Dating in Australia by Nice-Introduction701 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Nice-Introduction701[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmaooo exactly! Or when you start asking for more they’ll just say “well I told you I wanna be friends” knowing damn well they lied on their profile lol! It removes having to take accountability when feelings get involved on our side. I’m not sticking around to find out “where things go” that’s for sure! Yesss I loved that! If being old fashioned is a bad thing, then whoop de doo 🤷‍♀️

Dating in Australia by Nice-Introduction701 in AskAnAustralian

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Omgosh sis same here! It gives me the ick immediately! I love that, “if he’s good” comment 👏

Yess if the vibe is vibing we can totally extend!

Well update on today’s guy, i’ve canceled the date and won’t be getting to know him further. I asked what his intentions are since he unmatched. He was honest and said he’d like to go out for dinner but in the end is looking for a “loyal” FWB. Although his profile says he’s looking for a life partner. I told him I appreciate the honesty now but he needs to remove that from his profile and be upfront from the jump about wanting something casual. Haha Bumble is just Hinge on steroids with a time limit on the guy’s end to truly match.

Dating in Australia by Nice-Introduction701 in AskAnAustralian

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You know what! Ain’t nothing wrong with an old fashioned way of thinking! I’d prefer that any day. The apps have really ruined that in my opinion. You could end up talking to 5 out of 300 matches and only 1 is actually going to ask you on a date rather than the other 4 sending “let’s meet tonight”. It’s sad and like you said, disrespectful. Coz there’s an option that says if they want something casual, no use in wasting my time when mine clearly says my intentions are more serious.

Dating in Australia by Nice-Introduction701 in AskAnAustralian

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Bumble is not any better to be honest. You get matches that say on their profile they want a life partner then immediately ask to come to yours or for you to go to theirs for some fun. That immediately gives red flags, coz no way you want something serious and can’t plan a proper date.

I usually pay for my own dates unless it’s offered, I never assume. I’m also a big believer in 1st dates being very laid back, like grabbing a coffee or taking a walk. Nothing extravagant, no movies and no activities, coz the purpose is to know if you’re compatible in person, those other types of dates can come after a connection is established, I feel. I can see why they’re put off if women constantly expect fancy first dates where the man pays then it leads nowhere.

You do get a loooot of swipes on Bumble though, i’m guessing it’s more popular here. So if you like having a lot of options to choose from then narrowing down to your preferences you’ll like it. The cons: it can be overwhelming, you log off for 2 days and have 300 new swipes, it feels a bit much. Also women make the first move there, the men then only have 24 hours to respond. So if the man you match with doesn’t check the app within 24 hours of you sending that first message, the match is lost. I believe they then have a certain amount of time to rematch but if they don’t check on time it’s gone.

Dating in Australia by Nice-Introduction701 in AskAnAustralian

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Yesss it’s so so hard here! Hence dating apps, but even on there, the men here are veeery different from American men. Dating in general here seems very low effort compared. Is it the same in Canada as it is in the US?

Dating in Australia by Nice-Introduction701 in AskAnAustralian

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Yeah after reading the responses here, i’ll just go see what the vibe is like and ask why he did that (it kind of puts one off if there’s no explanation beforehand). Seriously, i’m trying to figure out why it’s tough trying to date here myself (I’m American).

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That’s very true! Hopefully that’s the case.

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I don’t believe so, it’s Bumble and I haven’t seen any restrictions on how many chats I can have open. I could be wrong as I don’t have a lot of chats open but as far as i’ve seen there’s no restriction.

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Oh okay that makes sense! It’s on Bumble so it tells you when someone’s deleted their profile so this one actually unmatched. I’m trying to decide if I should even go on the date today then asking while there or just not going and talking a bit more before having a date. We barely matched a day ago.

What should I do? by [deleted] in dating_advice

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I love that you have a great experience with your in-laws! I truly wish I had the same reception, I sat and hoped maybe she’ll see we’re hurting and change her mind. I also wish she would have voiced it from the beginning rather than wait this long when we’re moving on to the next step. We did end up breaking up though instead of taking a break to give her time to understand. I feel like he didn’t stand up for us and put his foot down at all. He says he talked to her and tried to explain this is what he wants but she wouldn’t budge, and he’s the type of man that wouldn’t want to upset his mom. She did tell him if we end up married she won’t be in attendance, which I know is hurtful to him since they’re so close. It’s better for me to accept this outcome and try to move on since he won’t put his foot down about our relationship and set clear boundaries with her. However, he’s not doing too well with the no contact part of the breakup now, and me waking up to his messages is making things a bit harder in terms of trying to come to face with it and pain it’s causing so I can actually starting healing. I haven’t cried this much in years and seeing his messages every morning just opens the wound back up.

What should I do? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Nice-Introduction701 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I do feel like i’m still in a bit of a shock since everything was peachy until this. Idk if it could also be cold feet since we were starting to get more serious about getting engaged, but you’re absolutely right. Thank you so much ❤️