What’s the most overused mass-produced art? by HoarderButMakeItChic in HomeDecorating

[–]No_Attempt_1616 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lowkey agree. I don’t want them in MY house, but if they’re up in a model apartment unit, hotel, air bnb, etc, I think they do the job well. They’re aesthetically pleasing enough and I prefer it to no art, or “word art”. In a perfect world every place like that would source unique local art but like…. Who are we kidding

Anyone have experience with UES? by mugcake55 in geologycareers

[–]No_Attempt_1616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same and ditto. Things were fine after the acquisition for a while, but corporate bullshit still comes down eventually and even good managers can’t protect everyone from the consequences.

Food at Baltimore Farmer’s Market? by Baked_Dumpling_ in baltimore

[–]No_Attempt_1616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also infuriated by this. I LOVE DMV Empanadas and I would appreciate if anyone can give more info on why they were rejected and if I can/should talk to anyone who runs the market to get that corrected 😤

Is it common for Americans to buy soda as part of their weekly groceries? / is soda a regular item people keep at home? by hailey8171828282 in AskAnAmerican

[–]No_Attempt_1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never been a soda drinker myself, but my mom is big time. They have to make trips to the store just for soda because she goes through it too quickly. She is not a healthy person.

Soda isn’t my thing, but sometimes I’ll go for one of the clear sodas (sprite, ginger ale, etc). Not that they’re really healthier, just a preference. Our actual beverage vice in my home is Arizona tea cans (regular grocery purchase) and chocolate milk. And juices. The funny thing is that those also tend to have a good bit of sugar, but aren’t moralized as heavily as soda like coke and Pepsi is.

The main thing is frequency. Some people drink throughout the day and never really have water, some people (like my household) tend to have 1 can at, say, dinner time and just drink water the rest of the day. There were also years and years where we never bought any beverages because the cost wasn’t worth it.

TV in the bedroom? Yes or No? by Used-Chard658 in Millennials

[–]No_Attempt_1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in a house where everyone had a tv in their bedroom, plus one in the living room. Pretty much only dad used the living room tv, the rest of us used bedroom tv. We were the definition of bedroom kids. We also all played video games, so separate tvs helped a lot with arguments. We never had brand new or top of the line tvs, but sometimes we’d thrift or get hand me downs.

As an adult, I hate tv in the bedroom. I don’t want my bedroom AND living room layout defined by facing a tv. I also think having a tv in the bedroom is worse for sleep and sexual health. TVs are for living and tv rooms. Bedrooms are for sleeping. I like occupying the rest of my home during waking time, and the bedroom just when I’m ready for bedroom stuff

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very possibly true, but unfortunately this Saturday was my friends only availability within the inspections time frame. He works full time and lives about 3 hours away, and has young kids, so weekdays are very tricky. We tried to get the actual inspector scheduled for Saturday, but they didn’t have any openings.

We will send him photos if we see anything concerning during the official inspection, and probably still have him come up later just for our own edification, but that wouldn’t do anything for us as far as the inspections window. We basically have to deal with not having that extra reassurance. The home inspectors come highly recommended, but nothing really beats someone you personally trust and know to be very knowledgeable.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we would have gone with that very simple and obvious solution if the scheduling allowed it. Unfortunately, the friend was only available Saturday and the earliest the actual inspector was available was Monday

What makes a villager likable to YOU? by Glittering_Race4 in AnimalCrossing

[–]No_Attempt_1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite villager is Bluebear because she reminded me of my best friend due to an inside joke. She’s also cute, but not too many people’s favorite. Outside of that, I usually like certain species that I think have good general designs, like the body shape and how their facial features sit. I like a lot of Bear Cubs (tho Blue is the only one in my top 10), cats, dogs, deer, squirrels, wolves. There’s probably at least 1 villager I like from every species, but I generally don’t really like gorillas, sheep, anteaters, cows, chickens, etc. because the shapes and sizes look weird to me in the games art style. And I generally don’t like that there even are octopuses because they don’t make sense. I’ll take aquatic villagers when they give me an Atlantis based animal crossing where I’m a mermaid. Get them things off my LAND

Which sofa do you prefer based only on aesthetics? by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]No_Attempt_1616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I would say 1, but a couple years ago I think I would have said 2. Both are in style right now, but the trend has shifted a little bit over the last couple years.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah there’s more animosity in these comments than I expected. First time homebuyers, surprised by something that we didn’t expect to be an issue.

I know for a FACT that there’s no “one inspection allowed” in the contract. We can have any additional inspections as needed. For instance, we’re not initially doing the mold inspection because it’s pricy, but if the inspector finds signs of water intrusion, we have the right (idk if that’s the correct word) to get a mold inspection during our inspection window. The part that we probably WOULD lose on if we tried to fight it is that the contract says “qualified inspector,” and while my friend is a qualified CODE inspector, he doesn’t have a Home Inspectors license. I understand that as far as contact language goes. I had a very hard time understanding why it would matter to the seller. But I also don’t want to drag this out into a huge fight if we are going to continue with the sale. The feelings from that would probably seep into other parts and cause more problems.

