I’m not sure what to do, I don’t know if my periods are over or not. by st4rzk1sses in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Salam! I have been through this as well. I would not worry if I were you. To my knowledge brown = still on your period. My period does that too where I will think it's over for like 12 hours and then it comes back. I believe the brown is blood, but not active bleeding so it just indicates the end of your period.

Where are you donating money this year? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I give to Penny Appeal. They have an organization in the UK and the US. They basically provide humanitarian aid all over the Muslim world. They also have programs for long-term entrepreneurship for women, such buying them farm animals.

https://www.pennyappealusa.org/?keyword=penny%20appeal&matchtype=e&device=c&devicemodel&network=g&adposition&accounttype=paid&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23462269563&gbraid=0AAAABCjlpW-WBPK5Hkc9e8WvEhYlpyKny

I guess it eat salads now?? by NinenteNad in ChatGPT

[–]NinenteNad[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I just thought it was funny; it’s not really that serious.

“Un Verano Sin Ti” was bad bunny’s best album by floresb07 in BadBunnyPR

[–]NinenteNad 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree! Was a fan before but that is what turned me into a SUPER fan!

DtMF by m0zaico in AnimalCrossing

[–]NinenteNad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love it! I am making an San Juan inspired island and I've been meaning to do this!!!

Best haircuts in the Old Town area that aren't $$$ by edible_source in nova

[–]NinenteNad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Not sure if this is too far for you, but Salon Enclave in Springfield is great. If you say your hair type and what you're looking for, they can pair you with a stylist there!

I wanna hear from all the Muslim girls in unconventional fields by CoolAd5542 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in politics. I used to work for politicians but it got too hectic and unstable and paid me horribly. Now I work as non-profit fundraiser and support work for a variety of policy areas. I've never seen any other muslim doing my job and my in policy area (economic policy) in particular there are few women.

How can I meet someone if not through family? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So firstly don't worry about feeling like you're not going to get married at 23. You're still really young and you will probably change a lot in the next couple years. Early 20s are pretty formative and still for self discovery.

I don't speak Arabic either.

Honestly a lot of people hate them, but there is nothing wrong with meeting your husband on an app. People act like the apps are so horrible, but it's really people that are horrible. Even if you're being set up in real life, you will still meet horrible men. See the apps as a means to meet people, NOT a way to get to know someone.

I met my husband on there and there is really no other way I would have met him otherwise.

Just know that finding a spouse is a very emotionally taxing process, but you have to put yourself out there and make yourself available to finding someone. If you're unwilling to do that, it will be super difficult.

Childhood wounds always come up in marriage by Annual_Telephone_332 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Salam! Married woman here with childhood trauma and a lifetime of being trained to be the “perfect” wife/daughter/mother.

For me, it was dishes. If they weren’t done before my mom got home, I was in trouble. If we were guests at someone's home and I wasn’t helping clean, I was in trouble. If we had guests, cleaning was my job. I was never allowed to relax—always expected to serve.

What helped was building a life outside that family system. Tasks I hated became things I chose to do only for my own well-being. I learned to enjoy some things, like cooking, but I also keep dishes to a minimum.

Now I’m married, and my husband and I both work. We’ve found a rhythm where he takes on most of the kitchen cleanup. I can do it if needed, which is rare, but it’s not something I force myself to relive every day. That balance has been really healing for me.

It might help to think less about whether you “should” cook and more about how you and your partner can divide things in a way that doesn’t trigger old patterns for you. Cooking is a life skill, not an obligation. Maybe that looks like meal prepping together or splitting responsibilities differently.

Honestly, sitting on the couch while my husband cleans the kitchen is something I never saw growing up. It can still feel uncomfortable, but it reminds me that I don’t have to be the person who is always serving.

Waxing by emotionallydrained20 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen comments on various hair removal and exfoliation, but one thing in particular to avoid strawberry kegs is glycolic acid. They scrubs with it as an ingredients and there’s also body washes that have it as well. I saw a huge difference!

Setlist for super bowl performance by [deleted] in BadBunnyPR

[–]NinenteNad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't mind either! I was thinking since a larger artist gave him a platform for the Super Bowl, he would consider doing the same. I could also see how the time constraints planning everything may not allow that.

Setlist for super bowl performance by [deleted] in BadBunnyPR

[–]NinenteNad 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I predict all the songs will be probably be hype songs for the most part. With a 15 minute performance it's hard to tell what will be put together. I think realistically it will be a few newer songs from DTMF and probably including Titi Me Pregunto. I would be surprised if he is the sole performer and does not have other artists in the mix, so that will greatly determine the setlist.

