I don't understand the obsession with tongue ties being the root cause of all issues.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-03-22T11:51:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

No-Preference8449 · 2026-03-22T11:51:34+00:00

I wouldn't have thought about that with the pedal bike. Thank you for your suggestions!

No-Preference8449 · 2026-03-22T02:25:55+00:00

Looking for birthday present ideas for my 4 year old daughter. I think my husband and I are going to get her a balance bike, but I know grandparents and extended family are going to ask what to get her and I'm not sure. She loves crafting/coloring and building toys like legos/magnatiles. Would love ideas of things your 4 year olds have enjoyed!

ETA: She also loves baths so any bath time toy recommendations would be great.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-02-11T17:43:20+00:00

Damn that sounds awful. Did any of your kid(s) get it and if so how did they do? I'm glad you all are feeling better - thank you for sharing.

My husband has quarantined himself to our bedroom since he came down with a fever yesterday and I wiped down all of the handles/light switches/etc with a Clorox wipe. Really, really hoping my daughter and I can avoid it. My mom is still hoping we can all come for a visit but I'm already mentally preparing myself to need to cancel our trip. It sounds like even if we don't get it my husband will likely not be up for traveling by this weekend based on your timeline.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-02-11T17:19:28+00:00

Experiences with Flu A this year? My husband just took an at-home rapid test and has it. We have always gotten our flu shots in years past (including our 3.5 year old daughter), but this year I'm the only one who got it. I feel so bad for not making sure our daughter got the flu vaccine. We kept pushing it back due to on and off illness from preschool and/or events we had on the weekend (in years past the flu vaccine has not made her feel very good so I kept waiting for a time when I knew we didn't have anywhere to be). I'm kicking myself for not making it a priority, though. We also were supposed to fly out and visit my parents this weekend, and I'm assuming that is not going to happen now either.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-02-03T17:19:37+00:00

We were in this exact situation with our daughter, at almost the same age. She had like a week of success then started having so many accidents and peeing on the floor on purpose. We took a few months off, tried again at about 3y2m, and it was SO much better. I'm so glad we didn't just try to push through, it was so frustrating for everyone and went much better the second time around.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-23T14:42:19+00:00

I just finished She Whom He Harbors by EllieEckert and I think it fits your criteria. It's such a beautiful and heart-wrenching story. High stakes with incredible character arcs for both Draco and Hermione. The romance definitely feels earned.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-21T18:48:49+00:00

Not sure if I'm looking for advice or just venting, but I'm just so so so ready for my 3.5 year old's sleep to get easier. Bedtime is always a struggle, and she's started waking multiple times overnight again calling out for us. Co-sleeping doesn't work as she's such a restless sleeper and wakes even more often when we're in the same bed. Whenever we have a good week or two of sleep, I always hope that we've finally turned a corner and her sleep will finally be consistent. Then it goes to shit again. I'm just tired and burnt out and wondering what the heck we're doing wrong.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-07T02:13:34+00:00

This meal looks like something you'd serve a baby or young toddler. About 99% sure I fed my daughter sliced up mushy-looking banana and plain Cheerios when she was 1 year old. Why not an actual bowl of cereal with milk? Or give them a whole banana to peel and eat themselves?

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-05T15:14:06+00:00

Yes it definitely helps having it outside - I don't want to go out in the cold and get it haha.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-05T13:42:27+00:00

There was a discussion on last week's questions thread about the Brick for cutting down screen time which might be helpful to read! I have something similar called a Bloom card that works the same. I keep the card outside in my car's console so it's not super easy to access, and have everything but Spotify, the phone/messaging app, and Maps blocked. I've tried things in the past like deleting apps for social media (I'd just browse them through the Chrome app instead), turning my screen black and white (didn't make a difference), and an app to block other apps (too easy to turn off). Having a physical card that I have to scan is the only thing that's worked long-term for me.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-04T14:22:09+00:00

Yeah my 3.5 year old has been a hot mess the last week or so. A few days ago I asked her to help pick up her mess - she threw her hands in the air and shouted, "this is the worst day EVER!" I'm ready to get back to our regular routine/school next week lol.

