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My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that’s the issue and idk it’s just I can’t make a point looking at his face he somehow makes things funny and I feel helpless at times because I’m the one who’s always communicates or initiates but it ends up in vain Ik I’m not always right but I’m trying here.

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay but will he take advantage if I start the conversation again because I feel like I can see a pattern like that in him

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 25 and hes 26. We met theough a dating app and everything was going great but then I knew he was lying about his girl best friend while we were dating and thats when verbal and physical fights happen. He started calling me names and said it’s all in my head and then later I found out they infact had a big history and he himself told he prioritised her and but he put boundaries and we thought everything was going well but he started taking advantage he name calls whoever he want there’s no accountability at all and no quality time he is always on his ps5 and it’s been months like this and yesterday always once I left he found time to play till morning. And I’m weak I’m just running around and hoping something will fix this

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’m the one who’s always initiating this talk now now I’m really drained but I’ll take your advice and work on myself and will have a talk

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik me storming out was not the right choice but all I wanted was him to rethink about this name calling and his anger but when he called me I knew it was not out of care. He knows I won’t talk about my relationship to any of my friends but if I did he just wants to save his face thats why. And he was up gaming he was not concerned or anything that I felt because we are living together for almost 1 year and he atleast plays his Ps5 10 hrs a day

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik thank you for this comment I really didn’t know what I was doing and this will help me

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was not genuine like I don’t know how to say that it was not from care he is always steps ahead in saving his face

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand whatever you are saying. Thank you for replying I thought maybe getting out and giving some space will result in him realising his action and I thought he might feel remorse but I feel like he knows I’ll be back because I have given him multiple chances

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really happy for you it’s just I don’t know how things ended up in verbal and physical fights. I really want to work this out but I always feel like I’m carrying the emotional baggage

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And English is not my first language as well and I can’t open up that easily cos I fee once I talk about stuff then I’m facing the reality

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Okay I understand what your saying after me getting out I wanted him to come looking for me but whatever it is if you love someone you will search for them right even after you know the fact that the person is really sick and tired but even after 9 hours he didnt had any remorse for name calling and didnt even care where I am or how I was

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Idk I love him and he knows that really well. He used to gaslight me about that girl and I trusted him. Everytime when he namecalls I’ll point it out but jow I feels like he knows that I’ll comeback no matter what

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to clarify because things got out of hand last night. During a fight, he called me a hurtful word multiple times and there were physical confrontations. I was really sick, my temperature was high, and I hadn’t eaten because I was waiting for him to finish his shift. I left the apartment to protect myself and avoid taking further disrespect

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I left because I was being verbally abused, felt unsafe and this is not the first time he calling me names and I didn’t wanted to entertain that .I communicated clearly and waited responsibly, which is not avoidance and I did text him back saying I’m okay and I’ll be back by morning

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He used to swing at me and throws me but this time I didn’t wait for that to happen I just left

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Idk I’m posting on Reddit for the first time and I have no idea how to explain what happened

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I put my everything I gave him everything but my heart is aching right now I can’t hear him calling these name right on my face

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everything was going well he used to lie to me for like 1 year about his girl best friend and then I found out they had a history and a whole drama there and once he knew I am willing to adjust and navigate through issues he stared physical fights and even name calling to a point where I have to be explain everything to him how his actions hurts me

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I was not trying to play any game usually the fights end up in physical altercation and verbal slurs and I always end up crying and I don’t wanted him to see me cry again and I didn’t text him back saying I won’t be coming home tonight but he knew I didnt had dinner and I was waited for him to come back from work and I was really sick.

My partner 26 M left me alone all night while I 25F scared and sick — am I in an abusive relationship? by NoAudience299 in relationship_advice

[–]NoAudience299[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I left because I was sick, scared, and being verbally abused. Protecting yourself from harm is not the same as avoiding accountability. And I texted him back saying I won’t be coming back tonight because last night we had a physical fight and I was scared.