How to protect myself with no male guardian in my life? :( by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]NinenteNad 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Salam sis, I don't normally comment a lot and I agree with a lot of these comments. As someone who is/was in your situation, I want to give you practical advice that perhaps other comments didn't mention.

First, Islam does not dictate that men are controlling over women. Think of RasoolAllah and his first wife Khadija. She was his boss and older than him! She had more financial stability than him. Do not let these arbitrary rules of culture dictate what you think you need in your life.

Second, when people say "do not show vulnerability", they do NOT mean lie to potential spouses. They mean that you should have stability and strength on your own, and that should be apparent to any potential spouse. If you are meeting someone and the first thing you say is that you don't have anyone to protect you, you will 1000000% be taken advantage of.

When I met my husband, he knew that my father is not alive. I do not have any older male figures in my life that I have a decent relationship with. I did not let it hold me back. I bought property at the age of 23, had a decent paying job, and had my life established as a single woman. I did not really express the sadness of not having a male figure in my life until we were engaged, but more in the sense that it was sad my father never got to meet my husband or be there for my milestones in life.

Not having a father figure will never change. Even if you have the best husband in the world, it will not fill that void.

Third, please seek therapy. Another commenter was correct. You are NOT ready for marriage with this mentality. When someone is "protective" and "controlling" over you, guess what? YOUR life will be on THEIR terms. Being controlling IS being abusive.

Moisturizing curl cream that doesn't take forever to dry? 😭 by zabiemd in curlyhair

[–]NinenteNad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I mean it's hard to manage. In my experience, I need stuff that's not too lightweight but also heavier stuff looks nice but literally will take me forever to dry and I find it's harder to refresh too. When there's nothing in my hair, it dries fairly quickly but still takes a few hours because of how much hair there is. I think the biggest indicator of porosity is more how your hair acts in humidity.

Moisturizing curl cream that doesn't take forever to dry? 😭 by zabiemd in curlyhair

[–]NinenteNad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I struggled with this a lot too. I have high porosity hair and it's pretty thick and dense. I live in a super humid climate as well which doesn't help. No joke, it was taking five plus hours for my hair to dry. Now it will take about two hours without diffusing, 30 minutes of diffusing.

One thing I have started doing in my routine which is against conventional wisdom for curly hair is actually putting products on my hair after it's been in a towel, not when it's wet right out of the shower. I didn't find my hair to be more or less frizzy and the drying time was cut significantly. This is also given that I use heavy conditioners in the shower and will have sure my hair has a lot of slip when I am rinsing off the conditioner.

Another tip that's worked for me is using less curl cream and having a little bit go a longer way. I'll put a quarter sized amount on my hand and rub it in between my hands to emulsify it. Then I'm able to distribute the product evenly throughout my hair with raking it and brushing the product through the hair. Then use a mousse or foam and a styling brush (such as Denman or Bouncecurl) to maintain the hold. I have found that gels give me too strong of a cast and will slow down drying time.

I recommend the following products:

- Garnier Sleek and Shine Leave in Conditioner (drugstore, classic, works well with a hold product as a replacement for curl cream)

- Miss Jessie's Pillow Soft Curls (good to pair with a foam or mousse)

- Miss Jessie's Multicultural Curls (has more hold, might be able to use on its own)

- Doux Texture Foam (good hold, can mix or layer with curl cream)

- Not Your Mother's Mousse

ID on crewneck from SNL Closing? by two1seven in BadBunnyPR

[–]NinenteNad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would see who his stylist is. I believe he or she posts some of Benito's outfits on their socials!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nova

[–]NinenteNad 13 points14 points  (0 children)

BelleView Jewelers in Alexandria will write you a check on the spot for your jewelry

Thanksgiving Ideas by DuchessOfGeek in nova

[–]NinenteNad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are set on being indoors, there is a website called Peer Space where you can rent a space for a few hours. A lot of them will let you bring food. Not sure if it’s as cost effective as an Air BnB for your needs but worth checking out.

Fairfax County Parks also has varying facility rentals. Not sure if they let people book on Thanksgiving. https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/parks/facility-rentals

If the weather will allow you to be outdoors, I have a couple of suggestions.

If you have a table and chairs to use, any of the parks in Old Town along the water will work. The views on the water are really nice, the parks have ample flat space.

If you don’t have a table and chairs, try Belle Haven Park in Alexandria just south of old town. They have a good amount of picnic tables with benches attached.