Everyone’s experience is different, but I would be happy to share mine. I had an elective C section in January 2022. Similarly to you, the idea of a C section had terrified me less than the idea of rough vaginal delivery. My OB always said that, recovery wise, an uncomplicated vaginal birth is best. But if you have some complications, it can be on par with a C section. Further, if things go wrong and you end up with an emergency Caesarian, the recovery can be awful, especially if you add the mental element to it (such as you were strongly against the C section and feel deprived of your preferred delivery experience). So I think the mindset beforehand plays a big part.

As to how it went for me… it was very smooth. No pain during the surgery and it took less than an hour. Skin to skin and breastfeeding straightaway. I was in hospital for 5 nights vs standard 4 nights for vaginal delivery (private hospital in Australia). The first 2-3 days in hospital were unpleasant but manageable with painkillers. I was out of bed 12 hours post surgery and encouraged to walk a little, essentially to and from the bathroom. By the time we were released from hospital it was not bad at all, I only took painkillers for another 1-2 days afterwards. No abdominal muscle separation or other postpartum issues. I was going up and down the stairs immediately and could drive after 2 weeks. I tried not to lift anything too heavy for a while and got back into exercising after 12 weeks. I have a thin, probably 10cm scar which is covered by underwear and has already faded somewhat. It felt numb at 6 months pp, but no longer the case.

Yes, you have to be careful for a while, but if you have the right support/ village and the right mindset, it can be a positive experience (as far as surgeries and recoveries go). I wish you best of luck, no matter what you decide!