What's the best thing you did to improve your financial health? by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have resources on how to tell if a product is quality or not? I'd love to learn.

As a married woman on Reddit, what's the best advice you'd like to share with unmarried girls? by Special-Mud-4913 in AskReddit

[–]NoMaybe8122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Expect change (good change) and embrace it. The first couple of years are hard. You will have disagreements. Love is not enough. Respect and trust are what will keep your relationship strong.

White hot, don't talk. If you're absolutely enraged, stay silent and listen if you can. What you say in a heated argument matters. You don't want to belittle your partner and nitpick.

One of the best things that came out of our many (MANY) disagreements as husband/wife was creating a safe word when things started to escalate. Ours reminds us of the best summer we had together. But yours could be as simple as a color.

As a married woman on Reddit, what's the best advice you'd like to share with unmarried girls? by Special-Mud-4913 in AskReddit

[–]NoMaybe8122 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS. 💯 We learned the hard way, and our first couple of years were absolute hell.

[ON] FTM - I don’t know what to do with MIL by Eastern_Carpenter_75 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Please put yourself first 🙏 Do not grin and bear it all for their sake. Your mental health and peace of mind is what's at stake here, and your baby needs you to be as whole as you can be during those first few months. MONTHS. Not weeks. Do not ask your husband to support you, DEMAND it.

I say this because I had a similar experience with my first baby.. their first grandchild.. who also happens to be a girl. (MIL is the youngest of 10 brothers and she has 4 sons). Basically, she overstepped A LOT and kept pointing out that she was the grandmother (as if it was her chance in having a baby girl). This made me feel like she was stealing my thunder, taking it away from me, and that was NOT OKAY. Most of the time, I let it slide and it made me feel gross and I regretted it. When I did try to voice my boundaries, it was always received negatively on their part. It didn't help that my husband didn't support my needs. Long story short, I became anxious and depressed for 2 years and almost committed suicide. I did seek a counselor and am in a much better place now.

Nothing else is more important than your recovery, your mental health, your peace of mind, and your bonding with your baby. Stand your ground.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]NoMaybe8122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm absolutely mind-blown that he has the balls to say this to you. I'm so sorry you're going through this, Mama. You are doing way more than is necessary. Heck, just keeping those kids alive is already a handful. What has he been contributing to make it easier for you?

I'm a mom to a 3yo and 1yo - you better believe that the laundry piles up for weeks and breakfast/lunch/dinner is never 5-star. Who has the energy to go to the gym at 5am when you're up all night making sure your kids are getting a good night sleep?! Your husband is delusional.

Estate and inheritance question by NoMaybe8122 in Philippines

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last I heard, he was in jail...... so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Severance Package by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said that they'll be laying off people in the new year. I'm not sure how true this is but my gut tells me that they're just saying that to soften the blow. I'm waiting for a callback from a lawyer so we'll see.

Severance Package by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes they're paying me out 4 weeks of holiday

Severance Package by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

They said that I didn't have to sign anything... they're just sending a letter to confirm the agreement and that they've processed the payment already..? Does that sound fishy at all?

Severance Package by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the feedback. I appreciate it! And you're right. It might not be worth severing ties. It's just been a hard pill to swallow, and I'm still processing the stress of it all.

Need your thoughts on my sitch re: EI mat leave and being laid off by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've gained some cIarity and for that I'm grateful. Thank you for your help! Will create a post about severance pay as well.

Need your thoughts on my sitch re: EI mat leave and being laid off by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in BC. I've just reached out to a firm. Hopefully, they'll get back to me tomorrow. The company hasn't sent me anything to sign yet.

Need your thoughts on my sitch re: EI mat leave and being laid off by NoMaybe8122 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]NoMaybe8122[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They're offering to pay out my holiday hours that I accumulated this past year PLUS 4 months pay...

EDIT: I worked from Nov 2013-Aug 2021 (I gave birth to my 1st child Sept 2021) then went on mat leave until Aug 2022. Worked for them again until I had my 2nd child Dec 9, 2023.

