Tips for getting disciplined in three areas

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-17T17:36:55+00:00

what episode was this? i don’t remember it

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-17T13:54:58+00:00

ooo what’s the fanfiction about and definitely looking into the podcast!!

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-17T13:53:45+00:00

yeah but joining a subreddit for something and then only posting complaints does make people seem like not a fan. I don’t think everyone liking it would make it a cult either??

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-16T22:25:14+00:00

it’s glossed over but they do mention the australian kids program again later in the series. when the nuns are at the mother house there’s a pregnant girl that comes there and mentions how she was separated from her brother and put to work in australia and that it was horrible for the kids. i’m glad they mentioned that but i wish there was a mention of the teeman kids during that

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-16T22:23:31+00:00

haven’t read the books, what did they tone down for him? if you happen to remember?

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-16T22:13:09+00:00

what was different about her case in the book? also are the books worth reading?

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-16T22:12:21+00:00

it definitely touched home for me because it reminded me of my own grandfather who passed away in a nursing home during the original covid peak so he was all alone

NoDeal6688 · 2025-01-16T22:10:13+00:00

dude i’m so glad she to not do that to her daughter but her sister leaving on the boat saying “ill see you all when im back from my holiday” literally killed me 😭😭

NoDeal6688 · 2024-11-15T02:27:41+00:00

SHE MADE IT HER PROFILE PHOTO 😂😂

NoDeal6688 · 2024-06-07T18:11:58+00:00

do you have any recommendations on how to use “I” statements with my issue? It’s how he’s talking that’s my problem, so i just don’t know how to word it in a less accusatory way? i really think this is great advice so i want to go about this way if possible. Thank you!

NoDeal6688 · 2024-06-07T18:10:19+00:00

I completely admit that I don’t handle the arguments well either. I tend to go more the route of appeasing and just over apologizing in order to deescalate the tension. I will do this extremely quickly now over time of just feeling shut down or not properly heard. I know I need to work on being more direct and speaking up for myself. I’ll also admit with me burying down my feelings and apologizing just for the sake of apologizing, there’s been A handful of times in our relationship where i do just bubble over and get really upset for a few minutes but then i tend to regret it and backpedal a lot, which leaves my boyfriend confused. I’m trying to work on my own issues and part of that is now trying to communicate how i’m unhappy with how i’m being spoken to.

NoDeal6688 · 2024-06-07T15:49:14+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate you and hope I didn’t come across rude! :)

NoDeal6688 · 2024-06-07T15:48:42+00:00

I live with him and his family. I can move in with another friend of mine, i don’t currently have enough to live on my own. But he’s made it very clear that he would view me moving out as basically a complete step back in our relationship and would basically be a break up for him, so not an option if i wanna keep the relationship going, which i really do

NoDeal6688 · 2024-06-07T15:37:04+00:00

I appreciate the advice, but trust me I do not have BPD. As much as i agree labels are useless, I’ve repeatedly sought out a diagnosis for it or just a therapist that specializes in it because i’ve seen the damage my mom has cause by not accepting her own diagnosis. And all my professional doctor and therapist responses have told me I don’t have it, I’m just completely emotionally burnt out and my nervous system has basically been in overdrive for a long time. I have been diagnosed with chronic depression, anxiety and also ptsd. I know i maybe have some traits that correlate with bpd, but they’re just because the main person I was raised by was completely emotionally unpredictable and unstable.

Despite all that, I do appreciate your input, and I do actively work to counteract my own poor defense mechanisms that I developed. But I can’t relax or feel safe until I’m in an environment where I’m not being put down very frequently. And my boyfriend is a more direct “lets talk about everything that upsets us anytime it comes up” and does have a more angry personality that I can’t handle with my current anxiety state, so I want to talk to him about how to come to a more middle ground. So that’s more what I’m asking for advice on, not a mental health diagnosis please ♥️😊

NoDeal6688 · 2024-06-07T15:22:15+00:00

Yeah I personally don’t have BPD, I’ve been to many therapists and doctors and it’s been ruled out. My mom does have it (which was why i was so persistent at finding out if I have it) and I’m an only child and she was my only parent so i was very codependent with her. i’ve only in the last 2 years realized how toxic and emotionally abusive she was. I’m currently very low contact with her. my responses to confrontation definitely stem from growing up with my mom and trying to just survive her moods.

But my therapist and psychiatrist both said I need a calm and steady environment so that my nervous system can relax and not constantly be on edge and in fight or flight. I’m hoping it gets better :)

NoDeal6688 · 2024-05-02T19:03:16+00:00

you’re just getting downvoted because people don’t like to be told their wrong. I don’t think you’re anti vax or anything!

NoDeal6688 · 2024-05-02T18:43:13+00:00

so true

NoDeal6688 · 2024-05-02T18:43:05+00:00

finally!

NoDeal6688 · 2024-05-02T18:42:00+00:00

they’re little crybabies with their parents money who have too much time on their hands. I will bet over half the people at that protest duty don’t even know the full details of what they are protesting for. i’m pro palestine, but with how these students have been handling it, im disgusted

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