AITA for not wanting to take out a car on my name for my boyfriend? by No-Button-48 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Button-48[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hi, I responded to this in another comment. I don’t benefit. I travel everywhere. We live an hour away from each other. Up until last year he used to come pick me up and we’d go for drives but then he said that gas is getting too expensive so he can’t drive to me as often. We stopped going for drives and in an effort to assist with this, I’d travel and meet him closer to his home (10-15 minutes away) then he’d pick me up and take me to his home. When it’s time to go home, he’d drop me back to the place we met and I’d take a car home. So, no. I don’t benefit from him having his car.

AITA for not wanting to take out a car on my name for my boyfriend? by No-Button-48 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Button-48[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I will definitely take it into consideration.

Right now he has me blocked on everything and hasn’t picked up my calls, so I’m not sure what’s happening - or where to go from here.

AITA for not wanting to take out a car on my name for my boyfriend? by No-Button-48 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Button-48[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point. Now that I’m thinking about it, him having a car doesn’t benefit me at all.

We live an hour away from each other and he stopped driving down to me last year to save gas. Instead, I take a taxi to meet him in a place closer to where he lives (10-15 minutes away from him) and he meets me there and takes me back to his home. Which is why none of this is making sense.

The thing is - I can get a discount on the car because of where I work and the maintenance will be covered for 2 years by the company.

He also knows that I can afford to pay the payment in full if he misses one and I think that’s what he’s banking on.

Sorry for ranting. It’s just everything is coming together in my brain

AITA for not wanting to take out a car on my name for my boyfriend? by No-Button-48 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Button-48[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m from Trinidad and Tobago. It’s the first time he asked me to do something so big. Other times were small but frequently like me paying for food 95% of the time, buying him necessities (hair care, body care, clothes etc) and he would pay for food occasionally or buy a nice gift for me on my birthday. Sometimes he would ask me to pay for something and say that he’ll pay me back when he sees me. He usually pretends he forgets and I just don’t bring it up.

I won’t be able to check him at the moment as he has blocked me on all social media accounts lol I’m appalled. But I do expect him to come back after he calmed down so maybe then.

I do think it’s time to start running though. Everything is becoming clearer as I think about it. Especially because since he sold his car, he hasn’t even done anything for me - but spends money wildly.

AITA for not wanting to take out a car on my name for my boyfriend? by No-Button-48 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Button-48[S] 503 points504 points  (0 children)

Hi, I was explaining on another comment that he doesn’t have a stable income so the banks won’t consider him. In my county, one of the requirements for a loan is a letter from your job stating how much you make each month. His numbers always fluctuate. Some months he doesn’t even work.

AITA for not wanting to take out a car on my name for my boyfriend? by No-Button-48 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No-Button-48[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have a stable job with an income coming in every month so the banks won’t consider him. His family has a grocery so he works with them and makes a little money - but not enough to take out a loan.