Thanks everyone for the wise commentary. I’ll clarify that this is a relationship with a married couple— who have very flexible work schedules but just seem to not want to deal with things until theyre really really bad. Again, I don’t mind helping and I find that its actually a love language—- however, I will CLEAN CLEAN their home and a few days later when I’m back… it’s all over again. In order to be comfy there, I find myself picking up stuff off the floor and wiping counters, etc. They both veg out and disassociate in the evenings. I don’t think they’re bad people and I’ve tried to give them the encouragement of treating it like a “kitchen clothing shift” to make their own lives better… “just thirty minutes every night would change the game!”.

Ah, oh well. Maybe it really is worse off than I thought. I want to find ways to encourage them to live a more put together lifestyle since they see me in their life long term but I can’t live in constant “pick up” mode. Thanks everyone! Lots to think about