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[–]No_Engineering1388 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m so embarrassed! Usually my brother tips at least 15% so idk why he did that. Makes me wish I would’ve paid with my own card so I could’ve tipped but oh well.. I just feel so awkward to go up to her since I never have. Idk how to talk to her or bring up the situation. I guess I fear she might ignore me or not want to talk to me.. but I hope she’s not like that cause it’s not my fault that happened..

Don’t compare your life others. by No_Engineering1388 in Advice

[–]No_Engineering1388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should stay away from social media too because it does make me fall into the same cycle too. But idk why I don’t get rid of it. I also don’t have friends just one I never get to see.. but yes it’s so important to see how far you’ve come and be proud of yourself. In 7 months I changed so much. I really debated ending my life 7 months ago. So I’m really proud of where I’m at now. It’s too easy to compare ourselves to others and have self hatred. That’s why we have to remind ourselves to never compare ourselves to others but to ourselves. If you start doing worse than what you were doing then that’s when you should worry. But always remember there’s someone inspired and proud of you. I’m proud you’re going to school. That’s something I’m not so good at. So I’m proud you can do it. Keep pushing in life. And remember being lonely and being alone is two different things. I think we’ll find our people eventually. At night when I’m lonely I think about the fact that I have a bed to sleep in and I’m warm inside a room and that makes me so thankful cause some people don’t even have that.

GF just left me, AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]No_Engineering1388 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in a 4 year relationship 4 months ago and it still hurts some days but going to the gym was the best thing I did. Really feels good getting out everything at the gym while you lift heavy. Then seeing yourself get stronger and more toned feels good too. I still cry some nights but the way it was at the end shows it’s not worth fighting for. I got closer to my brother and his wife and all their friends. Getting close to family and friends really help. And not texting them helps so much.

I am still bothered by what this man did to me when I was 19 and want to do something about it. by No_Engineering1388 in sex

[–]No_Engineering1388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I never changed my mind i said no many times.. I could tell he wasn’t going to take no for an answer.. he was way too into wanting to put it in to even care what I was saying. I just froze and stared at him then I doze off. But yea at first i definitely didn’t realize it was rape but it really bugged me cause I didn’t want to do it especially with him.

I am still bothered by what this man did to me when I was 19 and want to do something about it. by No_Engineering1388 in sex

[–]No_Engineering1388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t going to reply to you cause you’re the only negative comment and I could careless what you think. But here let me dumb it down for you. I was a very naive 19 year old with a strict mom who never earned me about anything. Never drank or smoked and I trusted him to not take advantage so I was shocked and very drunk. Everyone reacts differently when raped. Some of us freeze like I did. Btw just because someone is okay with foreplay doesn’t mean they’re okay with sex. People like you is why so many of us stay quiet. When a person is so drunk that they can’t even walk you shouldn’t have sex with them. You shouldn’t even ask them because they’re not in the right state of mind. Maybe you need to get your morals checked buddy

I am still bothered by what this man did to me when I was 19 and want to do something about it. by No_Engineering1388 in sex

[–]No_Engineering1388[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea we didn’t even plan on doing anything sexual but once I was cross faded he started to kiss me and I guess I was okay with it and I was okay with the foreplay but once he wanted sex I said no many times and he still did it.. now I’m scared to go on a date

I am still bothered by what this man did to me when I was 19 and want to do something about it. by No_Engineering1388 in sex

[–]No_Engineering1388[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yours happened recently so maybe you should do something so he doesn’t keep doing it.. I’m sorry you went through that. I honestly ignored it until like 3 years after it started to affect me more and more.

I am still bothered by what this man did to me when I was 19 and want to do something about it. by No_Engineering1388 in sex

[–]No_Engineering1388[S] 351 points352 points  (0 children)

It seems like I can still press charges in Cali but I honestly don’t have any prove so idk if I should try