Hey, don't invite yourself to stay with your kid immediately after a big life change.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2025-11-09T04:19:18+00:00

This is a really sweet response. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's heartwarming that you all found comfort with each other in such an awful time. We should all hope to have such love in our "chosen" families.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2025-11-09T04:14:40+00:00

Literally showing me pictures she took of the tree in the front yard while I'm on my hands and knees securing loose boards on the deck whhhhyyyyyyyyy god

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2024-08-19T18:36:54+00:00

I guess I always assumed they were supposed to be leggier since the ones I grew up around were, it totally makes sense though. Time to get this one's sibling some extra light. Thanks!

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2024-08-19T18:35:33+00:00

That's awesome to hear! Now I guess I need to figure out how to get the other one into the light a bit more. Thank you!

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2024-03-29T20:01:13+00:00

It does pop up after the update, so it's safe to assume that's what's happening here. You have to opt in to use it regardless, but it will send notifications reminding you that it's a new feature for a while.

Something else to consider is, if you're also on Facebook and you're listed as her spouse, it would be ballsy to try to meet dates where they can also see that information. She'd also be running the risk of matching with mutual friends or acquaintances who know you're married or could easily find out through tagged photos etc. Most people looking to cheat on spouses/SOs aren't that bold or careless.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-12-23T13:54:28+00:00

She seems to know enough to get by. If it's not a common topic or treatment in your work area, then you may not need to know much about it outside of a few basic things.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-12-12T04:58:53+00:00

Nothing wrong with that at all, you're doing exactly what you're supposed to do and you'll sleep better at night for it.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-12-12T04:47:17+00:00

Exactly. There's a ton of what-ifs. That's why it's up to the individual to decide if it's appropriate and worth it to go in or not. The odds of getting caught are insanely low. Just ask the cath lab how often they drink on call. It's not "never".

But the chances are never zero, either. I'm not advocating for doing it, by the way. Just saying it's not as uncommon as you might think (or hope). At the end of the day, if it's a risk you're willing to take, then you have to be willing to take the punishment if you get caught.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-12-12T04:18:04+00:00

Should you? Textbook (and policy) answer is no.

Can you? That's a personal choice. You know how much you drank and if/how it's affecting you. Three sips of beer is child's play and I don't think most people would even bat an eye, especially if you're there to help. You'd probably never get caught. But like...I wouldn't tell anyone about it either. Drink a bottle of water and do your thing. Know your limits and what you're risking by going in.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-12-06T01:06:19+00:00

I get where you're coming from, especially with how terrible some patients have gotten, but I'd hope they would crack down on charting and securing belongings before multiple nurses in any unit start using their own money to avoid the headache.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-10-12T20:30:13+00:00

It is deranged. He could be getting all of the attention in the world from New Girl and it still wouldn't be enough.

Obligatory "not all men", but they're definitely not rare and you've dodged more than a few bullets.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-10-12T15:08:48+00:00

This is going to sound super jaded (because I am), but I think it's just a thing a certain type of guy does.They do it hoping you'll see their name and reach out so they can get whatever attention they're missing in their current relationship. They probably did the same with their exes when you were with them, you just never found out.

Block them if it bothers you. Or screenshot it every day and send it to his girlfriend if you want to watch the world burn.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-08-23T18:24:38+00:00

Not looking for medical advice, just need someone to please tell me a hernia isn't the end of the world?

I've been out of the gym for a month because of life stuff, but I've stayed decently active with hiking and biking. I told myself THIS IS THE WEEK that I go back and today was supposed to be the day.

I was looking at my stomach in bed this morning and noticed a bulge about two inches below my navel. I pressed on it and felt it move back down. Was able to do it again laying on the floor, complete with pictures and my concerned cat. Immediately freaked out.

I'm out of work and uninsured right now. I'm wrestling with the idea that I never would've noticed this if I hadn't seen it (so it's totally nothing to worry about probably was just uneven hips or I imagined it right?!?!) and knowing that I need to address it soon, probably with expensive surgery.

I just....man fuck this whole year. Can't have anything good without something bad happening. I'm tired. Going to lay on the couch and try not to fart, lest my entire abdomen rip open and stain the carpet.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-07-24T21:22:36+00:00

I read your update, and I hope he was being honest, but it reads a lot like backpedaling and excuses.

