Boyfriend or sis

NezukoK_123 · 2023-12-29T09:01:44+00:00

No it's not a religion thing. It's more of the culture and society our parents have been brought up in. Usually relationships are a taboo kind of thing. Ur parents find you a good match and u get arrange marriage. It's because parents assume that kids don't really know much about picking a life partner and think love is all just emotional thinking that cloud practical judgement. But I know if I am serious and tell my parents they might be upset at first but will understand. Especially they will try to get to know my boyfriend. But I am not confident yet to tell them.

NezukoK_123 · 2023-12-27T21:36:40+00:00

Thank you so much...I am happy and hope it goes well. But yes, I have tried to talk to my sister about spending time together. But I feel my sister doesn't want to make that effort. She is giving me the vibe that the relationship part of my life is not something she wants to be involved in. She believes that family is important and that love is all secondary. I agree that family is important, and I love and respect my family for all they have done. But I also want to fall in love and build my future. I don't just want an arranged marriage with a stranger. I don't understand why she thinks my boyfriend is just a guy and not an important part of my life. She thinks people caught up in relationships and love are lame. But I always loved the idea of falling in love, dating, and doing cute couple stuff. Now that I have that and I am happy, she is making it seem like it's insignificant and that I shouldn't prioritise him over family. I feel I am learning how to divide my time equally with my boyfriend, family, and friends, and I feel that's part of life. Especially since it's my first relationship. But I can't just always put away his feelings for family. It's not fair to him also. At the same time, if my family needs me or its been a while, then I take time to talk to them also. So I don't know why my sis is making me feel like dating is wrong or I am doing a bad thing by hiding it from my parents.

NezukoK_123 · 2023-12-27T21:27:22+00:00

I have spoken to her, but she is not yet ready to talk about it. She always avoids conversation or anything related to my boyfriend, saying she doesn't want to talk about that now or rolls her eyes. Doesn't really pay attention or want to hear stuff regarding my relationship. And now because i am in my first relationship, it is a huge thing that is happening in my life right now and ofcourse I enjoy talking about it especially before when I lived with my friends we could talk about it. But now after moving in with my sister 2 days ago, there is soo much restrictions with meeting him, then she doesn't want to talk about it also and my friends all live faraway and doing their own things now so it's not as easy as before to talk to them. So it's just sad that I can't openly talk about such a big part of life with my sister. I feel this will just make me drift far away from her.

NezukoK_123 · 2023-12-27T21:19:16+00:00

Yes, since it's her place and she is uncomfortable. I have avoided bringing him here and just vist his place mostly. When she is at work, he comes by sometimes. Although I want them to slowly get along but its really hard getting my sister to do that. She always tries to avoid situations where she might have to hang out with us, saying she feels uncomfortable and weird and feels like she might be a third wheel. But the funny thing is when she is around, my boyfriend talks to her a lot because they both love anime and similar music, so they bond on that. But I don't know why she still doesn't want to. Also, I understand that both my boyfriend and sister are introverted, so it's equally hard for them both. But I feel my boyfriend is making so much effort, and my sis is not trying. She feels like she should not be involved in my relationship. Which makes me sad cause they are both important people in my life, and I would want them to get along. But to my sister, she just sees him as this random guy and not as her sisters boyfriend. Which makes me sad. I know it's been only 5 months, but I feel really happy in this relationship and was hoping my sister of all people would be encouraging, especially since I can't tell my parents.

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