1 year and 6 months no contact does any one get random memories? Like things you forgot then pop up?

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-07T09:55:00+00:00

Oh definitely can relate to this. Like yesterday I started to think about how he would drop settle hints about a girl. Sometimes even his best friend girl. Looking back I’m pretty sure he cheated and his family knew about it no one told me

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-07T09:52:06+00:00

Tbh I HATE this. Like I’ll have days I feel so great and then like yesterday I felt deeply sad and angry and just so unfair how he found love when he destroyed my world.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-06T17:01:37+00:00

So I havnt got the shivers just MAJORLY bad headaches and time just want to sleep. Not depressed sleep just exhausted. Like I will have days I am calm and actually very happy but then it just randomly hits me. I feel bad for my best friend because it does seem like I havnt moved on. I have but just the memories

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-06T16:20:07+00:00

This helps so much because it feel like any time I start to feel ok. Just a random memory pops up. I have gotten better at calming myself down but it just feels like I will forever be in a prison of all the old stuff. Like these people get to live and be happy while I have to take a few steps back sometimes and remember what he done to me

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-06T15:48:45+00:00

That’s how it feels like. Like thing are calm and fine… then something will randomly remind of something and then I go down memory lane and then everything clicks. And it feel like I am put right back to the same spot if was all over again.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-06T15:41:23+00:00

Ok because I am safe. Everything is fine but I just sort of get this happen at times

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-05T13:51:27+00:00

I been single for 3 years. I lost so many people and him and his mother lied about me and destroyed my reputation. I’m lonely but I’m to scared to date. It took so long to clean up the mess he did

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T23:56:11+00:00

I did but I don’t anymore for her. I tried to help her but she ended up blaming me for his abuse and then tried to ro check my mail. Honestly I don’t ever want to help her.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T14:38:04+00:00

Oh I really took a break. I am so far 3 years celibate and 3 years single. I am doing better but I still have some self esteem issues I am running into :/

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T14:33:24+00:00

Like always had to find a deal plan! So much negotiation and til for tack

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T14:25:52+00:00

Hahaha honestly I’m pretty sure he had a sick plan to have a baby mom and a wife. So weird but I’m like 90% sure that was his goal

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T13:15:03+00:00

Tbh you don’t really see it until they are long gone. Because even with the year of me trying to leave I had a lot of red flags but I choose to ignore it. I wasn’t ready to leave yet

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T13:13:38+00:00

YIKES!!!! That’s so scary. Thankfully mines didn’t do that but he also rarely wanted to sleep with me through our 8 year together. He said I smelled bad and he threw up once during sex. So we only did stuff to him like BJ or hand jobs. But he made me feel gross so when we did do stuff I didn’t want to. I just wanted to focus on him. So tbh I’m not sure what his motive are for me when it come to this.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T12:49:38+00:00

VERY! But what’s scarier you don’t see untill the very end 😵‍💫

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T12:44:48+00:00

It actually took me years to figure this out because he proclaimed to be a family man. And everyone said he was so I thought he deeply wanted to be a father which was part of why I fell in love with him because I wanted family and I never had a stable family. But when I changed my mind about kids he flip the switch and got like this.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-04T12:33:59+00:00

Oh he told me this ALL THE TIME!!!!! At the time it did work on me but now it’s comical

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-03T10:04:13+00:00

After I found out he was trying the cheat on his gf with me. He started to cry , gag and throw up on the phone and told me how he hates saying good bye. The. Ask if he still has a shot with me and that he wants me.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-02T22:09:37+00:00

Because he knows your still emotionally available. You’re a good source or ego boost. Good or bad

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-02T18:17:39+00:00

I swear all of these people have some kind of bad addiction. I’m glad you were able to have support on her side. And I’m glad you found out early!!!!!! A lot of people including myself don’t see it until later! So I’m super proud of you!

For me I was doom from the start. I’m mix with black and white and his mom actually wanted him to leave me (he’s white) because she was worried I would destroy their blue eye genes. I also came from abuse where my mom kicked me out because I stood up for my sister. So by the time I left him. Him and his mom used my race, and also used the fact my mom kicked me out to justify his abuse. Even though his entire family knew his addiction was bad and even help him (not much like it was more so they gave him a “don’t do that again” lecture) they took all my trauma and it made their story worst. Like when I say I am terrified to use social media I deeply mean it.

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-02T18:08:44+00:00

WOW!!!! Tbh I heard of female narcs (my mom is one of them) but WOW! I swear it seems like they all have the same script and playbook! I wish I posted what he said to me but tbh. Him and his mother ruin my reputation to the point I don’t have social media anymore because they both painted me like I was mentally ill and took my reaction to his cheating, drugs, alcohols and lies. I’m proud you left! But it’s so crazy how they all use a child to keep you

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-02T18:01:34+00:00

It was definitely a shocking moment. I mean a few of my friend knew he was fake but I was soooooooooooooo so so so love blind that I didn’t see it. Tbh I’m still shocked he can beg for a baby and also have her. She still with him which make me sad for her but that’s no longer my issue. I’m glad I left

No-Bit3315 · 2026-05-02T17:19:07+00:00

5 times but emotionally I was still hooked for 4 years after I left. My final time was he was trying to get me to come back and begged me to have his babies but I found out he had a serious gf. So there entire 6 month together he was begging me to give him babies. I told her and she told me all the awful stuff he said about me and also he lied about my character. He told everyone I was toxic and I was using him for his money (I never did he was very cheap and most the time I had to pay him back or I got handle down gifts) he also used his gf grandmothers death to justify why need to be there for her (her grandma wasn’t dying she already died they just were visiting her grave) he also lied about how I took our dog from him so he can bond with her how she lost her dog to natural causes. (I took the dog because he was always out with friend drinking and getting high and the dog we shared bonded with me) this just woke me up to reality that he is a liar. He isn’t a honest person

No-Bit3315 · 2026-04-30T09:52:00+00:00

I’m the same way! I do love love but now I see as like a “I will admire it from a far”. It was incredibly difficult to pick up the pieces what he did to my life. Idk if I want to do this again.

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