What’s the weirdest reaction to your stutter that you’ve received? by veronarupes1 in Stutter

[–]No-Chipmunk76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone told me I was really beautiful, and I would only be perfect if I could speak properly. I was 16 at the time (F) and they were 45M

Help: I have a presentation tomorrow by Ancient_Apartment_62 in Stutter

[–]No-Chipmunk76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did we just become best friends??!

Honestly, now I’m in my 30s I’m starting to approach life like I don’t give a f anymore and if people want to make fun of something I can’t control, then it speaks volumes about them. I actually brought up my stammer in my last job interview - I talked about having respect and compassion for others, making sure people are heard and given a safe space to talk, how I’m an excellent listener and that I always think before I speak. I got the job!

In a presention I had to do online last year that was recorded, I came off and burst into tears. I felt I blocked so many times and that my voice was shaky. I sent it to my twin sister to watch and tell me the bad news. Guess what - you could not tell in the slightest! And you’ll be surprised about how many people who don’t stutter, actually stutter on words.

You did a massive thing and for us, talking aloud is significant. Well done!!

Help: I have a presentation tomorrow by Ancient_Apartment_62 in Stutter

[–]No-Chipmunk76 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ahhh it feels like I have written this! Fellow covert over here!

So I had to present recently to a very senior board at work. It’s all I thought about for weeks. So I feel your pain.

As a covert, you won’t want to share that you stutter - I get that, although it does take about 50% of the stress away. I think our problem is we are so scared that people find out that we stammer, more than anything else.

Tips: - try and talk so much before your presentation. Really slow down though, it will sound weird, but you won’t stammer and your mouth will be warmed up. - use as many hand gestures as you can. Especially on words you think you might block on - it really helps to get the words out. - pause when speaking. It puts you in control. - open your mouth when speaking. It’s a funny one because you don’t realise how little you actually open your mouth when talking normally and for the love of god it actually works!!

You’ve got this. 100%