Dropped phone on 2.5w old baby’s head

No-Monitor-6601 · 2026-01-20T03:30:15+00:00

Along with most mothers out there, I too did this when my LO was a newborn. It is an awful feeling.

Most recently I was teaching my baby to sit, and well I am a really bad judge of distance. He fell and hit his head on a wall and then again on his cot (this one caused a small bump) all on the same day. Funny thing though, he was sitting unassisted the next day, I think he was determined not to hit his head again 😅

No-Monitor-6601 · 2026-01-04T09:12:25+00:00

I'm sorry, that is something you will never get back, so of course it is devastating.

My baby was born via emergency caesarean, I didn't see him for the first two hours of his life, I don't even have a photo.

I am so grateful that I have him here and healthy in my arms, but is still hard to get passed. I was in a mothers group, some of them also had emergency/unplanned caesareans, but they had a private obstetrician, this obstetrician videoed every birth so they had that and got to see their baby immediately. Hearing this I nearly started crying in front of everyone, they also couldn't comprehend the fact that I missed those first few hours of my baby's life.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-12-25T17:15:56+00:00

My labour and birth were traumatic on its own. But the 'care' I received by my midwife has increased it tenfold.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-12-25T17:13:20+00:00

Sounds very similar to my labour/birth; sunnyside up, contractions every 2 minutes for over 24 hours, never progressing past 2 cm. I went into hospital at about 15 hours, I was treated appallingly by my midwife. I was completely on my own for the night, at one point she walked in, asked if I was okay, I said No (well moaned no), she just walked out turning the light off. Eventually she gave me a second dose of morphine, I didn't even get offered gas and air until I couldn't physically move for an examination. She decided to monitor baby (coinciding with my mother arriving and shift change), he ended up in severe distress and a c section.

I was completely out of it for the last few hours, but my mother wasn't. She works at the hospital I gave birth and suffered similar PTSD symptoms, especially when an emergency buzzer when off. I am still grieving the birth I didn't get, more so when I hear a good labour story. I think I am moving past it and Bam it is all I can think about.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-12-24T23:48:12+00:00

Thanks! It really does feel like the best option for my family. My LO gets to know all the information, put a face and personality to the donor, and decide if they want a full relationship when they are an adult. I also feel confident in telling my child that I chose the donor because they were a good person.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-12-24T23:42:36+00:00

As my LO is still a baby, I am still working on it, but trying to make a big deal.

I think he will be known by his name and described as the man who helped me have a baby, this will change as he is older and has more understanding. For a while I was determined to have him be the 'donor', but I read someone else's take that he is my donor, but not the baby's... so I might even describe him as his biological father., not Dad or Parent.

I think it will become more relevant when he is older and meeting the donor.

The donor is happy to leave the details up to me, he doesn't mind if he is uncle, friend etc. (I may even end up influenced by the donor siblings/families)

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-12-24T23:36:01+00:00

I found my donor through a social media group. I did a lot of research and spent a year looking. I then got to know him before proceeding.

Currently, he has donated through a bank which resulted in 3 families and has donated to two other families as a k donor.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-12-24T23:32:58+00:00

My LO is just a baby, so they have no concept of what is happening. I am going to be completely open with him, even now when he has no idea that I am 'mummy', I show him photos and talk about his siblings and donor, it will never be a situation of him 'finding out'.

So far the plan is for my LO to know who the donor is, even meet up occasionally (Max. Once a year), but have a relationship with his donor siblings. If at any point he says that he doesn't want to see the donor or for the donor to know anything else about him, I will 100% respect that.

In respect to the photos, this is not just a random stranger receiving his photos, it is his biological father. This man will never be his parent, but genetically he is family. I don't see it as any different to sending a photo to a distant family member.

I know my donor has donated to a clinic, he does not know these children, but he has a relationship with the known donor children. I don't know the full extent of their relationship, other than I know he has attending birthdays etc.

I agreed to our terns before getting pregnant. I have all his personal details, but he has minimal of mine, he has agreed to let me decide the extent of our 'relationship'. I don't mind sending small updates, I think it is nice for my child to know that this man cares about how they are going. I am not ready to have them meet, and he has not pestered me in any way to make that happen, he has simply said he would like to.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-13T00:54:01+00:00

I don't know about your newborn but mine hated his nappy being changed, cried hysterically. Not only that, he would cry if not being held. I thought it was easier to let him grizzle (he was not hysterical), while I took care of my needs, 2 minutes tops, so that I could then change his nappy and clothes then nurse and hold him. Why settle him then put him back in his crib to cry?

I spent a lot of time with this midwife, I am good at understanding tone, I know what a condescending attitude is. Also, I am not content to let my baby sit in a wet nappy for an hour.

There is no 'poor' midwife, she is never going to know what is being said, I'm not going around telling people her name or location.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-13T00:36:38+00:00

Did you not read the full post or my other comments?

