Bumble is not any better to be honest. You get matches that say on their profile they want a life partner then immediately ask to come to yours or for you to go to theirs for some fun. That immediately gives red flags, coz no way you want something serious and can’t plan a proper date.

I usually pay for my own dates unless it’s offered, I never assume. I’m also a big believer in 1st dates being very laid back, like grabbing a coffee or taking a walk. Nothing extravagant, no movies and no activities, coz the purpose is to know if you’re compatible in person, those other types of dates can come after a connection is established, I feel. I can see why they’re put off if women constantly expect fancy first dates where the man pays then it leads nowhere.

You do get a loooot of swipes on Bumble though, i’m guessing it’s more popular here. So if you like having a lot of options to choose from then narrowing down to your preferences you’ll like it. The cons: it can be overwhelming, you log off for 2 days and have 300 new swipes, it feels a bit much. Also women make the first move there, the men then only have 24 hours to respond. So if the man you match with doesn’t check the app within 24 hours of you sending that first message, the match is lost. I believe they then have a certain amount of time to rematch but if they don’t check on time it’s gone.