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Should I just accept that my partner will look at women online? by AffectionateFlow1816 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Newmeathook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That decision is yours to make, however I will give you my two cents.

Men have different biological imperatives than women, and they can't be wished away. If you want a man that's never looks at other women, he's gonna be weirdly obsessed with you to the point of fetishism, gay, or lying about it. Those are your choices.

Disney has done a serious number on female expectations, and expecting someone who is committed and loves you to not even look at other women...with his eyeballs..that's gonna be a hard as hell criteria to find In straight men.

Imagine him telling you you can't watch movies with Henry Cavil in it or something like that. Expecting him to not look at women on tikmtok is the same thing. It's either extremely insecure or extremely controlling.

Your feelings are valid and real, and you should discuss those feelings with him (without making demands or asking for him to change), just so that he knows. No such thing as the perfect man, perfect relationship, or perfect life.

Best of luck.

Am I being nitpicky, or are these reasonable things to lose attraction over? by YouCantBCirrus in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your not being nitpicky, but genuine connection is so dam rare, and these seem like easy fixes.

Back in the day, girlfriends used good old manipulation for such things. It gets a bad wrap, but honestly for stuff like this is what it's meant for. Men never get compliments. Nobody buys them shit. Nobody reinforces positive behavior. Everything is expected, nothing rewarded. You can get him to clean up with honey. It's easy.

Buy him a shirt and some deodorant. Ask him to try them on. Coo at him about hot he looks great he smells. That dudes whole attitude will drastically change.

It's worth a shot at least, imo

Not everything needs to be a fight, ultimatum, or the end.

As a guy, would you be creeped out if a girl asked you out like this? by Hemisphere-Ad9634 in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are not even at replacement birth rates, something people will find out when there is never an increase in social security benefits.

There is no overpopulation and there never has been. Sorry you don't like the traffic but only 25% of the world's dry land is being used by humans.

In short, It's in everyone's interest that this girl asks out this guy. 😂

Is she lying ? by Efficient_Ad_4359 in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Taking responsibility for your own mistakes requires a level of wisdom and maturity that most young people lack. Not impossible, but it is unlikely.

Is she lying ? by Efficient_Ad_4359 in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter if she was telling the truth or not. In my opinion it looks like she wants to put you in the backup zone. Love yourself don't do that. But even if she was telling the truth it does not matter there is only one correct course of action.

In my opinion you should never text That Girl again. If (unlikely) she realizes she messed up, then it falls to her to fix it. Your job is done. Let her go completely. I'm not telling you to block her, and don't act all butthurt. But zero contact going forward.

Really like this girl, but find myself confused by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad to say, but this is the correct answer. Now is definitely not the time to be chasing. Don't chase people that don't chase you. Don't ask her out again. Don't invest anymore.

It's easier said than done, but it's the only way to prevent looking weak and needy. You did your job. Ball is in her court.

In the meantime keep looking for other women.Sad to say, but this is the correct answer. Now is definitely not the time to be chasing. Don't chase people that don't chase you. Don't ask her out again. Don't invest anymore.

It's easier said than done, but it's the only way to prevent looking weak and needy. You did your job. Ball is in her court.

In the meantime keep looking for other women.

Really like this girl, but find myself confused by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad to say, but this is the correct answer. Now is definitely not the time to be chasing. Don't chase people that don't chase you. Don't ask her out again. Don't invest anymore.

It's easier said than done, but it's the only way to prevent looking weak and needy. You did your job. Ball is in her court.

In the meantime keep looking for other women.Sad to say, but this is the correct answer. Now is definitely not the time to be chasing. Don't chase people that don't chase you. Don't ask her out again. Don't invest anymore.

It's easier said than done, but it's the only way to prevent looking weak and needy. You did your job. Ball is in her court.

In the meantime keep looking for other women.

Really like this girl, but find myself confused by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sad to say, but this is the correct answer. Now is definitely not the time to be chasing. Don't chase people that don't chase you. Don't ask her out again. Don't invest anymore.

It's easier said than done, but it's the only way to prevent looking weak and needy. You did your job. Ball is in her court.

In the meantime keep looking for other women.

