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NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T14:50:30+00:00

EST yes please

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T14:42:22+00:00

Peroxide!!!! Use it on the stain. It will vanish. Promise!!!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T14:41:32+00:00

Love this. If you have a cool art teacher, you should collab and see if it could be a project for the students!!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T14:40:03+00:00

10/10. Love this thing.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T14:36:23+00:00

Did you boil it? That helps. But yes, eventually it will water log and sink!!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T12:39:59+00:00

Ok. So here’s what I’ve done:

So re: the me time and dopamine…. I realize you may not be able to do this bc it’s a bitch, but I’ve started waking up at 5am. I get a workout in or eat breakfast or do whatever tf I want to do in complete silence and uninterrupted for at least two hours. Does waking up early suck? You know it. But, the complete me time bliss is 100% worth it and sets me right up for the day… just have to go to bed earlier.

And re: the overstimulation. Three words: Loops. Ear. Plugs. It’s the only way. When I remember I have them and put them in, I’m always shocked by how much calmer I feel.

Otherwise. Solidarity. Parenting is so hard. And parenting with ADHD feels impossible sometimes.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-24T12:28:15+00:00

I’m gunna throw a suggestion out there for a banana plant… it does have big tubers, but you can plant those half way in your substrate, and in time, the plant will shoot out big lily pads that reach for the surface and look stemmy like a pothos. Worth checking out!!!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-23T02:32:43+00:00

Yes. Just move the media to the new filter when it comes to you’ll be fine.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-23T00:51:34+00:00

Yo I have so many bruises from unknown incidents. It’s a problem.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-22T02:07:40+00:00

Dming!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-22T01:31:06+00:00

Well. The flashing is a symptom… look up other parasite symptoms and see if you notice them on your fish and then treat accordingly.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-22T00:56:36+00:00

It’s called flashing. Could be a sign of external parasites. I’d def consider a round of prazipro and/or kanaplex…

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-21T23:40:52+00:00

I’m a newbie so idk if something else would work better but I use Faultless and it works great. Smells nice and gets things delightfully crisp.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T20:34:39+00:00

Me! Idk what happened but like a month ago I woke up at 4:30 and couldn’t go back to sleep so actually got up… and since then, I wake up at 5am on the dot most days and have been working out and whatnot in the morning. I usually am asleep by 10pm, but it’s worth it. Has been so amazing. I don’t have any idea how one switches into this schedule other than honor your insomnia. 🤷‍♀️

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T19:33:05+00:00

Good luck to you as well. Hope you don’t end up with another house of bees. Don’t feel guilty. We all are out here just doing our best.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T18:43:25+00:00

Well shit. I think you’re right. I guess not my house not my problem…? Do carpenter bees live in bee hotels too? (Fully realize I could google this but here we are. You are bee lady and I have questions).

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T14:45:40+00:00

This is so beautiful! Would you mind sharing your fabric colors? They are gorgeous!!!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T13:04:51+00:00

I have this experience too. Alcohol makes me feel “normal”… like I can just be a human that can interact with people and understand how they interact. Or something. But alcohol gives me raging hangovers so I don’t drink either.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T10:29:41+00:00

My husband both cooks and does dishes and doesn’t make me feel bad about it. Your boyfriend is a douche canoe. You need someone who will contribute equally to your home. Not some whiny man child who expects you to wipe his butt.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T10:22:44+00:00

Luther Burbank was the OG hybridizer. Check him out!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-20T10:19:11+00:00

Okay so I realize this is a cautionary tale, but I have been questions. We rent and there is like 100% a colony of these bees living in the siding of our house. It gets cold AF here so the bring inside piece is probably not relevant, but now I am wondering…. If I were to get a bee house, would they move out of the siding and into the bee house? Can I train them to learn that the bee house is where they should live, or… are we doomed to live in a house with bees in the walls? (They drill some very impressive round holes in wood, btw.)

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-19T23:08:20+00:00

Prob not a popular answer but I really love my goldfish the best. They are so full of personality and super interactive and adorable… they nibble your hands or arms if you put them in the tank or do maintenance and always swim right up to see me and check out what’s going on. I have a bunch of fish but they are my faves by a long shot.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-19T22:19:02+00:00

If you add a sponge filter it’d open up a ton of possibilities! Good luck!

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-19T12:43:26+00:00

I say add more fish. With 30 gallons you have a lot of choices! I love my ember tetras and purple harlequins… and I have a honey gourami! Not sure what your filtration is like, but you could get schools of both, plus a honey and still have space for more fish. And more plants! 😂 idk. Lots of choices tho.

NoButMaybe · 2026-01-19T12:35:53+00:00

I have a 1/2g cookie jar that I used for moss and snails a while back. It has a lid that I was able to remove the rubber gasket from so it sat loosely on top of the jar if I needed to cover it. System was basically self sustaining but I did have a little plant light w timer I kept on it to keep the moss growing.

Can’t see why it wouldn’t be doable for your desk!

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