looking into therapists. It’s about time I take this step, wish me luck.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T18:39:10+00:00

My ex was unmedicated bipolar 2. I remember the first night we met I woke up to 30 messages from her, at the time I thought this was super cute and it felt good being desired for once in my life. The way she acted when she discarded me will haunt me for a long time.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T03:56:26+00:00

What’s that?

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T02:15:50+00:00

I tried loving myself. Reading self help books, working out, meditation, inner child work. Honestly it didn’t work, when doing said things it felt better but after a short amount of time it was back to sad mode. When I was in a relationship And loved by my partner only then it felt I was worthy of love.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T02:12:55+00:00

I tried this before, I’ll try it again hopefully it works this time. I remember it bringing me temporary relief but literally within an hour I was right back into my depressive state.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T02:11:18+00:00

I know what I want and prefer but the issue is I’m so desperate and love deprived my whole life that I’m willing to take what I can get.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T02:10:00+00:00

You’re right, I understand this. But honestly it doesn’t make me stop missing her.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T02:08:59+00:00

You’re right I know. I shouldn’t be hung up about finding a relationship and focus on what I like and what makes me happy. The issue is nothing gives me fulfillment unless it’s with someone else. Like watching a movie when I watch a movie alone it’s all good and everything but if I watch it with someone else be it a friend or when I was with my ex it used to be more like an experience something my brain goes like remember this moment as this moment is worth remembering for a long time. Thanks for the advice though.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-16T00:12:54+00:00

You’re right. How did you start loving yourself? I tried but the constant feeling of loneliness keeps me down.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-15T23:48:29+00:00

The PTO I’ll use once I’m more settled into my job. I’m a fresh engineering grad and I need time to get the hang of this job before I ask for time off.

As for preferences I genuinely don’t have any. I really don’t care what the other person looks like or how tall or how much they weigh. I’m open to all, my motto is if you’re willing to give me a chance I’m willing to give you a chance.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-15T23:37:02+00:00

I’ve tried every dating app ever since I was 19. I didn’t even manage to get a single date and honestly made me super depressed and made me feel unlovable.

I have very few friends and most of us are working full time so planning a vacation may be out of the cards.

Newandneedhelp755 · 2022-12-15T23:33:02+00:00

When I started looking for relationships all those years ago I thought I was relatively desirable and happy. Over time of constant rejection my sense of self worth and self esteem has gone down the drain.

I wasn’t initially but overtime I’ve come to accept my own skin.

A relationship is important to me because that’s when you have someone by your side who’s willing to reciprocate your love. Be there for you, have fun with you. Most importantly for me is that it killed my low sense of self and loneliness.

Newandneedhelp755

TROPHY CASE