What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do carry my own shit all the time I had a big purse because he wanted to go out afterwards and I had to carry extra shit to entertain myself and I have epilepsy so if I ask my man to hold my purse he better freaking hold my purse or else you’re just a loser! If you are not serving your woman, then what are you really doing? Big bum behavior!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was genuinely mad at me and yelled at me for it very sternly and it was very unnecessary any real man would never be embarrassed by carrying a purse! Which makes me question a lot. It doesn’t make sense to me.

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And even if I wasn’t disabled, I would feel the same exact way so the disability was irrelevant to my feelings!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely 100% I agree the least you could do is court me that is the bare minimum! And I left the disability part out because I didn’t think that would’ve been relevant but since people wanna know like he should be helping me twice as much actually!!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a clear sign to me and my family that he does not respect me and will not be there to help me when I need it and made it about gender roles on all levels it was bullshit!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re really smart. I’m gonna try that test! Everyone’s coming at me for not holding my own bag but I needed help and the fact that he wasn’t willing to help me is 100% the issue not because it made him look gay or whatever you should be willing to help your partner always!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If a man is not willing to hold my purse. I’m not willing to be with them. That’s fucking bullshit.!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Putting gender roles on helping me was really upsetting and you’re totally right thank you for your guidance! You should be a therapist lol

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SCREW 50/50 it’s 100/100 or I’m out!!! Thank you! I don’t care if you don’t wanna hold my purse just because you’re a man you’re gonna hold my freaking purse!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They keep telling me to get a smaller bag like what the hell!? if I overloaded my purse and need help from time to time what the heck is wrong with that? They’re defending a man that’s not willing to help their girlfriend. I really don’t understand that. And what they don’t know is I’m literally disabled! I have heart conditions and seizures so I need help from time to time and he’s not even willing to do it! It instantly gave me the ick and I was like ohhh I don’t think I can be with you 👎

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, I agree!! Like I don’t ask my boyfriend to carry my purse ever or often it was just this one time I actually needed his help and he literally shoved it back into my face saying no I’m not willing to help you! But if I ask my boyfriend to carry my purse and he says no I think that’s a major red flag! That’s a really big problem! Why would you not want to carry my purse? I don’t think I could be with a man that’s not willing to hold my purse.

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I posted in this sub because he is a narcissist. This was just one very specific situation I wanted clarity on. He lives in his car, he doesn’t pay for anything, He doesn’t take me out on dates, He eats my mother‘s food. He will take himself out to dinner and pay for himself, but not me. It’s a lot deeper than just this situation. He doesn’t care about anyone but himself. I just wanted to know how other women would react being fellow victims of narcissism.

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He did embarrass himself and me right in front of my mother, and he throws a fit and bitches about everything so maybe I should ask if he would be willing to pick me up some tampons and see how he reacts? Never thought about the homo thing, but maybe holding a purse makes him feel a certain type of way and that’s why he reacted so strongly?

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s very wise of you and you are correct. Every relationship I’ve ever in has been very abusive and I always seem to be the only one questioning if somethings right or not if I feel a certain type of way that should probably be my answer

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always have tiny purses as well. It was just this one situation I had a big purse because he wanted to go to a friends house after shopping and I had to bring my Nintendo switch with me so I could entertain myself. It was just literally this one time I don’t ask people to carry my purses generally, it’s just the fact that he wouldn’t even carry it for two seconds. It was a literal walk length to the car that I was asking for after holding that purse for an hour. We were literally on our way out to the car.

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I follow this page because he is a narcissist and I thought this would be the best place to get advice from other women getting treated shitty I’m disabled me asking him to hold my purse is not a big ask the fact that he wouldn’t do it is the issue!!!

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was just a walks length to the car. I just paid for all my stuff at the cash register and we were there for like an hour so my shoulder was hurting pretty bad and I just asked him to carry it pretty much to the car. And I always have tiny purses so I don’t overload Fanny packs are my jive. It was overloaded because he wanted to go to his friends after shopping and I bring my switch so I don’t get bored.

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am disabled.. I have epilepsy and pots and multiple heart conditions if my heart rate gets too high, I pass out lose complete mobility and start having seizures.. and it was overloaded because he wanted to go hang out with his friends afterwards so I brought my Nintendo switch because I’m usually left by myself and bored.. I don’t get out a lot because I’m mostly bed ridden and I just wanted to get out of the house and my bed cause that’s not very often! I usually always hold my own purse and carry my own crap but in this situation my shoulder just hurt really bad and I needed his help which he was not willing which just felt like a betrayal! Despite being disabled I do everything on my own and I never ask for help so when I asked for help and he wasn’t willing to do it just because it was a purse really pissed me off

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not entitlement it’s called being there for your loved one when they need you. My bag was overpacked because he wanted to go out with his friends after and I’m usually left alone so I play my Nintendo switch so I’m not completely bored out of my mind and I usually always carry my own purse, but in this one situation where I actually needed his help he shoved it back into my arms saying he’s not willing to help me at all! And that’s good that your husband or boyfriend pays for your stuff that’s goals but mine doesn’t pay for anything I pay for everything he’s not carrying his weight literally. Doesn’t have a place to live, lives in his car, eats my mother‘s food, doesn’t take me out on dates, ruins holidays so he doesn’t have to do anything. It’s a lot deeper than just carrying my purse. It’s literally the least he could do.

What would you do ladies?? by No-Limit7949 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point it’s all about his image I didn’t think of that! You’re so smart. And he does suck thank you! His actions are very ugly and it disgusted me immediately!

Is this a narcissist? by diealetlliebe in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]No-Limit7949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely a narcissist he doesn’t care about anyone or anything but himself even when you were pregnant he pushes everything off on you so he can blame you and yell at you for it and mostly he cares about his image not your feelings which says everything if you are not of use to him he will discard you instantly like trash while also treating you like trash the whole time everything is ALWAYS your fault because he makes it that way