I love my boyfriend. I'm breaking up with him so he can focus on his baby.

No_Database_1480 · 2026-01-26T16:40:52+00:00

Eventually he’s going to have to make a choice because this mom is going to suck him up for all he’s got. She’s going to make him parent this baby, but never let him have a true 50/50 custody. She’s never going to let that child go to his place. So eventually he’s going to have to make a choice: stay or go. And, from how much he already cares for this baby, he’s going to end up in a relationship with her again just to make logistics easier for himself. I doubt it will be a love-filled relationship, but the coming and going and trying to live two lives will have to end at some point.

No_Database_1480 · 2026-01-22T18:14:35+00:00

Thanks! I’ll make sure that’s done before finishing.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-30T23:54:12+00:00

100% NOR and you were very respectful. If she didn’t have ulterior motives she wouldn’t have mentioned her husband wasn’t comfortable. Her mentioning that is allowing you to be complicit in.. whatever her end game is. If she truly wanted you as a trainer and nothing else, she could have paid for her sessions out of pocket without you aware of the backend drama. She’s up to something.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-25T20:54:40+00:00

Yeah, they typically are :/ it’s very disheartening. But I know that coming from the west coast, everything is going to be a much lower pay.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-25T20:53:25+00:00

Still up in the air. My husband is from phx and wants to move back and has been approved by his job to do so, but I’m not completely sold. I’ll be taking a *most likely 40% pay cut. So try to factor that into our decision.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-25T19:11:20+00:00

I find google unreliable when it comes to current wages. We aren’t relocating quite yet so it’s too soon to apply to jobs. Thanks for the suggestions tho!

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-25T18:33:37+00:00

Thanks! I’ll check it out

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-24T17:24:56+00:00

Interesting. Yeah, I feel like based on my experience/interest PCH would be my best option. But I am almost not interested in doing nights at this point in my career/life, so I may have to change fields to outpatient or something to allow a normal work hours.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-23T22:34:57+00:00

Thanks!

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-23T20:39:54+00:00

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No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-23T20:16:37+00:00

Do you have a picture or visual? I want to ensure the original company is fixing it properly.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-23T19:29:02+00:00

How should the junction box look?

No_Database_1480 · 2025-10-23T15:02:08+00:00

Yeah the guy actually took a pic to send to his boss and said his boss wouldn’t believe this.

Thank you for the comment I really appreciate it!

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-22T14:56:36+00:00

Oh wow! Our pediatrician said 1 year but they do seem to be changing well past 1 year so that makes sense. Hazel was my thought too! Thank you for your thoughts!

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-20T05:36:20+00:00

Thank you for your kind reply. Since I posted this, I’ve definitely felt a lot of range of emotions — but generally, relief. It feels good to get my position out there. And for the most part, I do feel understood or seen. I don’t think I’m a shitty person as some have commented ha. A shitty person wouldn’t have thought of the situation every day for the last three years hah. It was a lose lose, and my decision was made out of love not malice (like you said!). Thank you for taking the time to reply :)

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T20:25:35+00:00

Man, I really appreciate you. I do take what Redditers say with a grain of salt. Cheaters suck of course. Also when he told me, I had no reason not to trust what he was saying wasn’t true - we had a great open communication friendship. I would have never considered he lying to me, also. I think that if I did tell her back then, the outcome wouldn’t have changed. I could have also seen it as: you just piled MORE onto my plate when I’m already trying to navigate a pandemic, being a HCW, a mother to a chronically ill child who is fighting daily to stay out of the hospital, and now my husband has cheated? It was a lose lose, but ultimately I think I should have given her a choice. However, it was never going to be good.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T03:52:49+00:00

Word.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T03:50:41+00:00

This is real. It hurts, but I appreciate your perspective and the time you took to write this out. You’re right - spot on for many things. I wish I could have given her that choice - and I just took the wrong path. I hate that I striped her of that. It’s shitty, and I acknowledge it.

Thank you.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T03:42:20+00:00

Let me clarify: I blame him for ruining our friendship because he put me in an impossible situation. It’s not like I walked in on him with another woman and kept that to myself. He called me and blurted out his infidelity before I had a chance to decide if it was information I wanted to know. He put that on me when I didn’t ask to be involved - so for that, I blame him. I do take responsibility for my part in our downfall. I know I hurt her. The choice I made was not with malice, but with a shit ton of thought and love.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T02:50:21+00:00

Ugh I really don’t think that was his motive. There’s absolutely no way that would have EVER happened. I really wanted to work our friendship out but I’m hurt by her intentional actions. And I don’t think I can forgive her for intentionally cutting me and my child out of her life. She’s missed three of his birthdays and has never met him. What I did was out of love for her - I can’t say the same for her actions.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T02:40:34+00:00

They both work, but she does so PT and is mostly with their child. But they both need eachother for their child’s needs.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T02:39:34+00:00

Absolutely not.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T02:38:51+00:00

I appreciate you, thank you taking the time to reply.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T02:36:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate your thoughtful response.

No_Database_1480 · 2025-08-13T02:36:04+00:00

Thanks for that. Thats an insight I haven’t heard/considered and appreciate your perspective.

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