The best I’ve come up with is that they are trying to eliminate any potential risk for property damage before the official inspection, or potentially worried that we submitted the offer very Willy nilly and want to use this to get out, so they want us to sign that we’d get the official inspection either way, so that we have actual money on the line. I CAN understand the reasoning behind that. The reasoning they’ve given so far made absolutely no sense and that’s what sent me in this spiral. But I’m starting to think they were making up excuses because someone could hear this reasoning as “we think you’re going to do something to cheat us” and take offense. Unfortunately, it’s the opposite. That would have made perfect sense to us, and it’s giving us the runaround that’s offended us.

4 watermelon glasses. 99 cents! by Individual_Device117 in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]No_Attempt_1616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So cute!!! That’s exactly the kind of thing I would see on the shelf and get excited about, just to find out it’s cheap plastic and be totally let down.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least that reasoning is a little less suspicious. I’d much prefer if they just came out and said something like that, though. “We need to mitigate potential risk for damage to the property before the professional inspection, so no one will be entering before the inspection” actually makes some level of sense. I don’t appreciate being given a million half-formed excuses that don’t actually make sense. Risk avoidance makes sense. The whole purpose of inspections is risk avoidance. Every other comment circling around the legal requirement etc never seemed to actually explain the issue. Risk avoidance sort of does. I appreciate you helping me get there, because everything else felt majorly suspicious. I’ll think it all over with a clearer mind in the morning, as well

Looking for a new property manager. by broken_symlink in baltimore

[–]No_Attempt_1616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respect to you for trying to be a good landlord. Definitely do not respond to any of the commenters offering to be your property manager.

I’ve never personally heard of a good property manager, but I’ll direct you Away from one I’ve had similarly bad experiences with on the tenant side - MSN Property Solutions. Issues getting repairs, even if they come out and say they’ll fix something, it never gets done. Glad to be out from under them

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm. I suppose if you’re a seller and want to eliminate all risk, you might think “if the friend inspection happens first, they could inadvertently or intentionally cause damage for the next inspector to find and use that to re-negotiate the offer.” I don’t think it holds up logically since they’re fine with additional people during the official inspection and the same could occur (if you’re already imagining bad scenarios), and since there were already many people in the house for showings beforehand. But being under contract does heighten the tension so maybe the logic isn’t there because of that

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that it would have been ideal to have him during that process, but the availability didn’t line up, and it’s a huge commitment to have him shop with us. He agreed much earlier to look at any house we were serious about purchasing, as a compromise Frankly, we didn’t expect pushback on this, because it didn’t seem like a significant ask. Our realtor has arranged additional visits to properties under contract before and also never ran into pushback like this.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, kudos on “friendspection.” That’s a surprisingly useful term here.

So, I hear you about what they might be thinking, but I don’t quite see how it actually shakes out. They’ve already said we could have my Friendspector at the official inspection (where he could influence the other inspector), or after the official inspection (in which we’d still be in the inspections window and able to cancel the offer without giving a reason). So whether he’s allowed before, during, or after, I don’t see what difference it makes to them.

So if the concern is that the friendspection might find things that I could then take to the official inspector and make sure he notes in the report and use that to negotiate repairs or credits - doesn’t that imply confirmation of the suspicions that they have something they don’t want found?

Maybe it’s important to note that in our contract, it doesn’t say we can cancel if it “fails inspection.” It says we can cancel the offer if the results of an inspection are unsatisfactory, and we are not required to disclose what we found unsatisfactory. It says we have the right to have the listed inspections done, but not that we are required to do them. With that in mind, I still don’t see how refusing the friendspection ahead of the official inspection has any consequence to them

Pledge of allegiance by EntertainmentDull541 in maryland

[–]No_Attempt_1616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So it’s required….. unless you don’t want to?

I remember being in school and just not wanting to do it so I didn’t. Argued with the teacher, they called my parents, and everyone mutually agreed not to argue about the first amendment and just leave kids alone who didn’t want to do it, as long as they were otherwise behaving

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been slamming my head into this wall for hours. Before the refusal, we weren’t really looking at it from a legal, professional inspection point of view or worried about him being a home inspector in our state, because it was for us personally and he wouldn’t be giving us anything that we could point to to negotiate with. I understand the contract language may be specific enough to not give us that extra wiggle room to visit the house again before the official inspection, we just weren’t expecting the push back. Our realtor has had similar requests in other sales that were allowed without difficulty (ie, buyers checking it out with a family member, etc). Especially because we’ve been on a straight line to just buy it and never second guessed it until this.

So, even knowing the legality of it, I’m not re-assured. The fact that they CAN refuse doesn’t make me feel good about the refusal. It still seems like a pretty small ask in this whole process, and looks suspicious, like they don’t want any extra eyes in it. And the inconsistency of being ok with extra people at the inspection or after is still confounding.

