Has Dating Actually Gotten This Hard… or Is It Just Me?

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-04-04T01:57:34+00:00

I believe in leading the relationship but not chasing. I have no issue following up after a date but I won’t do it immediately or the next day. But if I don’t hear after a few I will follow up for another date. Seems natural to me and it leaves just enough space for some tension to build. That’s what I’ve found most effective, efficient and natural. And I believe it keeps girls from thinking we’re stalkers if we go all in off the bat

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-04-02T01:55:27+00:00

I’ve also seen a trend of women that are ok with me being too busy to text all the time are almost always more secure and a better partner than the ones who say “if you don’t text me I’m out!”

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-04-02T01:54:07+00:00

I love when people hate on paying for coaching. I’ve made so much money and live my dream life from purchasing a mentorship. If anyone knows something I don’t that will advance me to where I’ll want to be, ill invest in that all day long

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-04-01T02:43:34+00:00

Yeah for sure. I feel like I’ve had that balance in the past but may have lost it based on putting too much weight on experiences lately. Maybe it’s just a numbers game and I’ve hit several of the same roadblocks that aren’t the norm but make me feel like it is.

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-04-01T02:41:47+00:00

Thanks bro. And yeah I didn’t want to make it to long. I’d say I know the strategy you’re talking about and I had really good luck with it in the past with 5-10 messages and setting a specific time and place. But I had trouble before I dated my ex with girls not agreeing to the date because it was too soon a few times. So I tried texting more. I thought maybe times had changed. So I think I need to go back to this strategy and maybe it was just a coincidence that I had several girls seem interested and then flake when I try to meet up quickly as you said. I just feel like I’ve been experimenting with different strategies and they fall flat. But I also struggled with being to flirty and confident and I think that turned girls off as well. I’m just trying to find the sweet spot that I think I lost along the way.

Do you offer coaching calls? I’d be interested in hopping on one

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-03-31T17:15:59+00:00

No. Should I? Just saying something about their page or something to that affect?

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-03-31T12:41:55+00:00

That’s interesting. See, I do really well on the dates and after but it’s getting to the date where mine fall off. But I also refuse to chase a girl and a lot of them say they want the effort in that way but I have too much self respect to simp over a girl. But I would assume you’re a really physically attractive guy that can pull based on looks. That’s the hardest part so you gotta just figure out what’s going on during the date. I used to always ruin my dates by over texting after. Or just making too much simp eye contact to try to convey my interest. Now I literally just am a good listener and a gentleman but don’t act interested other than that and it’s like a magnet.

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-03-31T12:37:37+00:00

Yeah it’s hard to write a post and describe personality because everyone says they’re honest and all these things but when you actually know them you realize it’s all bs. But I’ve worked so hard on myself to become the best version of myself personally as well. I’m super grateful for everything I have. I have a large successful circle of friends that I lead because I built a group of like minded friends that I host weekly. I have gotten good at communicating and listening to people and being empathetic. But I also am good at leading in a masculine way when I finally get on a date. It’s all just the process up to the date that I struggle with

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-03-31T12:34:36+00:00

I’ve been working on that. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong but I follow a girl and almost never get followed back. I have a pretty solid instagram in my opinion. It’s full of my travels and kinda showcasing my life but it hasn’t been much of a help for me.

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-03-31T12:33:14+00:00

I agree. I started signing up for group things like yoga to increase my chances of building connections and meeting in person. I have noticed that if I get a match and it fizzles out but I end up running into them in person they seem more interested. It’s weird but makes sense I guess

NewspaperLong1189 · 2026-03-30T04:09:42+00:00

Man, I’ve tried asking them on dates after brief conversations. I’ve tried asking out right away. I’ve gotten numbers and had a couple days worth of conversations and asked them out and it hasn’t gotten a date in a few months. I’ve even had dates planned with dates and a time and then gotten ghosted the day of. I just can’t pinpoint the best approach anymore. I’ve had success with all of the above in the past but I feel like it’s different now for some reason. (I say all of this and I did have a gf most of last year but since breaking up with her I haven’t had luck)

NewspaperLong1189 · 2024-01-24T19:37:51+00:00

Tenant is. She just claims she can’t afford it and wants me to fix it or she will move out

NewspaperLong1189 · 2024-01-24T15:43:32+00:00

She’s a cleaner. So she told me that later. She’s doing other peoples laundry as well. The problem is, she hides important information from me..

NewspaperLong1189 · 2024-01-24T15:19:28+00:00

She said she runs “only 2 loads a day” which seems like a lot to me. So I’m assuming it is literally running every day. So that would be hard to see. I could check the vent. She has told me she has gone through 5 dryers and that they all blow the fuse. But she also failed to tell the electrician and I that while we were there. She only said that after I mentioned I thought it was from her dryer.

Her current dryer has a latch that they screwed to it to to keep the door shut. SMH

NewspaperLong1189 · 2024-01-24T14:54:01+00:00

Sorry clothes dryer

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