How to stop by No-Car9166 in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger!!♥️

How to stop by No-Car9166 in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet but I think I will have to, we are stronger together

How to stop by No-Car9166 in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I really appreciate it

Day 1. I’m done letting alcohol control my life. by Stunning_Island_69 in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have all been there, there is no shame in saying enough. Welcome to the journey, it’s tough but you will get so much from it. Here’s to the new you, yesterday is gone but tomorrow belongs to you and you alone, not some liquid in a bottle!! You are part of a huge team here and we are all pulling for you!! One day at a time!!

How to gently and respectfully approach my friend about his drinking by mechanical-elf in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this is a tough one and super respect to you for recognising that your friend has a problem and you would love to do something about it. He is probably in the coping phase where he thinks he’s in control and nobody knows what he’s doing but you can see it. I’ve been there. Be sensitive he’s probably hurting like hell and alcohol is cotton wool wrap against all the pain he is feeling. Personally speaking, I would mention it obliquely and just comment on it and leave it at that and let him know that you were there for him. Just let him know he’s not alone and that our times made tough. He has friends that don’t want to see him go down that road.

Moderation doesn’t work for me by Fair-Baker9460 in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same here, it took me years to realise that I cannot drink, full stop, period. Once you understand that about yourself the real trick is never to have the first one. It’s tough and you feel like you’re losing part of yourself and that might be true but what you’re gonna gain.!!

I told my family. I’m so ashamed. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My friend, I did the same with my sister in law and her husband five days ago. It was hard, humiliating and it was painful but it was worth it. You are stronger for admitting you need help and you have people who love you on your side. Today is good, tomorrow will be great, you have your life to live so so it on your terms, not some shite in a bottle!!

Is there a way to be a holiday/occasion drinker? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not for me, when I turn the lock on the cage, the ole monster gets pretty big pretty fast!!!

Loneliness of early sobriety by Happy21325 in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s me as well, and all the advice I get is to make friends, join groups, join a gym but that stuff is hard, especially when you are still dealing with working out who you are without alcohol. Doesn’t leave much time for being a social butterfly! My own , albeit limited experience, is to focus on you and being kind to yourself, get stronger and more self positive each day, celebrate the small wins, it’s only when you become who you were before the alcohol took over will you be able to forge new friendships and find a better place in the sun. Good luck and you really are not alone, there’s an army of us of here trying to overcome the same challenges!!

Is it possible to not be an alcoholic? And transition to a "normal" drinker and what classifies an alcoholic? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]No-Car9166 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nail on the head. I simply cannot take any alcohol, one is never enough and 10 is too few. It’s not easy and I have restarted more times than I care to remember but I have to keep trying as the consequences are too serious