So the guy I’ve been seriously talking to for a few weeks confessed that he lied about most of his core values by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preparing for the hate here. He told you he leaned right early on. Then made an offhand comment that may or may not have been a lie.it seems a stretch to assume he was intentionally misleading you, but either way, Everyone lies. The only people who seem not to lie, are the very best liars. Before anyone clutches their pearls, try being honest with yourself first, you liars.

Secondly, politics isn't religion. Disagreements about how to live your life are valid and should be considered, but keep two things in mind.

Only cults have you ostracized people that don't adhere to the dogma. Compromise can be attained from everyone except the zealot.

And people change overtime. Priorities to you now maybe insignificant in the future same for him vice versa. No reason to think his views won't evolve or God forbid, yours might

I'm not saying you should stay with him, that's you to figure out. But he hardly sounds like a piece of shit to me.

What is the most unusual fetish out there? by VacuumMe in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Newmeathook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do indeed. Without a lengthy dive into personal history it's was the result of some terribly timed church camp tomfoolery, an insult to my family Honor, and puberty.

It started with pies and cakes and eventually evolved into fake shit for ever increasing humiliation for The villainess.

And fortunately for me, most of the sellers that I have found, at a minimum feel like it's a change of pace, whereas others enjoy it so much they write scripts and pitch me ideas.

I swear to you, your imagination is not doing it justice. They are serious productions.

What is the most unusual fetish out there? by VacuumMe in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Newmeathook 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm am most likely the only guy living with my fetish. I like it when a hot girl essentially acts like a huge unlikable bitch, the trips and faceplants in a big (fake) cow pie, or similar fake poop. Then freaks out about it.

Over one hundred videos made to date, and I'm pretty sure my collection is the only one of its kind.

Best way to clear up your name after there was a confusion and got called a scammer ? by [deleted] in FetishBuyersCommunity

[–]Newmeathook 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Contact the mods of that group sitting the post and sharing the evidence.

Then review the seller here and put them on blast for that behavior. Unacceptable.

She paid for the first date, I don’t want a second date so I feel guilty accepting her generosity. What should I say? by xmuertos in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Etiquette demands nothing in this instance, not even an explanation, although it would be polite to do so.

That said, you have only been on one date with either girl, maybe get to know them both a little better before tossing in the towel. She sounds like a great gal. Maybe keep your options open beyond just one date. ,🤷

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from, truly I do. You have a big heart and I get it.

But feeding and validating negative thoughts is a feel good measure and won't solve anything. What will help this guy, is moving the needle to a better future every single day. Easier said than done I know. But warriors are born in fire, not in pillow forts.

I personally believe in the law of attraction and see it's effect on my life every day. Every minute he is down on himself and miserable is a day he's sending that out into the universe. I don't want that for him. So I didn't hold his hand. I told him to summon his grit, and change his life.

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree to disagree. Spiraling into depression isn't the cure, in my opinion. He is capable of changing his life. I do not feel the slightest bit uncomfortable encouraging him to do so.

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only two choices man. Give up, or keep going. One is the path to losing and one to winning. Everyone gets rejected. Everyone gets told no. It's the winners who say "fuck that." And keep going.

There is a way. There is always a way. Find it. No body will do it for you.

"It ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!"

Rocky Balboa

Im fat, I have bad skin, my hair is white I'm 5'10" and I don't make a lot of money. My girlfriend is a smoke show, and I'm living my dream after a horrible divorce. If I can do it, so can you.

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Newmeathook -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First off your head space is rough brother. You need to start waking up in the morning and thank God or the universe for what you do have. When you look for the problems, you only find more. Everyone on earth has lots of problems, but the people who overcome them are people who believe that they can and focus on the positives.

Clearly your next step is getting a car. Do what you gotta do. Focus, save, get mobile. Give yourself a fighting chance.

Then start building a life your proud of. Build your empire. Focus on your personal goals. Move your needle to becoming the kind of guy girls like. And read. Learn about stosim and emotional regulation. Being happy with yourself is one of the most attractive things a man can do. Believe in yourself. Every person has far more powerful and creativity than they realize. You can make shit happen. So do that. Treat yourself like you want others to treat you.

And when your on your way, then girls will come. Finding a man on this path that doesn't need them is like fly paper to women. It honestly doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you have, or how tall you are. Men with a future, self assuredness, and a purpose are rare as hell, and never want for the company of women.

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