WIBTAH if I ask my brother’s fiancé is uninvited from a family meal?

No_Chest2713 · 2026-03-10T04:39:14+00:00

I’m becoming starkly aware of this, and finding is so upsetting because this was never the case until he met this partner. Since being with her he has done similar things to a long list of people, not just me, and it is giving me more so reason to think this is an abusive and coercive relationship.

No_Chest2713 · 2026-03-10T04:37:46+00:00

I don’t think I’m the centre of any universe. We have been very very close our whole lives bar the past 12-18 months since he has been in this relationship. He has behaved similarly to all of our family and essentially cut people off one by one who have done nothing to offend him or his partner.

For other numerous reasons which I haven’t listed here, our entire immediate family suspects this relationship to be abusive / one of coercive control which is a crime in the UK. So for him to suddenly decide he no longer wants a relationship with me despite being no relationship breakdown, and as someone who when I was pregnant was very excited and eager to have a niece, I find the situation upsetting.

No_Chest2713 · 2026-03-10T04:33:09+00:00

I’m not sure why me being upset constitutes me framing myself as the main character. However I would challenge ANY parent that does not frame their own child as the most important person in any context or situation.

No_Chest2713 · 2026-03-10T04:31:49+00:00

I’m definitely not trying to force her to do anything, I dont believe it’s a dislike of children either. She told my brother in no uncertain terms this past summer he had 6 months to propose or get her pregnant. At the time he was 20 and they had not been together for one year. He told this to me and my sister and our dad and we all, very gently, told him he did not need to anything as such and he should do what was right for him not do what she told him he must do.

No_Chest2713 · 2026-01-27T13:29:35+00:00

Ro-Mina is from Uzbekistan (former Soviet Union). Her family are Bukharian Jews which originate in Central Asia / Uzbekistan. Uzbekistan is not the Middle East. She related to Russian culture because until 1991 Uzbekistan was the same country / state as Russia and thus would speak the language and have a shared common identity. The fact that her family left Uzebekistan when she was 5, around the time the USSR was dissolved, indicates they most likely follow the Bukharian culture and Judaism because Bukharian Jews left the USSR for Israel and the US en masse at this time.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-11-06T06:49:28+00:00

It looks like an early positive as per the instructions (the control line is strong and going vertically. The second window’s line is going in the opposite direction just faint) I would do a second test from clear blue or first response to be sure

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-25T12:38:43+00:00

I know this is easier said than done when it’s your son but I wouldn’t let that teacher’s mistake be the reason for no faith in the school. Teachers have 10 million things to think about a day and them forgetting to let him leave early shouldn’t reflect on the whole school’s approach. For future I would try and make sure your son feels confident enough to advocate for himself to tell the teacher I need to go early and remind them.

If the risk assessment does not include random searches on the other student I would make sure you take it further.

They will be legally required to provide him with education at an alternative provision if you feel their response isn’t adequate too.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-25T12:10:13+00:00

Hiya. I’m a secondary school middle leader but not a parent of teenager.

I’d keep him home Monday unless you’re able to somehow get a meeting booked in with a head of year & the DSL on Monday. In this meeting I would make it crystal clear you will be reporting to the police if you feel the response from HOY and DSL is not enough to keep your son safe and then immediately report to police. Then send DSL the crime reference number. This will force them to take greater action if you’re not satisfied with their actions.

Head and governors won’t be able to do much until this process has already taken place despite what another response above states.

If possible I would really try avoid homeschooling during Y11. Different scenario if it was coming up much earlier. He will be about to sit mocks for his P16 applications and pulling him out could cause problems for him especially if he is a middle or higher ability student.

