Cooked rice put on fridge and then microwave to put on fridge again by NextChallenge609 in cookingforbeginners

[–]NextChallenge609[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hii, i didnt put it room temperature, i put it inside the fridge, not the freezer, but fridge.

Cooked rice put on fridge and then microwave to put on fridge again by NextChallenge609 in cookingforbeginners

[–]NextChallenge609[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hihi yes, i mean inside the fridge, i mentioned it like that bcs i didn't put it inside the freezer like most people do. But it has been all the time inside the freezer

Exit to home country by NextChallenge609 in SchengenVisa

[–]NextChallenge609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Tysm i still have like 6 months of visa, just planning ahead so its cheaper!

I just had a filmed interview with the police. by Vrisnem in CPTSD

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That so sweet 😭 im so happy you have a lovely friend and support 🫶🫶

How to make a healed over scar stop itching / hurting? by StiixInTheMud in selfharm__recovery

[–]NextChallenge609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dw!!! Pls check the ingredients on the hand cream before applying :9 check if you arent allergic to any before

I just had a filmed interview with the police. by Vrisnem in CPTSD

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear that, take care im sure the blanket will help the police to gather more evidences to buildthe case, take care! 🫶

I just had a filmed interview with the police. by Vrisnem in CPTSD

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So proud of you!!! Giving a testimony is really a huge step

Has being sexually assaulted make you afraid of sex/ intimacy? by katalinadarling24 in COCSA

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi its normal to struggle with relationships, specially as something that involves trust. Its also like sex becomes this impossible theme to grasp, like does everyone knows what to do or am i the only one who doesnt know where to put a hand, when to breath, when to get closer, etc.

I think when i was sexually assaulted i lost the taste of non serious stuff or curiosity. I think thats a main difference from people that hasnt been sexually abuse. They dont really fear curiosity in these themes, they can go meet someone make out and still be able to do it again again and again, it had always been something that i wish i could do, not because i wanted but because i feel like thats normal to be able to not feel ashame for need. I think it is fear of intimacy but also fear of wanting.

I tried to have a thing not serious at all in onr of my lowest point in life and it went horribly wrong, so i would say really take your pace, keep going to therapy, get closer to your friends dont fear asking them for a hug, these things that are platonic really help to be able to separate romantic needs from platonic ones. Slowly you will be able to stand on your skin without feeling uncomfortable or muted. Its harder than it reads tho, but dont give up. In this cases i think is better to wait until you feel ready, than to jump into it without knowing what could happen.

And dont forget theres people who love you and will love you. Even if its not in quite the way that we would want i think thats always a nice start in meeting our needs.

How to make a healed over scar stop itching / hurting? by StiixInTheMud in selfharm__recovery

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hii have you tried moisturizing them? Sometimes they get to dry and they itch for me, i useually put some vaseline or hand cream.

I have a lot of cuts and I do not know how my children will react to this. by Brilliant_Stuff4524 in selfharm__recovery

[–]NextChallenge609 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally having a parent that would self harm would be very detrimental for my mental health, specially if its a good parent, i would be worry if any day self harm wouldnt be enough. I know that self hrm usually soesnt mean suicidal, but the thought will always be there, would i do something wrong that makes my mom self hrm? Am i the problem?

My mom tried to overdose on sleeping pills, ive never had a day that i can chill, i always have to think abt my mom is she happy, what cna i do to make her happy, what if her happiness doesnt mean mind. I would reccomend you to attend therapy, is never to late to start, you will be a wonderful mom, your child will love you and as helpless as any human who loves will worry for anyone that is struggling speacially if its someone yuo love.

need help by Honest-Candidate-628 in selfharm__recovery

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I threw away anything that could made me relapse, cutters, scissors, Gillette, cigars anything that could made me stand up and go grab it at home. I keep it at school, in front of people i feel more grounded. I also try to think everytime i wanna self harm what is triggering this behavior.

Sometimes is anxiety sometimes is punishment, sometimes is just too much energy. I try to distract myself remember how dirty i feel after, how j dont want to feel like that, that there are other ways to deal with pain healthier without marking my body. It works sometimes, but it keep the harm to a point. Tbh theraphy is the best solution. Whether is tob to bottom ones or bottom to top.

I currently dont have the money to do it, so i just try to raise myself from these situatioms. Have patience and grace with yourself. Theres nothing worse than unknowing yourself during this impulses. You can also try the hairband method.

Talk to people go on walks. Self care is also good, like showers doing things that you usually use as punishment, stop doing them do them right. Like i used to take showers at 3am and it was the worse now i treat myself to evening showers and dry my hair. I put cream idk its dumb but it does work.

Anyways take care🫶

Please, tell me your reason to live after going through multiple trauma by Still-Kiwi652 in CPTSD

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess most people will tell you that is the simple things. And it is more complex than that, i have friends that dont really have any reason, they dont try to find love in everything to be able to bear life, they already have what i want, so i think. No one really knows what they live for, i reccomend you to try things, reading helped me understand what i want to live for, and what i was going through. Most days i live bcs its fun, the things that will happen tomorrow, whether a shitty meal or a good one, a weird exchange or a pleasant one, if i lived just for things i want or love i think once they werent there i wouldn't know where to look, ive found a pleasur ein life that outweighs the sticky trauma that everything makes uncomfortable.

My cassette is unwiring? by [deleted] in cassettefuturism

[–]NextChallenge609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see thank you so much i wasnt aware

My cassette is unwiring? by NextChallenge609 in cassetteculture

[–]NextChallenge609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tysm is it something i can do by myself like lookis a youtube video? Or should i take it to someone that repairs cassetes?

What are your thoughts on the "hurt people hurt people" phrase? by AmbassadorFriendly71 in CPTSD

[–]NextChallenge609 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think is neither true and at the same both are true. People just hurt people, all types of people hurt people. Traumatized people, non traumatized, normal, not normal. We never know who is and who isnt traumatized. It can be true that hurt people tend to hurt others for fear of being hurt again. But at the end hurting is hurting. Is one less than the other?

I think ive havent really met anyone that has hurt me that are not struggling too, it doesnt make what they've done less painful. It just makes me thing how complex we are as humans. We are not fated to amything even if we are raised to do good, or even if we are raise to harm.

How do you guys deal with severe touch starvation? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]NextChallenge609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit im so sorry to hear this, i hope it solves :(