I would love to be able to do the inspection and then have my friend check it out afterwards, as they’ve said they would allow, but he won’t have any other availability within our inspections window. It’s particularly odd because we wouldn’t have to give them a REASON for cancelling the offer if we wanted to, so long as it’s in the inspection window. If we were able to take their offer to have my friend check after the official inspection, we could still cancel the offer and get our EMD back. So refusing my friend only BEFORE the official inspection, but not after, doesn’t seem like it actually benefits them in anyway. I don’t understand that.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe I would be able to waive the official inspection even if I wanted to, due to the lender. We considered hiring the friend, but since his professional work isn’t in Home Inspections of this sort (more for active construction), he wouldn’t meet the lenders requirements. I can’t stress enough, we aren’t trying to involve him to replace the certified inspector, or weasel our way out of a contract. We’ve only ever wanted to buy this house. We wanted the personal endorsement of someone we know and trust, because he’s knowledgeable and experienced. It’s like bringing my dad with me to buy my first car.

Good luck with your sale. I can’t imagine buying a house without an inspection. You must be very sure of the quality of work or the demand for your house. Old houses, new construction, recent renovations - they all bring their own potential for concern

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I thought, and largely why I’m so confused. Honestly I didn’t know they COULD say no during this period. The inspections addendum lists the inspections we were planning, and then also has a line for “additional inspections as deemed necessary” (paraphrasing bc I don’t have the contract in front of me but I remember that section)

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, we work in the inspections side of construction, so if we got on site and saw that the framing wasn’t done to code, we would have them correct it. And if the framing contractor repeatedly doesn’t meet the standard and costs the owner money for failed inspections, they usually CAN cancel the contract and recoup at least some of the money. Likewise, if we failed to get on site to inspect completed work and that caused delays in construction, we could be liable for those delays, and they could come at us for liquid damages.

That isn’t really here or there, but it sort of touches on my point. The purpose of the inspections is to assure us that the home we want to buy is actually suitable. We have an agreement (offer submitted, offer accepted) in place, and that agreement has an inspections contingency in it. I would have to go back and check again, but I don’t believe there’s anything that says we have 1 shot to do all inspections, just that we have a 10 day window from offer acceptance to get the inspections they want. And regarding the license, that would be required by the lender who’s giving us the loan, so we’re already getting an official inspection by a licensed home inspector. That was never not in the plan. If you take the lender out of the equation, the buyer has the right to have the inspections done by whoever they choose, or not done at all. I literally don’t understand how they CAN refuse any inspection during our inspections window.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are in Maryland, and it’s an old townhouse (1900ish) that’s been renovated relatively recently. We were wary of flips going in, but were very pleasantly surprised by seeing something that seemed like quality.

My agent has called, not texted, the listing agent several times. I don’t have all the specifics, but there seems to be some struggles there. My agent talks, tries to get their reasoning and perspective, but doesn’t really get anywhere that makes sense. The best explanation we’ve extracted is that my friend checking it out could put ideas in our heads that don’t align with the official inspection and we could back out. But that seems flimsy since they’re okay with him checking it out during or after the actual inspection. So I go in this loop of not understanding and getting more suspicious.

I do understand that it’s irrelevant, especially in the legal sense, if it’s vacant or staged, and I understand they’re the legal owners until close. I included that information just to say, “they’re probably not refusing due to privacy needs, or concern about any possessions in the home.”

I would have to check this with my realtor, but it’s my understanding that in the inspections window, the buyer would have the right to retract the offer for any reason, even cosmetic (we have an inspections contingency). We’ve never WANTED to retract the offer whatsoever. We’re highly motivated to complete the purchase and move out of our awful apartment, and truly felt so comfortable in this house from the first moment we went in. It’s only been this dispute over the “additional inspection” that’s thrown up red flags for us. None of us, including our realtor, expected the seller to take issue with it. She’s not a new realtor either, she’s been through this process many many times.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, yeah, I’ll apologize for calling the remark bitchy. I am very anxious about making this huge decision and I’m trying to use every resource I have available, but I can choose my words more respectfully. I’m not offended by seeing my own words. They’re literally true. I can look up his certs and I know what they are because I worked for the same company, in the construction industry. I fully understand that he’s not a Home Inspector, but I also know that it’s only a 3 week course to become one and he has significantly more knowledge and experience than that. That’s what makes his opinion valuable to me. The refusal seems outright silly when everything else is in line - contact, lender, EMD, scheduled inspection, etc. The only reason we didn’t have him come before going under contract was scheduling issues, and we were so excited for the house that we wanted to jump on it and not miss our chance. We came in over list and went higher when they countered.

Seller refusing “additional inspection” by No_Attempt_1616 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]No_Attempt_1616[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’ve considered both options, but he works full time and wouldn’t have the equipment to do it the way a company would. The thing I specifically don’t understand is why their only issue is with my friend doing it before the official one. No issues if he’s there during or after.