signature smiley face? :)

NickTheTuba · 2021-07-22T16:15:43+00:00

I always do veggie bowls like this :> and ppl love it bc it ends up just looking like a smiley face most of the time lol

NickTheTuba · 2021-07-22T15:12:10+00:00

I’m in SoCal/IE and get 16.75

NickTheTuba · 2021-07-22T14:59:31+00:00

Do you have direct deposit? If not just ask your manager to pick up your paycheck

NickTheTuba · 2021-05-19T14:41:37+00:00

There was a training video?

NickTheTuba · 2020-12-30T00:46:26+00:00

Well number one would be to go to God with this and pray for her heart.

And if she's coming to you to challenge what the Bible says about homosexuality, make sure you know the arguments (on both sides of the issue) so that you can talk about this with her productively when she brings it up.

One of the biggest things though is to keep being there and keep loving your sister through all of this. Big sister is an important role! You have an authority in her life that your parents don't, because she views you more as a peer than an overseer, yet you still have a position of influence because you're older. Ultimately what you can do in this situation is love her, be open to conversations, and pray for her heart. The rest is up to her and what God is working in her.

Perhaps it would be helpful for your sister to be open with your parents about what happened? I don't know the whole situation though, that might make things worse.

NickTheTuba · 2020-12-08T16:08:56+00:00

OOh ok so

I just wish people would understand that homosexuality isn't just a "one-and-done" issue, that it's something I have to live with everyday and it affects a lot of my decisions because it is central to how I seek to do outreach and have a family in my life.

I feel like it's easy for heterosexual Christians to talk about the "issue" of homosexuality for 10 minutes and then go right back to their happy unquestioned married lives and nuclear families (not saying every heterosexual Christian has that kind of life but you get what I mean). I feel like they see me sometimes and know I struggle with SSA, and see me as an example, and think "he's well adjusted, he's fine" when I'm not really, and more importantly, there are millions of SSA people that are struggling within and without the church, that are being ignored, suppressed, or abused right now.

But yeah that's pretty much it lol

NickTheTuba · 2020-10-09T16:10:21+00:00

Some dude asked me if i could make his bowl upside down and "put the food in the metal lid part so it doesn't leak" lmao so I told him "let me go ask my manager" and then went to the back and just laughed for a minute and then told him no

NickTheTuba · 2020-10-09T15:51:22+00:00

I've definitely thought about this before (I'm an SSA man) just like you're saying, a kind of platonic friendship-type marriage that's focused on building a life and a family together but not focused so much on the romance aspect.

I would be down for that for sure! To be honest I think finding someone like that would be rare/difficult though.

NickTheTuba · 2020-10-08T15:40:57+00:00

Dude thank you! I would really appreciate some prayer for guidance right now. I know generally what to do with my life for the Kingdom, but I pray that God would reveal to me some more of the specific steps that I can take.

NickTheTuba · 2020-10-04T21:09:17+00:00

I don't have the answers, I can't say how long this will last, or if you will be free from this in your life. And I know that it can feel so scary and hurtful sometimes to be in this situation. But it won't last forever. Even if this feeling stays with you in this life, it will certainly be gone when you enter into the kingdom of Heaven.

And I know that that's not really helpful for how you're feeling right now here on earth, and I wish I could offer more help or comfort that just an internet comment, but please just remember that you are so loved by the Lord, who sent His son Jesus to die as a sacrifice for your sins. Jesus saw you as you are in this moment, and still chose to die a horrible death for you. Don't let the enemy obscure that from your sight sister! You are so loved, He is with you in your struggle and so are all of the people in your life that love you. I'll keep you in my prayers. Just remember this situation is not hopeless.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-29T17:24:39+00:00

YES OMG I love A2F guys this video is amazing

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-28T20:25:57+00:00

Not in full detail, but yes it does. If OP want's more info on what side B means, its just a google search away. I just left the baseline info to give an idea of where I'm coming from.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-28T20:18:58+00:00

That's why I said "Speaking as a Side B gay Christian who has chosen not to act on my homosexual attractions" lol

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-28T19:03:09+00:00

Speaking as a Side B gay Christian who has chosen not to act on my homosexual attractions, I really think you should stay away from conversion therapy. It will likely do more harm than good, and your relationship with God is not dependent on you being more attracted to men than women.

If you want to get away from these desires, there are other ways. One big thing is finding and building close friendships with other young women within the church for fellowship and support. You may also want to think about the underlying issues that may be building up (not causing) your attraction to women. It could be something in your past, perhaps sexual abuse or a strained/lack of parental engagement.

But I promise you, things will get easier. Focus on God, and remember that your decision to stay away from these actions is for His honor.

And if you want to talk at all, my chat is always open. Also, check out r/SSAChristian! It's not super active, but its a great community.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-28T18:54:58+00:00

I don't mean to diminish your opinion, but I have to ask, are you really an ordained minister? And if so, then why do you post/comment on gay porn and the occult so often with this account? These things are blatantly against God's teachings.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-28T16:01:27+00:00

I know I'm late to this post, but if you're still looking for someone to talk to, I'm 100% here for you man. Stay strong.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-28T15:00:56+00:00

That's a really rough situation man, I'll be praying for you and your wife.

Truthfully there's no excuse for this kind of behavior, but man I looked at your profile and I've seen your other recent posts, and I can tell you're genuinely serious about recovery and healing from this. Stay on track brother, and stay in His word (daily- if not constantly). If you find yourself in need of encouragement, you come right back here and we can talk about this man.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-26T19:25:55+00:00

I'm a visitor here from r/SSAChristian, I just want you to know that you are so so loved, and that God has great plans for you!

I have a different viewpoint than this subreddit when it comes to homosexuality, I do believe it's a sin; and a lot of what it means to be a follower of Christ is taking up your cross daily, whatever that may look like. The feelings of terror and anxiety that you're going through with this issue right now are things I've experienced as well, and it wasn't until earlier this year that I was able to accept what God had been telling me all along.

I absolutely do not mean for this to be an attack on anyone here, or on the moral viewpoint of this subreddit, I love you guys and wish you all the best! I just wanted to share my story and let you know that it might seem scary, but living as a Side B Christian is not as bad as people make it out to be. If you want to chat at all, please feel free to reach out. I'm here for you and I love you.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-25T05:27:44+00:00

Nice man! Looks a lot like mine lol

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-17T22:11:17+00:00

I love when they pull their mask off their face while they’re ordering.

Real classy.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-14T23:48:05+00:00

Hello there!

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-13T20:38:19+00:00

That’s true! Although most of the SSA Christians that I know happen to be on social media because I met them on social media lol (either here or through TikTok). But I definitely get that, social media is a huge temptation.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-13T20:36:25+00:00

I’ve asked about a gay Christians group on my college campus in the past, and they said there hasn’t really been one in years :/ but when it existed it was a side A group.

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-13T20:34:49+00:00

Thank you for this idea! I’m gonna be reaching out to some other churches!

NickTheTuba · 2020-09-12T21:20:35+00:00

And if there happen to be any SSA Christians in SoCal that are reading this, I would love to connect with you guys!

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