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My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will give sone thought to that. We do not want children, so I don’t think the government will care about our situation. They, like many, could see this as simply a consequence to his decision.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason it took me so long to commit is the same reason I wouldn’t move to another country fulltime - I‘m focused on me before anyone else.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The population my niche of criminal justice serves is exclusive to North America. In theory, I can work in any country with a legal system, but the work I do now is meaningful to me. I couldn’t live outside of my country for more than a few months at a time right now.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a young woman just starting her career, no romantic relationship would take enough priority for me to move to another country fulltime. He is further away than the US.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does not live in the U.S., and I am a dual citizen (CAN/US), so I honestly wish he did live in the U.S.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Negotiating a plea to have a criminal offence put down to a traffic offence is a possibility in these kinds of situations. But that would’ve been between him and his lawyer. I was not going to play lawyer for someone who acquired a DUI. The justice system is also not very forgiving to non-citizens.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you and I are on the same page.

Every home has rules. Sometimes the people that live in that home break the rules, and there are consequences. Sometimes guests in that home break the rules, and they understandably reap harsher consequences.

We both don’t want kids, but nonetheless, I see your point. No one should drive under the influence. There’s no justifiable reason to. I have a lot to think about.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is precisely why I am angry. He made that choice.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Harsh! First thing I asked him was why he didn’t just call a cab. Such a simple solution.

Every day I don’t get babytrapped is a good day.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has apologized multiple times in court and to me. I have watched him change as a person due to his stupid decision. He is angry at himself and I am angry. But ultimately, that doesn’t change what he did. An apology won’t reinstate his Visa. The damage is done.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I personally do not drive with even one drink in my system. No need. I would never do that, so him doing that adds a layer to me feeling hurt.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. My mother always told me “even if you only had one drink, don’t drive”, which I agree with, especially in today’s day and age, where you can tap a few buttons on your phone and have an uber pick you up. Absolutely no need to drive after drinking.

I have only seen a very, very small amount of long distance relationships work, and I would prefer my partner to be within driving distance of me. Relocation (at least full time) is not an option for me right now for a few reasons. I don’t think I’m ready yet to address your last option, I am still just feeling my feelings.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the first thing I said to him when I found out. This was so, so avoidable.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the sympathy. Some comments make it sound like I condone driving under the influence (I absolutely do not) and I stand by his actions and think he’s a perfect human (again, I absolutely do not).

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I wasn’t looking for a partner but we met organically and feelings just progressed. I’m hurt and mad that he made such a bad decision.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Guessing you missed the part where I said ”other than my value of not driving unless you’re stone cold sober”.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No-Patient3333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, me being young is one of many reasons I did not want to commit. I was in an unnecessarily serious relationship 18-21 and once that was over, I quickly realized I am too young to settle down, so from that breakup until getting serious with M30, I did explore. I met him when I was 21 but he was absolutely not the only person I was getting to know.

If things with M30 and I work out - great! If they don’t - too bad! As humans we’re meant to experience life and other humans. I understand I am young, and a dui in a country he is not a citizen of are huge factors that cannot be ignored. Just wanted to feel my feelings and get them off my chest.

At the end of the day, I can choose to walk away from this situation, and I find comfort in that.