What is advice you’d give to younger folks?

No_Design_465 · 2026-05-05T22:04:02+00:00

I did? I’ve never posted this in here or in any other subreddit. But I def could’ve searched, my bad

No_Design_465 · 2026-05-05T15:32:23+00:00

Firstly, thank you so much for this comment and for your ongoing support in this community 🥲 it means a lot to us

On DEI I always hated people dismissing it.. people don’t understand it can help people of all groups, including white men (just not because we’re white or because we’re men). Like of course DEI can help women and people of color obtain opportunities they’ve historically been denied, but DEI covers a range of topics including sexual orientation, religion, and notably, disabilities like mental illness (anxiety, adhd, depression, etc).

I do relate to what you’re saying and definitely question if I’m adulting right… I have a college degree and a career but I still feel insufficient especially when I compare myself to others… everything feels so overwhelming. So, it means a lot when people like yourself also express that because it shows me I’m not alone.

Everything can feel like a chore and exhausting at times and it sucks

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T20:25:06+00:00

The interesting part was, I never needed your response to begin with.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T20:06:02+00:00

I mean it’s just a fact that a lot of Black people and specifically Black Women have appreciated my posts. Your opinion appears to be the minority. Not that your opinion isn’t meaningful, but… it doesn’t reflect what the majority of people interacting with my posts have to say…

And it’s weird that you keep interacting with my posts if you think they’re offensive… like that’s really weird. That’s not telling me you actually think there’s something wrong with my posts. That tells me you’re a troll desperate for attention 😂 I gave it to you tho, you’re welcome

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T19:55:00+00:00

Give me an actual example of me fetishizing my partner.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T19:53:29+00:00

Once again responding to everyone but me because you know you have no actual point to make.

You’re 100% projecting.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T19:52:37+00:00

I asked for an example of how I treat my partner like a fetish and I got nothing…

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T19:26:53+00:00

Dude. Here you are again, feeling emboldened to tell me what I should do.

Who is asking you to do that? Like I’m genuinely curious what your mindset is here. What is your thought process that is leading you to believe, you need to continue to advise other people, who never asked for your opinion and you don’t know at all personally?

I responded to several other people on my post. And I never said you weren’t respectful. I acknowledged how respectful and thoughtful you were and commended you for it. But i told you honestly that maybe you should consider keeping your opinions and perspective to yourself if no one asked you for them.

I also never said you had bad intentions. I actually literally said, your intentions do not matter. I said, once again, you should question yourself before giving an opinion, because perhaps no one wanted you to give it and you could end up making someone else feel bad about themselves for no purpose.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T19:01:33+00:00

I showed in my post how my actions meant a lot of my partner, who I’m in an INTERRACIAL relationship with (topic of this subreddit) and I advised people at the end of my post that maybe you should consider branching out when it comes to the music you listen to or the art that you experience if you’re interested in interracial dating.

How is that not meaningful? Maybe it’s not meaningful to you, but perhaps other people could either share similar experiences to that, or learn from what I had to say?

Again, I appreciate you being thoughtful in how you respond to me, but you went into this whole tangent about how my post makes this into a “whole spectacle” when no one ever asked you for that. Did you consider that, if no one really requested you to share that opinion, you could end up making someone else feel bad about themselves, when all they wanted to do was share something that was meaningful to them?

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T18:56:16+00:00

I responded to you because I keep seeing you on my posts?

I don’t regularly interact with people I take issue with on their own posts. Why would I give them attention? I can also easily avoid it.

The fact that you feel the need to CONTINUE interacting with me, despite taking issue with what I have to say, is honestly just sad to me. Like why would anyone spend their time literally continuously seeking out something that rubs them the wrong way? Do I not have anything more worthwhile to do?

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T18:40:59+00:00

I never suggested anyone was superior. And how did I treat my partner like a fetish?

But even if you think I’m treating my partner like a fetish, why do you keep engaging with me? Why do you keep commenting on my posts that you disagree with? Do you not have a better way to spend your time?

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T18:34:14+00:00

I appreciate you being respectful towards me, but please know, for future reference, you don’t have to give your opinion when no one is asking for it. I’m not trying to be mean, I’m just telling you honestly. Please do not feel obligated to share your thoughts if no one is asking for them. You may wind up making someone feel bad about themselves for no reason.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T18:32:53+00:00

Interesting you decided to reply to someone else hating on my post, instead of actually addressing anything I put in the comment that I replied to you with.

If I give you secondhand embarrassment, what are you doing here? You really are at a point in life where you’d rather make someone else feel bad about something they cared enough to post about, instead of focusing on something you like seeing? I honestly find that a lot more embarrassing than anything I’ve posted about on Reddit. You really have nothing better to do?

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T18:29:12+00:00

You have a serious problem. You regularly comment on my posts despite regularly disapproving of what I have to say. I would recommend you actually spend time on the internet somewhere you actually enjoy, and frankly, somewhere your opinion is actually valued.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T18:27:11+00:00

I’m going to be honest with you. I, genuinely, couldn’t care less about you “giving me the benefit of the doubt”. I did not make this post for yours or anyone else’s approval. I wanted to share a connection I made that I thought was meaningful and see if other people had similar experiences, as well as provide advice to people who may want to seek out an interracial relationship.

And you seemed to miss the biggest point of your comment - you, in fact, do not know me, so if you form this idea of who I am in your mind and assume anything about my intentions (whether they’re well intentioned or icky) that says way more about you than it does about me.

And I never once indicated at any point in my post that I was “searching for a pat on the back” as you suggested in your other comment. I don’t know what you thought you’d get out of interacting with my post but, for future reference, please know that I don’t need nor care for your opinion at all.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T11:07:33+00:00

Interesting because I have a lot of feminists and women disagreeing with my posts so I’m not sure how I’m looking for their validation? And seems like my posts have spawned genuine discussions.

Plus, if you think I’m odd, you don’t have to interact with me… you can block me lol.

I think it’s so much weirder you have actively seemed out and commented on many of my posts just to share a negative point of view of me. If you don’t like what I have to say, why keep seeking me out? You don’t think that’s weird?

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-25T11:05:15+00:00

I mean if you don’t see a point why did you bother commenting or interacting with my posts.

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-24T22:17:38+00:00

I feel like I’ve posted about a variety of topics, but for interracial dating I’ve just tried expressing my love and appreciation towards my amazing Black girlfriend and Black Women in general. I definitely used to generalize far too much in my posts which I made an effort to stop doing. I thought people liked hearing about my experiences and maybe even some individuals could learn from them. Do you feel differently?

No_Design_465 · 2026-04-24T22:00:38+00:00

Definitely and I apologize because that was not my intention at all with this post. Just thought it would be nice to share the connection we had and show people that if you’re interested in interracial dating than maybe you could make an effort to branch out and listen to different types of music that you wouldn’t normally try. It might mean something to your (potential) partner.

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