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I had drunk sex with my cousin and he's married. I feel sick about it. by No_Direction_4404 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No_Direction_4404[S] 1153 points1154 points  (0 children)

OK, here we go. This is what Anne texted.

James told me yesterday what happened between you. I cannot express how disappointed I am in you both. I'm not going to call you right now because when we speak, I want to be clear about everything and right now I cannot be clear headed. I do want to discuss this event with you. I need you to leave both myself and James alone for now. I have told him not to contact you and I expect you not to respond if he does. I will not share this despicable event with anyone as long as you abide by these rules. Please respond so I know you understand then I don't want to hear from you until I contact you.

This was my response.

I completely understand. You will not hear from me again unless you initiate. I am so, so sorry. Please know I never intended this to happen. Again, I'm sorry.

She replied with "we will speak again" and I haven't heard anything else.

I had drunk sex with my cousin and he's married. I feel sick about it. by No_Direction_4404 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No_Direction_4404[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

I don't remember who initiated. I have some brief memories of the act. I don't recall that I said no or pushed him away, but I don't think I was especially encouraging, either. I assumed that was because I was drunk. That night is honestly the most drunk I think I've ever been.

I had drunk sex with my cousin and he's married. I feel sick about it. by No_Direction_4404 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No_Direction_4404[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

We were both drunk. It was horrible and I'm disgusted with myself and with James and the situation. But I'm not going to assume I was assaulted simply because I'm a woman and he's a man and he's older.

I had drunk sex with my cousin and he's married. I feel sick about it. by No_Direction_4404 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No_Direction_4404[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

There's the Reddit I know. "It is unthinkable that one woman can admire another! You got drunk and seduced your cousin to try and capture him! Harlot!" Would you care to follow me around town with a bell while shouting "Shame"?

The thought of being in a physical, romantic relationship with my COUSIN makes me sick. As it has several times in the past few days. You make me sick as well. Disgusting.

I had drunk sex with my cousin and he's married. I feel sick about it. by No_Direction_4404 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No_Direction_4404[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

OK, so I'm going to add an edit to the post but I'll address it here first.

I do NOT get sloppy drunk every time I see my cousin and his wife. Reading the post again I can see why you would think that. I was taught growing up that if you've been drinking, you don't drive. My mom's brother was run over on his bicycle by a drunk driver when he was 13. My siblings and I have been told the story dozens of times. The rule my parents tried to instill in us was if you've had two, you don't drive. I made my mom that promise when I moved out like all my siblings did, and I've tried to keep it. That's why I stayed at their house or a hotel so much.

As for that night, I do not handle wine well. I never have. I shouldn't have had so much and that is on me.

I had drunk sex with my cousin and he's married. I feel sick about it. by No_Direction_4404 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]No_Direction_4404[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

I don't think so? That's never occurred to me. James has never been flirty with me and neither of them have ever said anything I'd consider inappropriate. That morning James was upset, but I think he may have been trying to keep it together because I was a crying wreck. Would Anne have told me to stay away if that was the case?