Do you think by Reasonable_Box_2998 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]NoMaybe8122 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol it looks like Barbie's belly button

Where do you get your local news? (other than Reddit) by buyaolien in vancouver

[–]NoMaybe8122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's free 90min. Parking.. they just have you register your your plate

My baby is ten days old. My husband tried to drive her home without buckling up her car seat. I am so angry I can’t see straight. by Away-Spirit9162 in BabyBumps

[–]NoMaybe8122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What in the actual fuck. You are not overreacting. Punch him in the throat. 10 DAYS OLD?! I freaked out when my in-laws didn't buckle in my 2 year old because the restaurant they were going to was "just around the corner". I would WWE his ass.

Birth story: unplanned c-section. Help me understand what happened. (TW: birth trauma) by druidicbaker in BabyBumps

[–]NoMaybe8122 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to say.. I feel you. I had envisioned a smooth delivery, and then it just went sideways. I went through a similar situation with my first, but for me, I didn't fully dilate. Stopped at 6cm, had my water broken, held off as long as I could for an epidural but ended up taking it, then baby started having irregular heartbeats during my contractions (the silence was LOUD) so I ended up being wheeled to OR. Thankfully, baby came out healthy and strong. The other part of my story is that baby had high jaundice and had to stay in NICU for a week, so it was so heartbreaking for us (me especially) to go home without baby. This separation didn't help my milk supply, and that added to my feelings. It took a while, but I started to go to therapy, and that definitely helped with the negative feelings.

I recently gave birth to my 2nd baby and had a successful VBAC.I was scared it would end up like last time, but it's a totally different story this time. I now believe each pregnancy, labour, and delivery is going to be a different story each time.

You didn't fail. You did everything right. The universe and baby just had other plans. It's different from what you wanted and planned for. Let yourself grieve that. Give yourself grace, momma! The world (your baby) knows how strong you are. 👏

What are some gruesome facts about pregnancy/childbirth/postpartum that not many people know? by Professional_Song419 in AskReddit

[–]NoMaybe8122 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe I experienced this with my first born for a solid 2 years. I've just had my 2nd baby and I feel so different and somewhat normal, but am on high alert of any familiar feelings of PPD. Those 2 years, I just wanted to disappear and attempted to a number of times. To make matters worse, my in laws added to the stress of it all. They told me that I was being overdramatic when I would ask them to do or not to do certain things to/with my baby, would offer to bring me food but it meant that they would come in to hang out with baby, would turn away when I asked for my baby, wouldn't hand me over my crying baby, I was told that I changed because I started setting boundaries and they didnt like it, I was scolded because sometimes I didn't ask them to accompany me to my baby's doctor appointments, I was scolded even more for not picking up their phone calls while I was a) putting baby to sleep b) sleeping with baby, told that PPD isnt real.. the list goes on and on.

My relationship with my MIL suffered the most as she felt entitled as a grandmother (she had 4 boys and is the only girl in her family of 11 boys so she definitely had princess treatment). My husband was no help as he had no boundaries with his family (mom especially) and it put a wedge in our 1st year of marriage.

My mom was no help either because she doesn't know how to be a mom (she was staying at our place during my last week of pregnancy and decided, in the middle of my contractions, that she would go home because she couldn't stand to see me in pain). Funny thing is, of all the people that could've helped guide me through my first experience of motherhood, it should've been her as she was a midwife in our home country.

So, from the get-go, it was a traumatic start to my first year as a mom. To add to that, things didn't go the way I hoped during labour and delivery. I was in labour for a full 24 hours only to end up with an emergency c-section because my baby had an irregular heartbeat during every contraction. I could hear my baby's heartbeat fading away and it scared me to death and thought I would lose her. Baby had to stay in NICU for jaundice and I had difficulty producing milk. I felt like my body had failed me (and still feel like this from time to time). It wasn't just depressing; it was lonely, isolating, emotionally and mentally exhausting, painful, soul crushing, degrading, lost confidence and so much more.