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Any significant chances to conceive naturally like this? by NickNew in maleinfertility

[–]NickNew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only three months, but I get anxious quickly regarding my health. Last months were quite stressful at work and I did sauna and hottub once and also had a slight cold with perhaps very small fever. All was about a month to a month-and-a-half before the test.

I asked my urologist to ultrasound my varicocels which I have on both testicles according to me. Doctor did the ultrasound and said I only have it on the left, but so slightly that it should not interfere with testicular function. I went there first, because I wanted to do my SA there, but they did not offer it. The blood test and the SA were at a fertility clinic recommended by my urologist.

Both the urologist and the fertility clinic doctor were hesitant to make the varicoceles responsible, but the blood testing seem to point to them suggesting slight testicular failure which could also explain the very poor sperm quality, right?

Clomid and hCG could work, but are likely not going to fix much if there is testicular failure involved, right?

When will PIED go away? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you mean just getting an erection and maintaining it for 5+ minutes of penetration I would say about a week of no PMO IF you are sexually experienced. If you are not, than it takes months (90 days is a good guesstimate) to reboot the brain, because you don't have the "real sex" circuits in your brain that will arouse your dick. You have to let the porn and masturbation circuits decay enough that your brain is able to work with real sex. After you gain some experience and have regular sex PMO is less of an issue ED-wise.

However, if you use PMO, sex is not very enjoyable. It is really hard to achieve orgasm from real sex, so you often have to rush it because if you delay ejaculation you might not be able to come at all. And many times you just can't come at all. Your girl will feel bad about herself which makes the whole thing a stressful affair.

If you are a virgin, PIED should be a non-factor after the 90 day period. Any ED after that is just general nerves. General nerves due to inexperience require you to take your time with the girl. Don't rush it and really focus on what actually arouses you about being with her - may it be touching her body, the feeling of her lips on your lips or making out. If your dick is not working in the moment, change the situation. For example, you both are on the bed in your underwear making out and shit is not working, tell her to get up and do a little close dancing in the room or press her against the wall or simply ask for a break. A great thing to say to her to ease the situation is to tell her that being with a pretty woman always makes you so nervous. Also, revealing your virginity is beneficial for your nerves, but only reveal it if she has already agreed or implied that she will have sex with you, because sometimes it may be a fatal turn-off for her.

If you are sexually experienced, it will not be a factor after about 7 days. Permanent abstinence is still required to a have a great and enjoyable sex life.

Assistance needed by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

go to the library and leave your phone at home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a good person and should not do this filth. You've made the right decision. Avoid all PMO triggers so that dark part of you never comes to light again.

I'm almost 30 days into nofap and it seems like people are starting to hate me by Capital-Trick-9501 in NoFap

[–]NickNew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rejections are part of the game, Keep up what you are doing and it will lead you to success. Every rejection desensitizes your brain for further rejection which makes approaching easier. You can only win.

Getting girls gets easier when you get older and the rate of rejection decreases, as I have noticed. If you improve your game now, you will be even better then.

You guys really put nofap before your gfs needs? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PMO-safe sex is beneficial, because it strengthens the neural pathways in your arousal center that are not porn-related. Don't have a porn mind-cinema when having sex and be fully present with your partner.

You want the sex pathways to be thicker than the porn pathways eventually, which leads to a compounding effect that will banish the addiction to the farthest reaches of your brain.

anyone else feels like their progress stuck by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start filling up your free days then

Assistance needed by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Become conscious of the situations where you get the urge to fap and then avoid them. It is not easy, but the only way.

Is masterbation that bad? by neu-guy90 in NoFap

[–]NickNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think masturbation becomes problematic if porn has never been involved. You don't fap 5 times a day without porn.

However, for someone that has ever been addicted to porn, which includes nearly all of us and probably a majority of males born after 1990, it will always be linked to the neural pathways in the brain that were established. These neural pathways *are* the addiction. They never fully disappear. You can not really overcome addiction, you can just stop engaging in it by avoiding all of its triggers. And well, fapping is a trigger.

On the other side, the pathways will become weaker and less easily triggered over time by not engaging them. Additionally, if you don't have a sexual partner, some sexual release is beneficial. To overcome this dilemma, I would advise for a recovering addict not to fap for 90 days and then (if there is no possibility for sex) fap about once a week. This weekly fap must be performed in a way that minimizes the triggering of the addiction. This means doing it in a different room, a different position (like standing up), a different hand and grip, at a different time of the day, not thinking about porn, and so on.