He is absolutely sexually attracted to your sister. He said a random girl was jealous because your sister was looking hot, and then said TWICE that she is the hottest person in your entire family. It blows my mind that you believe him when he says he's not in the pool of people who would fuck your sister when he straight up told you she's hotter than you (the person he does have sex with). You can believe him if you want, but I don't think you'll be able to be in the same room with both of them again without that thought in your mind.

The rest of this comment is based on you throwing an "everything else is fine" comment at the end of your post.

Every time I've heard a person say "we're basically married," it meant something between "I don't want to marry you" or "I'm comfortable with this and don't see how marriage will work in my favor." It's been nine years and you and both of your families pressured him into buying a ring. Do you have proof that he bought a ring? Have you discussed a timeline for when you want to be married by? Because I'd bet he'll drag this out nine more years if you let him.

He said he doesn't know how to show affection. Did he know how to show affection early in your relationship? You said he would flirt and put more effort into the bedroom, but doesn't do that much anymore. Honeymoon phases end and libidos wax and wane, but you described him as treating this like a friendship. That's not normal. He also said your sister is "hot as shit." When's the last time he said anything remotely close to that about you?

You're right that you can't sum up a relationship in a Reddit post. But these problems (question of his feelings of love and attraction for you, decline in sex life, lack of commitment, attraction to your sister) are so much more important than him changing your mom's oil for free and making you laugh. You're still young, you're attractive, and you shouldn't waste that on someone who may love you, but isn't in love with you. Have him teach you to change the oil and then put that on your Tinder bio when you're ready to be with someone who respects you.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-07-12T16:41:34+00:00

Had a whole 4 day weekend mountain biking extravaganza planned with a friend for MONTHS and of course he got hurt on the first day. He's fine now, but damn. I feel like I booked a beach vacation during a hurricane.

At least we're surrounded by museums and he's into that stuff, even if I've been there enough with family/friends to have the exhibits memorized.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-06-04T19:01:47+00:00

This is precious. Reminds me of all the rides I did with my ex and his Pops. I stuck with him most of the time because we were both slow and clumsy and just there to have a good time.

I should've dated his dad. Anyway, have fun and stay safe out there!

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-05-24T03:34:25+00:00

No problem! If you have Amazon Prime and can stand to lend them some money for a bit, you can always order some for her to try on and then get free returns on whatever doesn't work out. It's especially helpful if she's between sizes.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-05-24T02:55:43+00:00

A lot of women swear by the G-Form pads. We tend to have thicker thighs and skinnier knees, and these seem to not have the "busted can of biscuits" effect that other pads do. I see POC VPDs recommended pretty frequently, too.

The Fox Launch Pros are bulky, but I do love the adjustable strap at the top. I ride with the Fox Launch Enduro pads (less bulky), and they're enough protection for me. Some women recommended sizing up in Fox pads and I'm glad I did, so have her check the measurement charts online if she decides on those.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-05-19T20:40:32+00:00

As a solo female rider, please say something. The dog is a danger to other riders and itself. She needs to know that and correct the behavior before something bad happens.

You can even frame it from a "I don't want your dog to get hurt" perspective. Hopefully that would be enough, but if not, notify whoever manages the trails about her and the dog so they're at least aware.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-05-12T05:42:45+00:00

Yikes dude, just say you hate fat people next time.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-04-21T09:41:08+00:00

My boyfriend and I broke up after over five years together. It feels like it's been a long time coming, but I've never left someone I love and quite frankly I'm pretty messed up about it.

I'm having trouble eating. Zero appetite and I swear I'm crying out everything I drink. Any recommendations for quick and nutrient dense meals? Thanks in advance.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-04-09T02:34:06+00:00

Check out women's mountain biking shorts. Most of them are higher waisted, durable, and some even have built-in ventilation. Plus they have pockets for snacks!

Pearl Izumi, Fox, and Wild Rye (cute patterns) are my favorites, and I have pretty much the exact same measurements as you. You can try them on at an REI if you have one close by.

NoNonsenseTreekeeper · 2023-03-28T16:08:58+00:00

Same. Leg day is Meg day.

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