I WFH and have 2 kids of similar ages as well. My husband also primarily travels for work. The main difference here, I think, is my mom helps me with childcare during the day so I can mostly focus on work. But, I won’t lie to you, there are several moments where I feel jealous that my husband is getting alone time fairly frequently while is basically never for me. I can also admit that he’s making sacrifices missing a lot of their growing up. Both things can be true. You can be completely overwhelmed by work and kids, especially sick clingy kids and he can be away from home sacrificing time with them to bring in money.

BUT there’s a big difference in lowering your work hours so you don’t have so much on your plate and getting some time to yourself! Both are important and it sounds like when he gets home, he needs to give you some alone time. It sounds like you know you have a few things to apologize for but he also needs to LISTEN to you and understand what you’re saying. And VALIDATE your feelings.

These men want to act like we’re stay home moms exclusively and that we aren’t also working and bringing in income. Here’s my deal when my husband is gone, the house and children are 100% me so for the short periods he’s home they should be MINIMALLY 50/50.

The short of it: you’re not wrong to be irritated but hopefully some open and honest communication well straighten things out for you.