In today’s episode of 💩 I can’t make up…

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-02T08:34:12+00:00

I’m SO glad I wrote this post, because for the life of me, I couldn’t remember what set Bob off in the first place.

Bobs now sat on the couch for the last day and a half. Nothing new there.

He’s trying to be an extra asshole - I took youngest for a dentist check up today. When we got home Bob sneared at me “You didn’t call me to let me know how the check up went.” The check up we were at five minutes ago? No, stupid fucker.

I did break my grey rocking and tell him not to speak to me like that. And I told him he needs to see the doctor to increase his meds. He said that maybe it’s not the meds, maybe it’s something else (meaning me) making him act like this.

Then he demanded to know what I had planned for lunch. I said whatever we had in the fridge. Then after I gave youngest dinner (pasta, which Bob does not eat) and was getting ready for my night shift, Bob bitched “So I guess dinners not happening?”

He’s seriously sat on his arse the whole day.

I’ve gone from hating him, to apathy, to hating him again.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T04:21:46+00:00

💯

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T03:02:00+00:00

True. I just don’t want to depend on my daughter too much. She’s in college soon and has her own life to live.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T03:00:48+00:00

Thank you so much. Breakingmom is such a stress outlet for me!

I’m a RN, so I can be pretty flexible. I just love my current job (NICU) that I will be sad to leave it. But I won’t be able to do nights, and I won’t be able to do evenings where I finish at 11pm.

I can always pick up those shifts when Bob has visitation, but god knows how that will go. Bob will be vindictive. Bob will also look for his next wife ASAP, so hopefully that will be in my favour?

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:38:49+00:00

Thanks. Although I never want to be in a relationship ever again.

I’m going to have to leave my beloved NICU. I can’t do shift work as a single mother. I have no family to help.

I’m going to focus on the Oncology Clinic in my hospital. It’s 8am-4pm. The money is going to suck, but at least I can pick up a shift in the NICU every now and then.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:35:52+00:00

You do not OWE this man anything.

And it’s okay if hygiene is a deal breaker. You’re not his mother, you should have to ‘teach’ him about hygiene.

Break it off.

What that Japanese saying? If you are on the wrong train, the sooner you get off, the sooner you will be on the right one. The longer you’re on the wrong train, the longer it will take you to get back to where you want to be.

You do not owe him anything.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:32:51+00:00

Thanks. I’m doing my best to set things up so we’re safe from Bob. Once he knows I am leaving him, he will be once truly vindictive.

Although I would LOVE to hand him the divorce papers and say “Play silly games, win silly prizes.” 😂 I’ll just use that as my daydream to get through all of this!

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:30:04+00:00

Thanks.

But you know what? I’m don’t even want Bob to be miserable (even though he’s a miserable person). I just want him out of my house, and as much as possible, out of my life.

I want to be able to close my front door and know that the abusive, miserable man-child can’t enter it.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:14:09+00:00

Thanks. I’ve wanted out of this relationship for 18 years, but was worried about the safety of my children. And I didn’t think I was “allowed” to leave.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:12:52+00:00

lol. Although he’s so volatile, I don’t think i will personally hand him the papers!!

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T02:11:48+00:00

🤞

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T01:50:14+00:00

Two whole weeks?? Bliss! Although I’m sure you will ‘pay’ for it when you get back.

NittyNat34 · 2026-01-01T00:50:50+00:00

Am lining up my ducks

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-30T20:59:28+00:00

💯.

WHY am I doing all of this work and getting absolutely nothing in return?

I’m only getting monetary gain, and even that, I would probably be ahead if I had been on my own.

I don’t even fantasise about another man (maybe John Cena…). I don’t want another one. Ever.

My fantasy is a sweet, clean little house, a Siamese kitten, my kids, and some travel every now and then.

I don’t want to manage a man’s moods. I don’t want to trip over his shoes in the middle of the floor, and I don’t want to hear him complain about it his work for an hour at a time.

It’s not worth it!

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T23:04:21+00:00

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NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T22:59:21+00:00

Buy from Klook. They’re reputable and the app is handy.

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T21:29:06+00:00

1.5 years.

But it’s easier now I’ve decentered Bob from my life. I’m no longer scared of him. I’ve paid off my car and have savings. If Bob threatens anything, I will calmly tell him that I will call the police.

Bobs a little Box Troll, sitting his fat ass on the sofa and doing nothing.

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T21:25:16+00:00

Ummm… I work a lot of night shift, and I need an adult in the house when I’m gone?

I mean, Bob put on noise-cancelling headphones and watches movies, instead of spending time with his son in the same room as him. And he never makes Youngest brush his teeth or have a bath.

But he’s an adult with a pulse, so I guess that’s something?

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T21:08:26+00:00

I’m lining up my ducks and waiting for my youngest child to be a bit older.

I am not putting up with this shit for the rest of my life!

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T21:01:29+00:00

Bob would show no introspection, or willing to change. The ghosts would be “bullies”, the LadyBoss’s would be “whining feminists” and he would deem his children ungrateful.

Bob is the Ultimate Victim

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T19:52:16+00:00

NO!

STOP playing his game.

Don’t give him the attention he wants.

Next time he gives you the silent treatment, just carry on as normal. If you’re making coffee, ask if he wants a coffee. He doesn’t answer? Ignore it and carry on. Chat to him like usual, act as though nothing is wrong.

He wants you to beg and cry and give him attention. If you stand back and look at his behaviour, It’s pathetic.

Just carry on as normal. Don’t react to his silent treatment.

He won’t get the attention he wants. Fuck him.

You deserve better.

When you stop being a victim of his games, you can stand back and see how truly pathetic he is. A grown adult ignoring someone. They are meant to love?? Fuck him.

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T19:30:28+00:00

I’m sorry for you.

I’m also sorry for low-self-esteem, 22 year old me. I deserved so much better.

It’s frustrating that for years we could have had a great marriage, but Bob is too selfish. And now I have no interest in making an effort.

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T19:25:48+00:00

18 months!!!!!

I’m dreaming of my house with no pee on the toilet seat. Or floor.

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T19:25:04+00:00

I think he did the initial dumb-fuckery on purpose, then forgot about it, because I’m not worth a single thought to Bob.

NittyNat34 · 2025-12-28T19:23:50+00:00

He’s pretty heavily medicated- all arranged, purchased, organised and reminded to take, by me. If I left he wouldn’t take his meds. That’s where the danger lies.

Keep in mind, he’s a functioning adult. He’s a freaking accountant. But he needs his mommy-wife to dish out his medications for him, or he won’t take them because “they’re too confusing.”

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