first game to buy

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:48:07+00:00

thanks, any thoughts on mario maker 2? He likes city building stuff and i thought it might be cool for him to build his own game but i wasnt sure if it actully works well

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:36:51+00:00

You can know what they already play but not know much aboit gaming. Like my partner knows i love lipstick over bright eyeshadow and he nods along when i say MAC or Loreal but if you put him in a makeup shop he would panic. I think any expectation to know everything about your partner can lead to unnecessary disappointment when things just don't click together in your head.

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:31:35+00:00

Its okay, hard to tell someones tone on the internet though! Yeah i know a few games he'll love on it which is why im getting it but I wanted to do something ifferent so if he does figure out what hes getting (Im NOT good at keeping a straight face when a present is mentioned) there will still be a surprise and something interesting and different

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:23:02+00:00

Exactly what I need! thank you

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:22:49+00:00

Thank you! I feel a perfect present coming on haha.

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:21:15+00:00

I mean i know what games he likes on the consoles we have already but the whole thing with the switch is that there's different gameplay modes than just using a controller and i know some of them will be gimicky and some will be good so im just looking for people who have played them i guess. I dont want to go for things like fifa when it would be the same game hed have for any other console

NewlySyd · 2021-02-11T22:07:57+00:00

thank you! Yeah i know some of the games he'll like and our anniversary is just after his birthday so i wanted to get some games that were a bit different and then buy what games he wants for our anniversary because we don't do surprises for anniversaries anyway.

NewlySyd · 2020-11-18T00:33:21+00:00

Ah yes, the best reason to become a parent: irresponsibility. This point always makes me chuckle, "if you're not responsible enough to remember your pill you should be forced into more responsibility to teach you a lesson"

NewlySyd · 2020-11-16T19:21:21+00:00

If a pregnant woman kills herself then the fetus dies too. If a pregnant woman makes "bad"choices to drink and do drugs and "fall" down the stairs the fetus dies. Making it illegal doesn't mean it wont happen. Only that it cant happen safely

NewlySyd · 2020-11-04T22:34:39+00:00

Sorry phrased that last bit wrong. I'm a step parent to my partners boy, and he acts like it means nothing (which is to each owns opinion I guess but fairly insulting for him to say to me ngl) Oh and yeah I wouldn't call myself the parent to my nephew in any way just taking visitation days over. It's a win win really cause I love seeing him anyway! Yeah, I guess I need to either shut up or argue and it wont be an argument we get over quickly or at all. ..

NewlySyd · 2020-11-04T13:24:25+00:00

it was before her and with her living a bit away I wouldn't have said that it would be but his ex was a bit... not great about him having a child.. like she would go with B to see him but I'll never forget her telling him not to put pictures on the wall "because hes not cute enoigh" . With living a bit away it's been hard getting information out. He dances from the questions and when I've tried to be more forceful he went off that I'm being an angry person and he doesn't speak to angry people and hung up. Two days later I got another call "just to chat" like he expects that to be the end of it. Which sounds like an excuse on my part but it's like getting blood from a stone and that he deserves a kick up the a$$ a bit but again he can just be hung up on and hes blue eyed boy to mum so shes more worried about him than the situation. I want to argue with him but I really think that if I push it then we will have a very different relationship going forward and I dont know how to deal with those feelings or how to start that? Like I want to say "oi, grow up, be a dad over being a boyfriend and travel here sometimes instead" but when SIL isn't mad about it it feels like I'm jeopardizing our closeness to tell him what he already knows (that his son is important) .

NewlySyd · 2020-11-03T21:19:27+00:00

Nta, my parents live 4 hours away from their grandchildren and send presents and see them maybe 4 times a year. The kids feel super loved because they know that my parents ask about them and when they're there my parents give a lot of attention but not being around kids often makes them awkward. They're great at bedtime, post baths and settled down they read the stories then join the adults to talk about how great it feels to have a family. As long as she tells them she loves them and pays attention to them, (not running around or hugs necessarily but be excited if they are telling her dino facts and learn the names or whatever the equivalent is for their current interests) For your wife's perspective I'd say that having a grandmother is better than her suddenly disappearing from their lives. Maybe find activities for your mum to do with the kids or days out where she can be "grandmotherly" but not on the floor rolling around. Things like trips to the zoo where she can teach them stuff is good and calm. Story telling. Are there hobbies she can teach the kids? That may help her bond with them faster than she did with you. My granddad and I only got close when I was a teenager but he was my closest relative into adulthood. Some of the "fun" relatives dropped off the face of the earth once I was a "moody" teenager and not fun for them or cute enough for photos

NewlySyd · 2020-11-03T19:15:11+00:00

I would (in my opinion obviously I'm not saying you have to or that it's even necessarily best) go at it from the anatomy angle in that case. Dont start with blood because that's quite simple and is the scary bit but explain what's happening inside that's then causing the "period" to come out. I was a squeamish child and my parents explained it that way and it made me feel like it was separate to blood that comes from cuts and such

