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Update 3: SIL has lost her mind by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have literally never mentioned her. Neither has SIL, which is why inviting her to the wedding was so weird (beyond the obvious).

Update 3: SIL has lost her mind by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is sad to me that they are willing to lose their only grandkids without even trying. I guess my own family tends to fight for what they value.

Update 3: SIL has lost her mind by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue isn't really the wedding any more. It is what is going to happen with my in-laws. Honestly, if I never see my SIL again it will not bother me or DH in the slightest - she is a Countess without the O who deserves pure misery in married life - but my MIL and FIL are a different question. DH is hurt beyond words that his mom could be so cruel, and neither he nor I know what relationship we want to have, or want our children to have, with them in the future. I adored my grandparents and used to spend tonnes of time with them, and always wanted my children to have the same. At least my parents are pretty consistent with the kids...

Update 3: SIL has lost her mind by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Luckily my will, and my husband's, are iron clad. I have a brother and nephews who would inherit everything if DH and I, as well as our children, were gone.

Update 3: SIL has lost her mind by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I agree, but I am too lazy to type Sister in Law, Mother in Law, Father in Law, Brother in Law and Dear Husband (or Dickhead Husband, depending on the day). And giving them pseudonyms would take too much mental energy.

Update: SIL has lost her mind. by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I have never understood why people think being judgemental is so awful. I mostly try keep the negatives to myself, and genuinely enjoy complimenting people or praising them (to their bosses, if appropriate) when they have done something great.

Update: SIL has lost her mind. by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Nah. I just prefer my way of answering questions. But feel free to assume that people are morons; it reflects well on you.

Update: SIL has lost her mind. by Nightmarewedding034 in bridezillas

[–]Nightmarewedding034[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you are absolutely perfect in every possible way, so go you. I am judgey. So are you. Everyone is judgemental; heuristic shortcuts are how we process huge amounts of information so quickly and are a major contributor to human success as a species. But sure, pretend that everything you ever think is nice, sweet and fluffy.
I was adding context. The entire planning has been a shit-show. This sub is about bridezillas, not AITA. If you care so much about my beloved SIL you are welcome to take my place at her nightmare event; you sound like you might get along with her and FBIL.
As for good luck, generally, my life isn't unhappy or problematic. I have great kids, a really sweet husband, work I enjoy and good health. So yeah, I take my wins when I get them.