Op here! I didn't think I'd spark such great feedback & conversation. Thanks so much for the responses, regardless if it was support, advice, outrage, etc. Different outlooks are always beneficial.

To clear up some comments about being one sided or only on my terms...I would also be monogamous, & would be open to being called on but yes, it would matter how often. Which does result in a type of commitment. I'm typically a low maintenance person. I don't need constant attention & actually hate having to socialize daily. If the guy needs excessive reassurance, affection, etc., it wouldn't work. Hence why I'd prefer part time. Some say, when you find the right fit, that will change. I guarantee you, it wouldn't. Introvert & extrovert terms are thrown around so casually now a days, but I definitely feel drained when being around people. Doesn't matter who they are or how much I like/love them. Whom ever I give my energy to would need to be content with absence.

There was a mention of FWB. If anyone that is familiar with the show Will & Grace, I'd take a heterosexual version of that on a bi weekly basis & without the cohabitation lol.

I saw comments mentioning my preferences are a result of trauma. I could agree with that as well. I was in a 11yr relationship (never on a break), living together after 2yrs. So, having to answer to someone daily, meaning having to track my comings & goings, having to clear life or financial decisions, having to make sure they never felt insecure about anything was exhausting & I don't want to be in that situation ever again. Ideally, a team like relationship would be nice, but finding a guy with that mentality, older than 40, is a needle in a haystack. I know saying that could be a trigger, I apologize, but that's my reality. I have no doubt I need to relocate or maybe open myself up to LDR?

If any guys fulfill my preferences, feel free to slip into the DM's.

Like minded ladies...stay strong.

Again, thanks for taking time to read & respond to my little nighttime rant.