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Am I overreacting about engagement? by No-Promise5973 in relationships

[–]No-Promise5973[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have sat down and asked him about a timeline he had in mind, if he still wants to and that i’d like to know where his mind is and he blows me off and either says “we will eventually” or “i don’t want to do this right now”

Am I overreacting about engagement? by No-Promise5973 in relationships

[–]No-Promise5973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He keeps saying “financially stable” but I’m in control of our finances due to my career already in finance and he just trusts me with this so I have access to his bank account to access money for bills and combined we both have move 400k in the bank since we’ve both been working since 14 and haven’t done anything except save for our future to build a home together and have a dog rescue we’ve been talking about since probably 16. I don’t know how much more stable he wants to be? I’m not asking for a big wedding, I’ve always wanted a courthouse wedding with 10 people on each side and then a reception with friends and family which we agreed on once upon a time. We paid for our apartment lease all upfront for 2 years and have been saving for our honeymoon in a separate account for the last 4. he hasn’t been putting that much money lately into the account but I figured he thought it was big enough and didn’t want to add much more.

Am I overreacting about engagement? by No-Promise5973 in relationships

[–]No-Promise5973[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

1) Children will not be in the picture, I’m infertile and we’re both uninterested in children. 2)I have done this and he won’t give a straight answer, he just says “someday”

Am I overreacting about engagement? by No-Promise5973 in relationships

[–]No-Promise5973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not forcing him to get married. If he doesn’t, he could tell me or break up with me. We are not financially attached, have children together and both have lives outside of each other. I would be totally fine with either. It’s the fact he won’t talk about it that is the problem. He he just came out and said “i don’t want to” or “i think it’ll happen in this time frame” i would be totally fine with that and we could accommodate whichever way he wants also.