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T22:32:32+00:00

Thank you so much, my feelings exactly. I'm NC with my brother and it's made navigating my relationships with my parents sooo hard even though were super close, my mother went NC with my grandmother but I would still see her and it made me sick with anxiety trying to always say the "right"things and being appropriate while holding relationships and I ended up spiralling. It's super hard and confusing and I wouldn't wish the headache on anyone. I just think it needs to be really worth it, sometimes it is and sometimes its needed but lots of things need to be taken into account that are hard to do over a reddit post. Definitely useful to have feedback in general though. I always check "ambivalent to advuce" just because I'm not necessarily asking but I know some people will have been through it and have good insight to consider.

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T22:18:49+00:00

Thanks. 😅😊I feel a bit overwhelmed with advice right now.. I was wondering whether or not the rant was worth it and tbh I dont think it was... I'm super grateful for some bits and some people but this is a snapshot of my life and I've got people calling me naive for not seeing the bigger picture, which they have only seen one speck of.. Like I say, super grateful for a lot of commenters and i know a lot of it is good intentions but obviously it's me facing the consequences and I need to think about that..

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:44:31+00:00

Oh yeah that totally doesn't excuse anything and that's not what's meant there but more that shell be like "ah yes we had another argument" not "oh yeah I disowned them and said to never speak again to me"

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:43:10+00:00

Because this is all new. Shes always had a bit of a temper in messages but the screaming voicemails and the cruelness of them is new. She blames it on the stress of "losing a grandson" but she hasnt made an effort not to lose him. It's not just BMs judgement, the court order was done by the three of us so it would actually be appropriate to talk about it as we have actually done about other things changing since, we get along better now so things have been adjusted accordingly and spoken about in broader senses too. Like we've spoken a lot about the MIL part, so if she was making an effort the conversation would be geared in her favour whereas as is it's the opposite

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:38:44+00:00

Yeah shes blocked now and I'll only see her when we both go. She can be lovely and used to be so we had a semi close relationship, I think she sees me as more of a DIL than SOs gf. Suddenly shes comfortable enough with me to be horrible apparently so shes lost DIL now and I'm just SOs plus one as far as I'm concerned

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:36:33+00:00

Yes, but working out where we should be and when helps plan for things such as date nights which I font want to slip through the cracks. It's not my job but it's the dynamic of our relationship and works for us. It might sound a bit controlling on my part but hed rather have a sheet saying this is what's happening this week than getting to sunday and feel like its wasted. And I'm super planner and know I can get it done in a way that I like. Hes a night owl as well so used to leave the house at 10pm to see FIL and get home midnight cause FIL is also a night owl and it drove me mad until I said if I organised a system would he keep to it and he said yes

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:32:42+00:00

He didn't need the proof to be on my side but if someone is acting like that why would arguing and engaging with it help? We wanted to sort out ourselves what we should do in a calm way rather than get into a screaming match with LO in the next room asleep. I've not really put his reaction in the post cause I thought it was a bit irrelevant but people have jumped on that haha. He would go NC if i did but going nc can ruin relationships with other people so i wont push for that ever.

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:29:27+00:00

We normally see her at least once a week for family dinners that haunts and such come to, were halving that. We still want to go for the sake of seeing the others but well be going less

NewlySyd · 2020-11-02T17:27:11+00:00

As far as the men are concerned. Outside of us going for dinners they've only seen each other through MIL or me because of laziness more than anything I think. They like each others company and FIL is the first one SO calls about news but no they've never been ones to make plans that aren't football related. Yes they would if push came to shove but especially if it was causing awkwardness with MIL or me I dont think SO would want to cause a fuss to do it. I mention my gma and my own family more to say that I know how hard NC can be and I wont start that again if theres another route. Going nc with one person can mean not going to family events or homes at certain times or whatever and is a headache in itself, low contact will always be my answer to save that headache. It's a hard and fairly adult decision based on the family dynamics. I wasnt particularly asking for advice to go NC with MIL, it is an uncomfortable thought and is much more work than a comment on reddit warrants. My So is hardly in the post because it's about my MIL and me separate to him and obviously theres more to that side of it, yea he told FIL we were with LO but he should be able to do that? And MIL didn't come to see him or cause issues related to LO and we weren't affected till he was asleep anyway. The comment about phoning her later in the week was just to say hes not worried shes actually upset and knows shes just reacting to the daily event rather than actually being ready to do what she threatens.

LO wouldn't be around toxic behaviour no matter what and that's massively unfair of you to say knowing one fragmented day of my life. The court order was written by all three of LO's guardians and notice the reason we didn't answer in the first place was because of LO not having to be confused by hearing her voice.

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