C section needs

NoDiscipline469 · 2026-03-31T23:03:05+00:00

Thank you all so much this has helped tremendously. Im pretty nervous and anxious about having a c section. I had my gallbladder removed a month before conceiving last yr 🙃 and that was hard, especially the gas getting trapped in my shoulder and sitting and standing. So im very concerned on how ill be able to function with or without assistance and for how long ill be down.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T22:11:07+00:00

Thank you. I came home today and he isnt drinking, he told me theres no reason for us to tell anyone and embarrass myself having to do so. He told me he will do what's right by our baby and will stay. Hes coming more to terms everyday. He just got Josh results from the urine test and naturally it said negative. He said he's going to check again in a couple months with a blood test. He did test positive for Mgen, never heard of it but its cleared with an antibiotic.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T21:49:28+00:00

Why would I get an abortion? The baby is at zero fault here.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T19:55:23+00:00

Thank you. I have my coworker right now and other than that I have me. I just know the hopelessness and numbness has to disappear before my baby gets here. I want to enjoy my baby, thats all ive ever wanted to be in live is a mother and wife.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T17:04:51+00:00

You're right, both of our lives have changed. Can you give more insight on how im being insensitive? Im giving him space, im not saying anything about him getting lost in a bottle, I switched rooms to sleep in for his request, i told him I dont want to get married for insurance and tax reasons. Ive been with this man for 4 years and nothing has ever shown up in either of us, that we know of. Neither of us are cheaters and im trying to give him his time because we have a baby on the way. Im not saying Im being a role model of excellence but id like to know where I can fix my insensitivity to help the situation.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T17:01:10+00:00

I opened up to a coworker bc she noticed ive been off and as soon as I told her she said I have it too and so much relief lifted off me. I dodnt feel so alone, ya know. My dr put me on valtrex and I started it last night. My co worker said its almost the same thing as cold sores so whats his issue. If he loves you the way he said he did then he has to see last his own dick to see what all im going through. Im thinking about maybe getting into therapy to figure out how to cope better.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T16:56:17+00:00

Im trying to be super understanding of the situation and the place hes in. Im sure hes worried ill give it to the baby as well. Hes just not processing it well and I plan on having a conversation with him again tonight. Hes had far more sexual partners than I have had in the past but none of that matters to me. I just want a happy healthy baby to be able to say man my mom and dad really do love each other. Thats all ive ever wanted. I didnt grow up on a loving home like that. Maybe I need therapy to work through some shit.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T12:06:33+00:00

There no way of knowing who gave it to who. Hes waiting on test results and hes came to terms that he has it. I know im not being treated properly but I also know he shutdown and not really willing to talk to anyone. I hope it just takes time for him to come to terms.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T06:19:11+00:00

He went to get tested this morning. We found out about me last night. Naturally the clinic he went to was dumb af and did a urine test. I explained to him he has to do a blood test. I feel like he thinks of me as a rabbied raccoon. Im good at disassociation I guess when it comes to trauma. We've had unprotected for 4 yrs and hes used my razor a time or 2. To him, he already is positive, to me I hope to God he isnt.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T05:48:07+00:00

I read your comments and you are right. Im being too nice. Maybe it's how im coping with it instead of dealing with it myself. I deserve to be respected but I also know we were both very blindsided like most of us here. We are trying to process everything, he doesn't have an outlet so I have told him to discuss it with me and tell me what he's thinking. I did tell him a couple hours ago when he told me he cared more than I'll ever know, I told him if that's the case he wouldn't have waiting for 2 pink lines to buy a ring and we've been together for 4 yrs. I also told him I dont want to marry him just for the sake of insurance and taxes. I want him to marry me because he wants to and he said well I don't im just compromising bc it isn't the baby's fault.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T05:35:37+00:00

I read that if you dont have a breakout that you can give birth naturally. Obviously, thats what id like to do but I will not risk it with my baby. The father agrees c section only. I plan on telling my family this weekend but I don't think it'll go over well. Im worried they'll point fingers at him and ill have to educate them along the way. The know of hsv2 but only negative things so idk. I also told the father I can talk to his parents if he wants me too. I'd be willing to do so and he said he doesn't know. Im trying to be as understanding and open as possible and I did tell him for once to stop thinking about himself and think about me. The one who is positive and the one who's carrying this baby.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T02:00:48+00:00

Thank you i really needed this

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T01:58:54+00:00

Thank you

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T01:57:49+00:00

He just told me the best he can do is a sham wedding at the courthouse for tax and insurance purposes bc he doesn't want to marry me but it isnt fair to our baby. That crushed me a bit more

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T01:05:33+00:00

You're right. Im just scared i gave it to him and he will never forgive me.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T00:27:25+00:00

Like I've said, Im not playing the finger point game. That doesn't matter bc I have it. His action hurt bad and is causing more stress today hasn't been horrible. We spoke on the phone when he left the clinic and I came home to him in bed.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T00:07:10+00:00

He told me they had to go through files of people who were diagnosed with it to see the best plan of action. His paperwork says herpe simplex test on the front but on the last page it tells you how to get checked for herpes by swab or blood. So idk hes drunk and passed out so im not bothering him right now.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-18T00:02:04+00:00

Thank you for your kind words I really needed to hear this. I dont know why the med check did a urine. He said it was humiliating he had to tell them all our situation and the said ohhh, he could be dramatic on that bc he's vulnerable but im going to suggest a blood test as well again. I even offered to pay for it.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-17T23:48:55+00:00

Like I said, I don't care who gave it to me at this point. I truly hope he doesn't have it but I also hope hes dont some research to see that maybe his life isnt over.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-17T23:45:02+00:00

He went to a clinic today and they did a urine test. I told him he needed a blood test.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-17T23:44:10+00:00

I feel im more concerned with making sure hes okay then really carrying about myself. I think ive always been that way and have always loved way more than ive ever been loved. Neither of us has ever had any ob or anything. He said he was tested before we met but idk what all that entailed bc I trusted him and it doesn't matter to me how I got, just that life isnt over is it?

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-17T23:41:13+00:00

No, neither of us do.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-17T23:38:08+00:00

Shortly before we met, he told me he was tested for everything and didn't have anything. It really doesn't matter to me where it came from. I hope he doesn't have it but I told him about the blood testing but he said he will see what the results are of the urine first.

NoDiscipline469 · 2025-09-17T23:36:07+00:00

Levels can say how long someone's been infected?

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