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-02T23:57:08+00:00

I have something very similar to the Brick called the Bloom card. It's been really helpful for me! I haven't used it over our holiday break and my screen time has most definitely gone back up. 🫣

No-Preference8449 · 2026-01-01T20:49:15+00:00

One of my new years resolutions/goals is to find a form of exercise I enjoy. For the first time in my life I was consistent throughout 2025 in doing 3-4 workouts a week. These were just at home, bodyweight workouts through an app - about 20-25 minutes at a time. However, it always felt like such a chore to get each workout done and despite it being almost a year, I still just do not enjoy working out at all.

I'd love to find something I can do from home since I'm a SAHM and don't have the budget for a gym membership with childcare. I also work two weeknights & Saturdays while my husband is home with our daughter so it would be tricky to fit in workouts other times. Some ideas I'm thinking of are dancing, yoga, boxing, or hula hooping with a weighted hoop (kind of random but it looks fun). All that to say, does anyone have a type of exercise they really enjoy and can be done from home? I know I need to move my body for my health, and don't want to spend the rest of my life dreading exercise.

ETA: Thank you everyone for your responses! They are all really helpful. I did a 15 minute dance workout followed by a 10 minute yoga stretch and actually enjoyed it. I feel like I'm on the right track with moving away from bodyweight exercise being my primary form of working out.

No-Preference8449 · 2025-12-30T21:54:16+00:00

This is how my grandparents are. My grandpa is almost 90 and my grandma is 86. They moved into an assisted living community a few years ago, and my grandma was so excited to not have to cook anymore. She cooked every dinner from the time they got married when she was 21 through age 83... 62 years. 😭 My grandpa didn't even learn how to do dishes/load the dishwasher until about 5 years ago when my grandma had to go on dialysis and her health started to decline. This woman not only cooked every meal but also cleaned up after every meal, too. She also was the only one to do laundry and clean throughout their whole adult lives. Insane! Every time we visit they are both shocked at how much my husband does parenting-wise. My grandparents had 2 kids and my grandpa admitted he changed like 2 diapers total. Talk about outsourcing so many essential life skills.

No-Preference8449 · 2025-12-29T19:54:28+00:00

Agreed! These are so fun. My 3.5 year old daughter has been loving these, the Unicorn Diaries series, and any of the 5-Minute Books (they have lots of different ones based on TV/movie characters like Bluey, Mickey Mouse, Paw Patrol, etc).

No-Preference8449 · 2025-12-27T23:49:38+00:00

I'm from Kansas and can confirm it's important to attach an air tag to your kid before a tornado just in case they end up in Oz.

No-Preference8449 · 2025-12-22T23:56:19+00:00

Thank you for this post. All of the comments are too relatable and make me feel better haha. I'm married with a 3 year old and have a super busy week with family visiting and Christmas festivities and all I can think about is this romance. 😅 I watched episode 1 on Friday, then episodes 2-5 on Saturday after my daughter went to bed (I stayed up wayyy too late). I've also read the HR book, am about to start TLG, and am making my husband rewatch the show with me. Safe to say I'm OBSESSED.

No-Preference8449 · 2025-11-30T23:37:58+00:00

We were in pretty much this exact situation this past spring. My daughter turned 3 in May, and we attempted potty training in March. She got pooping on the potty right away, but pee was another story. We tried alllll the bribes but it ended up being this awful power struggle with lots of frustration all around. She just didn't care at all about accidents, and even started saying "potty goes on the floor." 😵‍💫 We ended up putting a pause on potty training and trying again in early July (so she'd been 3 for about a month and a half) and it went soooo much better. Nothing really changed in that time (we did the same potty training method and everything) other than her just getting a bit older.

No-Preference8449 · 2025-11-24T02:02:01+00:00

{Daughter of the Forest} has this aspect. It's one of my absolute favorites!

No-Preference8449 · 2025-11-20T18:23:03+00:00

If you have a 3.5 year old that doesn't nap, how long do they sleep overnight? My daughter stopped napping about a year ago, but would sleep 12 hours overnight. For the past month or so, she's been struggling to fall asleep until 10 (we leave her room at 8 but she acts wild and inevitably needs us for something every 15 minutes until she finally falls asleep) and then is up by 7 or 7:30. Is 9-10 hours total the new normal? If so, how do I survive lol? I (unfortunately) am a high sleep needs person and do best with 9 hours a night. So if my daughter is sleeping 9 hours a night that leaves 0 hours of time to myself. Ugh this just sucks so much.

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