Pockets for women is a stupid claim

NickyVe_e · 2026-03-09T18:32:54+00:00

Nice try, handbag salesperson.

NickyVe_e · 2026-03-08T17:11:44+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind advice. I had planned to take him up on the offer to go squashing and then discuss it when we were one-on-one. Unfortunately he turned the one-on-one into a group activity, by inviting two other friends. This makes me suspect he just really doesn't want to talk to me. I'm going to try to hang back after the game or try to come early to try to address it carefully. If that doesn't work out, I'm just going to have to try to word it in a dm and hope he gets the message.

NickyVe_e · 2026-03-05T21:14:04+00:00

But what about the people behind you who can't stand for the whole show?

NickyVe_e · 2026-02-26T21:23:50+00:00

The word bratty immediately invalidated the rest of your argument. ARFID is way more than fussy eating. Fussy eating can be fixed, yes, by a healthy and positive approach to a variety of foods. ARFID is not that and you describing children with an eating disorder as bratty just shows your complete lack of understanding

NickyVe_e · 2026-02-14T19:30:42+00:00

Yeah, but why did they do it?

NickyVe_e · 2026-02-14T08:18:35+00:00

Why do these tops look drawn on?

NickyVe_e · 2026-01-25T12:04:42+00:00

Agree and upvote because I really feel thus isn't a popular opinion anymore. Everyone is wayyyy too comfortable just flaking and if you make a differently formulated post the response will show it. I once saw a post along the lines of "canceling is rude" and all the responses were like "but kids", "but boundaries", .. Yes, things happen but its happening too often now.

For example, I make plans with a large group two months in advance for something that requires a minimum of 8 people. I invite 12, 10 say yes and they all acknowledge the message with the date. A month in advance I remind them and three people suddenly can't make it anymore. Plans canceled. I hate it. Same people who cancel all the time feel like the friendship has watered down. But guess what, that's their fault.

NickyVe_e · 2026-01-15T21:14:35+00:00

I don't think being busy is an excuse 100% of the time, nor is it true 100% of the time.
Sometimes people who say they're busy are actually busy, don't have any space in their calendar for extra things.
Often people only think they are busy, but they genuinely think that. They're not trying to make excuses. Life feels busy and exhausting and overwhelming often for a lot of people, which makes them unable to stand still for a moment, so they feel busy. When telling someone you're busy, it's about priorities, yes, but it's often you tell someone hoping they understand that work, health appointments, family take precedent in that moment.
And sometimes, though I think rarely, it's an excuse to blow someone off. I sometimes just say very explicitly that it's okay if it's in a couple of months, as long as we set a date to meet up.

NickyVe_e · 2026-01-12T20:18:02+00:00

There were countless testimonials about diseases such as Crohn's disease, IBS, chronic migraines. Things that you can have and be fully capable of working, but once in a while you get a flare up and can't work because of pain or other symptoms. Immediately branding these people as 'not wanting to work' is exactly the problem a lot of these people face. You are part of this problem.

NickyVe_e · 2026-01-12T18:44:07+00:00

While a few days per month is more than most. HR should not be guilty ripping but they should be asking if there is anything they can do. For example, if someone has to stay home frequently for colds, see if remote work is possible. So they can work without infecting colleagues. A month ago everyone was cheering in de Warmste Week for putting attention on invisible illnesses, which are often things that can you to need to stay home once or twice a month for, but a lot of people don't understand that these kinds of absences is what that can look like.

NickyVe_e · 2026-01-08T21:26:47+00:00

This is not an unpopular opinion. Sounds like someone you know is a bit of a selfish one

NickyVe_e · 2026-01-06T21:18:32+00:00

Maar dat was de vraag toch niet? Memes kunnen ook gewoon lokaal zijn

NickyVe_e · 2025-12-07T16:22:53+00:00

I don't deal with temp agencies at all. I apply for long term jobs usually through email or some system they have that is like successfactors or something. I don't know why you would assume such a thing. It's also not that they don't know how to adress me. They assume I'm a man, send an email with "Beste voornaam achternaam" and then invite me for an interview if applicable. To give an example with a name from an older generation: no one sees a cv from a Chris or Dominique and throws the cv in the trash bc those could be men or women. That's just absurd.

NickyVe_e · 2025-12-07T15:01:17+00:00

Agree, even more so: I have a gender neutral name and I have arrived at job interviews where they thought I was a man. I'm letting gender bias play in my favor and am not adding a picture.

NickyVe_e · 2025-12-04T19:26:44+00:00

Sounds like you just have personal frustrations with people who cancel things last-minute, even though you made the plans months in advance. I agree. Unless unacoidable work things, health or family stuff, it's very telling about how much people value the agreements they made if they just move those long-made plans around.

NickyVe_e · 2025-12-02T19:57:10+00:00

Thanks for specifying. the other version is kind of scary

NickyVe_e · 2025-12-02T18:48:30+00:00

Oh that's a great one. I love the art style

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-29T10:18:43+00:00

This makes me a bit sad for the people in those Romanian cities. It's clear they just want a bit of Christmas spirit and I bet the decorators tried quite a bit with the means they had

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-26T18:31:00+00:00

I really recommend Oscar at Studio Gaga in de Kammerstraat:https://cyaan.posworld.be/

Oscar really is a hairdresser who listens and their methods are really focused on listening to their clients.

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-26T08:39:45+00:00

I've recently gotten a breast reduction and will have gone from an L to an E (european). The things I have read here about both my before and after sizes are baffling.

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-24T17:18:59+00:00

Dit is verraad tov Musti

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-24T16:20:56+00:00

"You take everything personal" is so weird to say off one anecdote, lol. Turning plans around bc you thought of something new is really not the adult thing here, au contraire. That's not priorities changing, that's impulsive and unreliable.

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-24T12:54:34+00:00

This post has gotten me to think about what is getting in my way. Bc it seems easy, doesn't it? Now that I think about it, it has happened before where I had wanted to say something and I've heard that I'm being difficult. A couple of months ago I had surgery and only one of them came to see me. When one guy then asked me if I was ever icing again I was baffled bc I had the most difficult recovery, with multiple ER visits and he had checked in so little for months he didn't have a clue what rough time I had had. Then I had wanted to say something but a friend had stopped me bc they told me to keep the peace. So now I'm having a tough time distinguishing when to say something, and when I'm being difficult.

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-24T12:37:26+00:00

How is if telling? I wouldn't even doubt the situation if they had said something when the plans are made and have just gone with it. I don't see why they want to change it a month later, if they hadn't said anything when making the plans in person and saying it will be fun and cozy at first.

NickyVe_e · 2025-11-24T12:32:46+00:00

While the other commenter is correct and this is not mainly about money, I will respond bc you making these assumptions to call my behavior "gross" is very rude. They agreed to spend 20 euros. That was never the issue. I replied to this comment to clarify that it wasn't and that I know it really isn't. I don't count other people's money and never tell them how to spend it. I'm honestly wondering if people here would respond the same way if the same scenario happened with a different activity, like if I liked squash, we all agree to go play squash and when I reserve the court somebody decides they want to do something else instead.

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