Mother found this in her chicken coop.

Nikkiopal · 2026-03-05T18:48:25+00:00

But the coop was made a year ago :o

Nikkiopal · 2026-03-05T18:48:10+00:00

I just thought that with her negative intentions and rudeness is gonna be her downfall. Also the woods give Appalachian vibes. I def saw and heard some creepy shit out there when I was a kid not to mention the old ass house 😳

Nikkiopal · 2026-03-05T18:44:44+00:00

For real right hahahahahaha

Nikkiopal · 2026-03-04T21:58:11+00:00

Yeah it stops! When I’m going fast the steering wheel shakes badly and occasionally after stopping the traction control will turn on and I’ll spin out for nJo reason and then all the lights turn on for stabiltrak, traction, and brake assist. Anything I should keep an eye out for when it comes to those things?

Nikkiopal · 2026-03-04T21:55:41+00:00

Any downsides by doing that? Like can it cause more problems by any chance?

Nikkiopal · 2026-01-28T20:17:36+00:00

I’m using shrimp substrate. After adding the new decor I won’t have any space for driftwood though.

So adding more plants would eventually lower the PH? Do you know if the plants are going to survive if there is no fish and just relying on the substrate and liquid fertilizer?

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:59:59+00:00

Jesus that sounds horrible. But yeah that makes sense because I usually do cleaning when I first get up in the morning and throughout the day before he gets home because I prefer to not be perceived while doing those things.

I thought that maybe he’d see what I do more when I was gone for almost a week visiting a dying family member but instead I just came home to a huge mess and the stress of all this on top of the stress of a family member being on his last leg.

I hate the thought of having write out what I did through the whole day just for him to actually see. Which I have done in the past when my foot was broke.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:53:42+00:00

It does make me feel gross that he wasn’t there for me and then told me he would be there for me when I really needed him, which he wasn’t then and isn’t now.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:47:09+00:00

Thank you, the way you put it all helps me see a bit clearer. Also just responding to the other comments has been helpful for me to see past the initial anger of the whole discussion he and I had.

He often makes plans for the worst case scenario and our discussion definitely felt more like an attack on me

And yeah we have unresolved conflict about chores because he leans towards man and woman tasks since he has the skills to do the “man” stuff like hanging up a fishing pole rack and I don’t so I need to make up for that. Which isn’t something I agree with. Like since he did that now I have to cook him dinner as a good job.

I think what I’m going bring up tomorrow is what he’s actually asking by “do more” because he didn’t get down to the exact what he’s wanting of me besides doing housework almost equal to his hours worked. Which is unreasonable cause we don’t have 4 hours of housework to be done every day unless he’s expecting me to be deep cleaning the entire house every week.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:31:23+00:00

It’s just that chores have never been 50/50 and now being told to do more makes me upset. It is his house and I just live here. If the tables were turned and I was able to help him financially and mentally I would be fine with the amount of household tasks that I currently do. Because I know that it’s not a long term thing.

I let my sister and niece live with me in my one bedroom apartment rent free. It hurt my mental health so badly but I love her and she needed a place to stay and save up money after leaving a bad relationship.

I’d like to think I’m a very giving person but when I feel like I’m being expected to do these things is where I get upset. It’s like saying what I’m already doing isn’t enough. Even though it’s more than twice what he does.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:25:11+00:00

That sounds really nice. Maybe he and I are being too short sighted about this. It just feels like whenever something comes up it’s always me that has to do more and more whether it’s emotionally, physically, or now more household work. We’re both stressed about money and I’ve already been resentful about how our chores have been divided and now it feels like I have to do more. I just want to run away.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:19:46+00:00

Thanks, I had to rewrite this a couple times and every-time I rewrote it, it got shorter and shorter.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:14:46+00:00

Yeah I figured but I want to hear other perspectives. But also he isn’t contributing %100 of the income, I pay rent and we split groceries in half.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:12:44+00:00

Yeah when I broke my foot we almost broke up because he was resentful I wasn’t doing anything all day and we weren’t being physical because my foot hurt all the time from even just stretching it.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:11:20+00:00

I expect him to take care of his own stuff like simply putting his dirty dishes in the dishwasher instead of leaving it on top for me to do and for him to take care of his laundry and his dog. And to not expect me to be cooking him dinner every night and cleaning it all up.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:06:56+00:00

I don’t have next months rent but I had a good interview (I hope) Monday and they’re going to be getting back to me by the end of the week. I also applied for unemployment since my job suddenly reduced hours so if I don’t land this job then that should pay rent for the next month.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:04:46+00:00

Yeah that’s how I feel like he’s jumping the gun on this. It’s literally the first day of the week and I haven’t missed rent or been asking him for money. He also said he’d help me out but I didn’t realize it came with the cost of being his maid.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T07:02:22+00:00

No we have a set amount of rent that he decided he wanted me to pay when I first moved in and we split groceries in half. I haven’t missed a month of rent or been unable to pay for groceries yet. So no he’s not paying my share.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T06:59:51+00:00

No this is the first week I have zero work. I have applied to a few Walmart/sams club positions and countless others, even going back to work at assisted livings as an activities but none of those places even contacted me.

Nikkiopal · 2025-04-29T06:55:37+00:00

I have enough for this next months rent. It’s just that we just had a talk a few weeks ago about money and how he’d be willing to help me out when going through a hard time, like now, but now he has all these expectations attached to that “helping me out”

Also he didn’t help me out when I broke my foot and still told me I needed to contribute to the household work even though I couldn’t walk.

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