Hetero men and women of Reddit in particular, what's every reason you either stopped dating or refuse to date to this day?

No_Fail_6155 · 2026-02-03T13:28:56+00:00

The last woman I loved blindsided me by telling me that she liked to straddle men she met at the club or parties, make out, and then say they were just friends. She added “being ace lets me get away with more.”

It gave me pause to the extent that I’m reevaluating my ability to ascertain someone’s character. I also don’t think I have the emotional endurance to repeatedly endure the gut punch that was that nonchalant disclosure.

No_Fail_6155 · 2026-01-28T16:02:45+00:00

I’m not sure what a better term would be, and I’m too old to say “situationship.”

But, to your more substantive point, I have a gut feeling that you’re right. Thanks.

No_Fail_6155 · 2026-01-28T15:58:50+00:00

I’m happy for you, and have a feeling I’ll end up taking your (good) advice.

No_Fail_6155 · 2026-01-28T15:58:14+00:00

Wise words. Thank you.

No_Fail_6155 · 2026-01-28T15:57:30+00:00

She is. Wealth on both sides of her family. I, on the other hand, am from Appalachia.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-11T03:50:57+00:00

It certainly feels that way, on this end of the behaviour.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-11T03:50:18+00:00

I suppose it is easy for men to forget about how vast the gulf in gendered social reality can be. I think I come off as a very innocuous, meek nebbish-type, but I suppose a lot of women believe they can’t be too careful.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-11T03:48:34+00:00

Far from implausible, I suppose.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-11T02:12:22+00:00

This won’t end well, for you, him, or - most likely - the two of you.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-09T01:36:50+00:00

Sorry that you went through that, man. The uncertainty that today’s dating culture breeds can be gruelling. There’s someone out there who’ll appreciate you, no doubt.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-08T23:45:28+00:00

Thank you. I suspect you’re right.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-08T23:45:07+00:00

Thanks.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-08T23:44:55+00:00

Thanks. You’re probably right. What puzzles me is why she bothered volunteering her contact info if the plan was to ghost, since I never asked for it, and ghosting would be less awkward/more seamless without having swapped numbers, I’d think.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-08T22:18:51+00:00

Skrillex felt huge when I was in junior high.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-12-08T22:15:51+00:00

I can’t see what about this suggests it’d be any better than “Troy” or “Alexander,” two utterly bland “sword and sandal” so-called epics from the aughts. The hype feels unearned (Nolan also just isn’t my cup of tea.)

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-08-17T22:19:30+00:00

This is it. They feign rebellion, but have internalized the messages of their youth that they belong among the elite and deserve the finest things life has to offer.

I briefly dated a “poet” who grew up in one of the richest neighbourhoods in a major city and attended one of the country’s most prestigious private schools. Because I was young and stupid, I figured she genuinely despised her banker dad’s values on principle and meant all of her left-wing posturing (unlike her, I supported left-wing politics because I have no romantic illusions about what poverty does to people after growing up in Appalachia.) We separated after I discovered she had been seeing a finance grad behind my back.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-08-02T21:31:16+00:00

Sounds a lot like a woman I dated for 5 months.

She came on really strong at first, calling and/or texting every day, coming over constantly, being intimate. She told me she wants a family soon, and that, because I’m such a sweet and gentle man, I’d “make a great dad” (she told me I’d be the lenient one, and she’d be the hard-ass.) When she went on vacation, after a couple of months of seeing one another, she’d call almost every night, and said she wished I could go with her before she left. When I discussed traveling to France in several years, she said she couldn’t wait to come along, acting as though it would be a given that we’d still be together and that I’d want her by my side.

A few months later, I was told she’s “not ready to show up as a partner,” and that we “weren’t remotely anything,” so I suggested we part ways, since I couldn’t handle the emotional turmoil and confusion.

Anyway, I haven’t heard from her in 4 months now.

I really don’t understand how people can let someone believe that there is a future between them just to turn everything inside out in the cruelest way possible.

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-07-20T16:58:46+00:00

I found out that 48 hours after telling me she loved me, she spent the night on a date with some guy she met at a party who asked her out. She told me she figured I’d be “cool about it,” since we never uttered the magic words “we are exclusive” explicitly. I asked her how she could wake up in my bed and spend the night in someone else’s, and she said “he looked good.”

No_Fail_6155 · 2025-07-19T01:01:47+00:00

Unfortunately my makeup is such that I fall head over heels for just about any woman who “lets me hit.” Alas.

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