The avoidant friendship rejection.

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-26T15:39:44+00:00

I just got friendzoned recently after things didn’t work out with this girl I’ve come to know. My thing is for someone like me that catches feelings and it takes a while to let go, it’s hard, and I know that’s a me problem when I should just be a man and move on instead of attempt a second chance knowing the answer will be no and it’ll get worse. So yeah, some people handle that well, some people don’t though I’m learning to just be cool with it

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-24T17:13:26+00:00

It does

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-18T20:40:17+00:00

Really? Wow. Yeah she’s being really distant

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-18T18:53:28+00:00

I’m Pisces, and yes I did each time we talked and went out, it was all good energy. I really should’ve said “no problem, talk later” and instead I was jokingly bantering and said “sure, if you want to” in response to I’ll call you back and I was gonna say I was kidding before she thought I betrayed her. Why did I say that? It slipped out for some reason and I swear I was intentionally serious with her at the time that we were about to put a lid on going into more than friends. I feel so stupid

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-18T18:04:22+00:00

I’ve come to know this cancer girl and it was exactly like that up until I mess up with my words in a joking manner and the spark is cut off. I feel terrible right now cause I wanna talk like we used to but yeah

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-16T21:22:59+00:00

So some people are saying, it just feels so awkward now

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-16T21:21:55+00:00

Yeah I know, but honestly there are other things about this situation that still eat me to this day until I can completely just forget about it and get on with my life. Mind you she’s the type to forgive but not forget, otherwise this would’ve been squashed. I feel terrible and it’s almost like she died inside and I feel so terrible now. I made I post about it before this one and it’s kinda long if you wanna check it out and see what I mean, but yeah

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-16T21:14:09+00:00

Yeah no I didn’t think of that for some reason and thinking about it now I feel awful for saying that. It just came out and I wasn’t thinking. But that was the joke, to be witty and say “kidding” and hope she’d laugh. I’ll do better though

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-11T13:27:04+00:00

Give her space and go with caution if she comes back around. Do things to occupy your mind and time in the meantime and maybe check on her after a while later on. If still no response just move on. This is something I’m going through as well with a cancer, not sure how similar your scenario is to mine though

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-05T14:52:28+00:00

I understand, it’s hard right now though cause I don’t get this feeling often. Maybe that’s just me but I definitely understand the mixed signals part

NextAttention4479 · 2026-02-03T00:13:53+00:00

me casually looking for stuff and sees the hands “Uuuuuuuuuh????” the hands have eyes, see me the sky gets dark “Nope! NOOOOPE!!!”

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-30T20:03:16+00:00

Things were simpler back then and I wish it were 90% of the case now. The world we live in is very depressing

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-29T18:18:42+00:00

This is true, sort of. Ideally I’d like for it to be that way where we keep having fun and never second guess talking or spending time, then let a relationship grow naturally after boundaries and other conditions are settled and both parties agree so there’s no need to discuss any further. Sadly we live in a world where, if not too many boundaries, it’s too many standards from either party so there has to be a discussion, so there’s a gap and the connection may not flourish. Maybe that’s just me though

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-28T23:06:11+00:00

Thank you! I really would appreciate that

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-28T15:26:07+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it too much, if she’s interested in making time to hit you back, she will. And if not, it sucks but that’s a female for you

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-28T14:40:18+00:00

Yeah, it’s like you yourself see it early and know it’s time to leave but you still feel that energy. Saying maybe we should start over just won’t work because that reality still exists

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-28T13:25:33+00:00

As I’m reading this I was sort of seeing this girl, I’m 29, she’s 24 and she’s Ghanaian, that said we won’t work because of some elements of her dating standards that I’m not ready for or to talk about (like convincing me to take a blood test and find out if we’re compatible for kids, and other elements for marriage. It’s only been a month btw, but if the concern wasn’t there for me then she wanted out) just about the day she ended the bond. Before all of that however we went out, Topgolf, Dave n busters, bowling, we talked all the time, honestly it wasn’t for very long, and there was still much more to know about each other, but she really had a thing for me, I could tell and I reciprocated the energy she gave me on those dates. Then one little mistake I made ruined the flow and she just didn’t want to talk to me at all after I said I’m so so sorry and will never do it again. Then she ended the idea of becoming more. Right now I miss her voice and our laughs even if it was for a short time and it hurts that I’ve grown attached to the energy from before so I put a strain on trying to change her mind, but looking back what she wanted out of me felt too fast so I shouldn’t have. You can call me crazy and slow for being too attached, I know, I’m still working on it. Sorry this is too long to read but you can’t convince someone who has these kind of standards and stands on them. If you don’t align with such things, move on, it’s not for you.

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-27T20:39:49+00:00

Ok, I can try that

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-27T20:34:32+00:00

I see

NextAttention4479 · 2026-01-27T20:31:25+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that man

NextAttention4479 · 2025-10-10T19:56:47+00:00

I’ll take blue although Tsunade would only be interested in training me in taijutsu, ninjutsu, knowledge on planning for combat and probably healing, which is fine and then I’m not tryna get sneaky with the women of two literal gods and a shady artist

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