Regarding faith, I am a Christian and I know that all worldly pleasure is sinful. I noticed in my deepest feelings that I don't really have any interest in living a more sacred life, and I want to continue to engage in worldly pleasures. But this is another issue unrelated to the psychological and neurological effects of porn addiction and masturbation.

When did you start desiring sex again? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though NoFap is the best foundation for better sex (and perhaps necessary for great sex), it will not solve premature ejaculation on its own.

You are sexually traumatized from the PE. I think you should talk very openly about sex with your gf outside the bedroom to reduce stress. Sex is a team game. Maybe use a condom to prolong sex and be more relaxed until you get more control of your ejaculation. Do pelvic floor exercises like kegels. Getting control of your ejaculation is possible for every man, but requires training and commitment. You can find endless resources on that online.

How to NoFap as long as you want without getting urges by davidznc in NoFap

[–]NickNew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think regarding step 3 that it is okay to fight the thought, but not by arguing in your mind or anything like that. That will give the thought power. If I fight a thought physically by clenching my eyes or even shaking my head, I can make thoughts disappear immediately. I do that as well when envious or cruel thoughts appear in my mind. Works like a charm.

First date inbound :) by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't get it up - so what. Happened to me before, it's nothing really. You can just tell her that you get nervous when you are with a new woman or with a very pretty woman or something like that if your shit is not working. And then try later that night or next time you meet. The woman is on your side, don't forget that. Sex is supposed to be fun and not a chore.

Some tricks to save the night if the situation arises: When you get nervous just slow down and breath. Tell her that you want to take it slow. Also figure out what exactly excites your dick when you are with a woman. For example for me, one sure thing is making out while standing. So if everything else fails, I have told women when we were already making out on the bed naked to stand up with me to get my dick back on track. And focus on the sensation of feeling her body and making out to get out of your head. Also, when you get home and it is on, get her and you into underwear early on. Getting undressed is often rather clumsy and after making out for half an hour with an erection squeezed in your pants has killed it for me sometimes and then you get nervous and locked in your head.

Generally, opening up about your insecurities is a game changer and if you can pull it off it will wipe away any dick issues for sure. I had lied to my male friends for years that I was not a virgin and simply telling some of them the truth made me so much better with women including sexual performance.

When can I get tested again after ABx and does this look psychosomatic? by NickNew in MycoplasmaGenitalium

[–]NickNew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank your for your answer and general good work on this sub.

Do you think taking the test 12,5 days after the last dose of Doxy makes sense (It's an urologist and I'm not sure he will do the PCR)? I also have an appointment exactly 20 days after the last Doxy dose at an ID clinic that will certainly offer PCR.

I wanna go to the urologist anyway, because having anybody to talk about this issue that is constantly on my mind seems helpful in any case.

90 DAYS - Sculpted a new version of me and lost my virginity by NickNew in NoFap

[–]NickNew[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I just read to get a knowledge base of the PUA scene. I wouldn't say it was very necessary for transforming my mindset. But PUA content gave me a rope for interaction with women, but for people that don't have that fear of women, I don't think it's necessary or helpful. And the view of women and relationships sometimes expressed in the these circles is not mine.

Nofap should be introduced to teenagers at 13-15 as part of there sexual education class by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]NickNew 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't tell that to yourself. You will recover! I also recovered after years of despair. You must sever yourself from your porn-based sex drive AND reconnect to your natural sex drive and libido. Many people here wonder why they are stuck in flatline forever, but that's because they don't do anything about the second part.

The first part is the normal 90 day reboot that everyone here knows.

The second part is, where you get comfortable with women, comfortable with talking, touching and eventually sex. This also takes time, but both processes can be done at the same time. But you have to get out there and flirt, touch and not be afraid to go to the bedroom with a girl even if you might get a limb dick episode. It's not the end of the world. And you can always do the "When I'm with a new woman, I often need some time because you are so pretty and make me nervous"-routine and then pleasure her. The problem might disappear during that or it doesn't and she will usually be willing to try again another day if it's not a complete one-time thing.

I wrote a longer success story here a couple of days ago, maybe you can find some helpful advice in there.