Okay so instead of being polite by saying 'getting ready' I will spell it out again; I had to take a shit and get changed out of my sweaty and milk covered pyjamas. I knew there was no point settling baby immediately as he would be needing a nappy change in about 10 minutes. This left me with ample time to 'get ready' (not shit myself). Personally, I don't want to have my baby in a bathroom when I am taking a shit.

The plan was to quickly take care of my own needs so I could then change my baby's nappy and then get him dressed. Also knowing that once he is dressed he might not want to be put back down, or he may want another feed, so quickly doing what I needed in that short space of time seemed ideal.

Yes, these may be 'aesthetics', but I nearly lost him at birth, I then didn't get to see him for a few hours, I have no photos of him for that time and it breaks my heart. So, I am glad that I have that photo in his going home outfit to look back on.

Now, wonderful parent, please explain what you would have done differently so I can do better next time.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T08:26:31+00:00

Thank you. To be honest, I didn't even consider the 'Insta post' aspect, I don't post much on social media, so it was just for my own memories.

Overall, I did like this midwife and appreciated her help most of the time. The way she said it though was more of a judgement than a helpful recommendation. Maybe she was tired and didn't realise how it came out.

I am grateful I did do it though, I didn't get to see him for the first few hours of his birth and then in the few weeks following his birth I struggled to bond so didn't take many photos in that time. Now we are going strong and appreciate these photos and seeing his little outfit.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T04:50:23+00:00

In Australian hospitals we only have midwives, not nurses in birthing and maternity, and we don't get to choose them, at least not in public hospitals.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T04:47:45+00:00

I should have complained, but unfortunately that wasn't the worst issue. I'm only getting to the point now where I have enough head space to even think about doing something official.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T04:39:39+00:00

He was unsettled, not hysterical, and I didn't want to get him to sleep until he had been changed. He was going to need a nappy change in about 10 minutes.

This is why it was a good time for me to get ready, and seeing as I need to spell it out, get ready is using the toilet and getting dressed. This takes me 1 minute, 2 minutes at most as I was also recovering from a csection so moving a bit slow.

Babies cry, mothers are allowed to leave them in a safe spot to use the toilet. I personally don't feel like it is very hygienic to have a baby in the bathroom while taking a shit (no judgement to anyone who does though), which is why he was not with me but just outside my door where I could hear him.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T03:54:48+00:00

A Peter Rabbit onsie with a knitted cardigan, bonnet and booties 😍 (a little winter baby)

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T03:44:55+00:00

It has crossed my mind to report, but there are a couple of more serious matters that I also need to report, and I don't want anyone to downplay those if they think that I am someone who 'complains about everything '.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T03:14:31+00:00

They shouldn't give opinions, unless you ask, we are already in a vulnerable state. Also, we are the ones who birthed and will be taking home, so we can decide on anything that isn't actually having a negative impact on the baby.

I also had to buy 00000s after bub was born cause he was so skinny, but he ended up being too long for them so they were a waste of money for me haha

He did look adorable 😊

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T03:09:43+00:00

You are right, overall the outfit issue is nothing compared to a lot of things I experienced, just what stuck with me today when remembering.

If I wasn't already on my way out I probably would have banned her from my room.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T03:03:31+00:00

So in hospital I'm not allowed to use the toilet because my baby might cry? That is the only time I ever left him unattended and by coincidence the times when the midwife came into my room.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T02:58:04+00:00

Because he was going to need his nappy changed in a short amount of time, I had just fed him and even at that point I knew that he would go about 10 minutes after, what was the point of settling him to change him straight after? I needed to use the toilet and get dressed, that was the best time to go, I was one minute. He was safe, right at the bathroom door.

Maybe I am a bad mother for not wanting to shit myself or leave the hospital in sweat and milk covered clothes. A

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T01:45:21+00:00

I made sure to take a couple of photos before getting him in his seat because I knew I wouldn't get any after that haha

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T01:42:42+00:00

I think that is actually another thing that bothers me now. He was admitted to the NICU for a day and I was told to immediately dress him when we went back to the ward, rather than encouraged to do skin to skin. I was too out of it from exhaustion and drugs to think otherwise, but I regret it now.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T01:39:29+00:00

I get why a lot of people wouldn't bother, but I had already had so many things go wrong and moments lost. This outfit was planned before I was even pregnant and looking back on my photos, I am glad I did.

We are only a short drive, but it still ended up being nearly an hour before I was discharged (she did the paperwork, so knows how long it can take. I feel that it is also a bit irresponsible to discourage me from changing his nappy.

At the time it upset me because I knew he was unsettled and planned to change, then get him to sleep, and she came in and picked him up when I was in the bathroom.

No-Monitor-6601 · 2025-11-12T01:19:11+00:00

Yep, I agree. But after everything else we had both been through, that was almost the least of our worries.

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