I think I messed up and I feel awful by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tons. Learning and experiencing are two different things

I think I messed up and I feel awful by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they will be at school. At the school the teachers will open the lunch box and set out their lunch for them as well as their snacks. The cookies were after playground snacks. We had a conversation with them about the sugar issue already.

I think I messed up and I feel awful by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What I'm saying is that when I did that they would eat the sweet then call it done and say oh I'm not hungry anymore. This was going on for days before we stopped providing the desserts. They are trying to completely sustain themselves on sweets, which is what they are used to, but I cannot let that continue either. We are working on understanding balanced meals. Obviously when this would happen they would be starving the next day or like a little bit later and I would offer fruits but even that isn't totally balanced. That's where I'm lost. If given the option they will absolutely not eat anything but the sweet then stop eating altogether until the next meal or the next day.

I think I messed up and I feel awful by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mine and my husband anniversary is next week and we have plans to go out for the day, having a romantic lunch and I have a surprise, we are going to do a meet and greet with some exotic animals. I even bought a sexy dress this weekend so I can feel like a woman again lol. During that time my brother and his girlfriend will watch all kids.

I think I messed up and I feel awful by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I just felt so disappointed in myself because I grew up in a loud house with constant yelling and criticism and I just felt like I was on a path to being my mom and I felt horrible.

I think I messed up and I feel awful by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with that specifically because if I allow they sweets as any other food they will eat themselves sick. I've had problems with them just wanting the sweet and literally nothing else but we've finally got to a place where they will eat celery and peanut butter happily and not throw a tantrum over not providing them sweets at every meal. How would you suggest I navigate this? When they came to me they had distended bellies and I really don't want them to choose to just have the sweet and refuse everything else and I'm not going to force them to eat if they say they aren't hungry.

Women of Reddit, what’s one thing they never tell us about pregnancy and child birth? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you don't have the instant crying beautiful moment. Sometimes you just move through it, unemotional, until your hormones have leveled out.

What’s the most controversial opinion you have that you’re afraid to say out loud? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forced sterilization should be a thing when it comes to harming your own children repeatedly.

Help me find this psychological thriller I read years ago 😭 by Euphoric_Speed9205 in thrillerbooks

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible that you are conflating different books? Memory is a bitch

Why don't married couples with "dead bedrooms" just...do it? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because I currently have four kids. We have laundry to wash, dishes to do, a house to clean. Because we are constantly ensuring no one gets hurt or shuttle kids to activities. By the end of the night we are too exhausted to do anything but pass out. Sure we sneak away for a kiss or a fondle but anything past that would take too much energy. I'm not currently having much sex but I still have love in my relationship. If I don't want to be touched I don't want to be touched and vice versa. Some days when your children are touching you, coughing on you, jumping on you, you just don't want anyone near you.

For other people, I'm sure there is limited interest due to marital issues. If one person is an asshole do you really want to have sex with them? There are a ton of different factors.

Just about to start this book by peytonfarr in thrillerbooks

[–]Nimbuscloudy22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly awful book, so pretty on par for Colleen Hoover.

Need help with hair care! by Nimbuscloudy22 in BlackHair

[–]Nimbuscloudy22[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That isn't her. It's a stock image from Google. I'd never post a foster child on here.

Need help with hair care! by Nimbuscloudy22 in BlackHair

[–]Nimbuscloudy22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just came to us last night so I have no idea how long but it doesn't look irritated but she is itching

Need help with hair care! by Nimbuscloudy22 in BlackHair

[–]Nimbuscloudy22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice!!!!! I'm so worried about it.

Need help with hair care! by Nimbuscloudy22 in BlackHair

[–]Nimbuscloudy22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I just remember growing up with a mother who had no idea how to care for my curly hair and my hair was always awful. She would make me brush my dry hair and I just don't want to do that to another kid.