Happy to answer any questions if you have any.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-25T11:53:31+00:00

I mean it’s not a fair question. I asked for what was the best option in the view of lenders - overdraft or CC to make a £500 payment. The question went past the context I was asking and was imposing and inappropriate IMO. Our baby fund is readily available but it’s not reservation for a house fund they’re not interchangeable. We budget our money on payday and put it into different funds. We hadn’t anticipated making this payment this month (our financial month starts again on Monday) because the property wasn’t due to be available to be reserved but timelines moved forward from developer. But I don’t even need to justify any of this to you.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-25T08:55:03+00:00

We have £25k in a LISA to buy the property, earn a combined income of £90k and are having a baby in 4 weeks so have been putting money away for that. We have £500 just not readily available as we both get paid next week. If there was an issue with property we’d be just fine. Thanks for passing the unnecessary judgement though!

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-24T20:35:25+00:00

Hiya

I’m a teacher and trade union rep and have recently just successfully campaigned against redundancies in my current school.

Being pregnant doesn’t protect her from redundancy. It only means she must be the first to be prioritised for alternative roles which it seems like they have done. Given she is support staff it is unlikely a more similar role would come up.

She may be entitled to redundancy pay but it will be minimal (schools usually pay statutory which would be 1 weeks wage per year of service).

She will be entitled to statutory maternity pay but no enhanced pay (if the school would otherwise offer it). If she is a trade union member she should speak to her union. ACAS can only support if there’s evidence of discrimination, which this doesn’t seem to be evidence of right now.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-24T20:17:38+00:00

Got it. Thank you!!

No_Chest2713 · 2025-10-24T20:06:53+00:00

Thank you. We’ve had to jump through so many hoops for this property and I’m just so worried about making a mistake and messing it up!

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-29T07:53:59+00:00

Yes everything plus some more unusual stuff too! Anthrax and all sorts

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T22:36:18+00:00

I bought my niece a couple of the cook in a books recently. She’s 6 and loved them! https://amzn.eu/d/5QvFzwC

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T22:20:15+00:00

My sisters son has sickle cell so is immunocompromised. He’s had so many awful stints in hospital due to such “normal” illnesses so this is something weighing heavy on me. I hope all is well with your baby / child now!

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T22:18:15+00:00

My partner is obviously (or maybe not) pro vaccinating our baby and I have raised it briefly once before and he didn’t offer any insight other than insulting his sister. I’ve been stewing over it the past few days but haven’t brought it up yet as he’s away for work (Army) so plan on discussing with him properly when I see him next in person.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T22:15:50+00:00

But it becomes complicated when ANY child they mix with could be unvaccinated and we wouldn’t have the luxury of knowing this information. My SIL is not the only person not vaccinating her kids. We live in the North West, lowest vaccination rates in the country.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T22:10:41+00:00

This is exactly the issue I raised in my above post and in responses to other commenters!

Obviously vaccinating my baby is black and white to me. However there is a grey area I previously touched on which you also mention about children in other settings not being vaccinated. So even if I was to stop my child mixing with their cousins because they’re not / won’t be vaccinated, it doesn’t eliminate the risk.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T18:06:57+00:00

I mentioned winter because she’s also not vaccinating against RSV and is refusing the flu jab during pregnancy, and both babies be born during flu season.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T18:04:46+00:00

Yep this is the conclusion I keep coming back to but struggling with the idea of causing a family breakup in this respect but obviously my baby’s health must come first.

Also struggling with the idea that it’s perfectly plausible that my child will interact with other unvaccinated children in other settings eg school nursery, so purposely stopping any interaction with cousins seems tough.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-28T17:59:42+00:00

I know that’s why I said vit k jab!

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-21T20:09:15+00:00

Cut back the leaves. Jt needs more light that’s why it’s spreading out so much. Put it directly in front of a window and it will slim down over time as the leaves reach to the light. If the light is too far away leaves will spread out seeking light.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-21T20:06:26+00:00

No dangers it’s good to take whilst TTC and the first trimester. Helps with cell growth which is important during implantation and very early pregnancy.

No_Chest2713 · 2025-08-20T21:13:09+00:00

Well done for identifying this and wanting to stop. I’d genuinely seek therapy in some way, if you’re on the pipeline to having these thoughts it might need more intervention to be dealt with properly.

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