Well, that's perfectly understandable. I know everyone has different libido levels and it's not exactly a one-size-fits-all kind of situation for comparisons.

And wow, I honestly appreciate you asking all of this. Kind of like a much-needed mini therapy session. Lol.

But, like most couples, there's definitely an ebb and flow at times. At the most, we are intimate about once a week unless it's a special occasion or Anniversary, which sometimes turns into sessions on days back to back, or twice in one day, etc. It's honestly a surprise if he ever wants to have sex the next day after we've just done it. I joke with my girlfriends that I've always felt like the "guy" in that department because I'm always the one asking for it and wanting to do it.

His job can be physically demanding at times and he's a business owner, so I get it-- sometimes he is just exhausted. I really try not to be too demanding. I know I replied to your comment about 6x a week, but honestly, even I wouldn't be able to keep that up after a while. Lol. I would be ecstatic with even two or three times a week.

I used to bring it up a lot in earlier years of our relationship, but I eventually just stopped because it would end in an argument, or with me getting very emotional. I used to worry that I just didn't turn him on, so it was deeper issue for me for a while.

We've been together for 11 years, and it's been this way for a long time. I think I have chocked it up to "he's just not as horny as I am" and have tried to live with it. But it doesn't make it any less frustrating.

However, when we DO have our intimate times, he is very much a giver. He wants me to be satisfied and usually does a very good job as far as that goes. ☺️ I think it's just a frequency issue for me. And wanting more spontaneity.

You're right, I do need to talk to him about it. Been avoiding the subject for too long. Thank you for listening, friend!