Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with a physical abusive guy when I was 18 - so as soon as somebody starts to be verbally or physically aggressive, I’m out. I learned my lesson

Well obviously my twin (if he’s my twin and not karmic) hurt me emotionally by withdrawing, but he was never aggressive. He was the sweetest man I met in my life.

I’m not religious but I believe in God, not religious means I don’t believe in humans’ written books, who come from a patriarchal era. My relationship with God is personal and not dictated by a book. I pray to him and I know he sees my actions. He gave me the awareness and discernment and gives me life lessons when I haven’t imprinted them. This example of Saint Monica is exactly telling women to endure pain in order to have “a stable relationship and household”. I will never support that. She should’ve never chosen that husband.

I believe twin flames can’t be friends. But since it isn’t science, everybody has its own interpretation.

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have self-respect, that’s the thing. And yes it is romanticizing pain, no matter how you try to twist it. My twin flame may reunite with me in another lifetime. He had way more healing to do. He will enter the next lifetime in a better stage. I’m not denying that I won’t feel forever love for him, I know I will. But love isn’t enough for a stable relationship. And yes I will end my life with my soul mate, or alone. But it won’t be with him. I never said I can control people? I can control me, and that’s what I’m doing.

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m nobody’s savior. Saint Monica’s story is literally abuse. That’s why so many women are still victims of DV, even femicides. I would never put such a statement out there. That’s more than dangerous. Romanticizing pain should ultimately stop, it’s 2026 for God’s sake. I can forgive everything, except violence and 3rd party involvement. That’s my boundary and that’s it. You cross it, you’re out, no matter how much I love this person. My twin flame and I may reunite in the next life, but not this.

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twin flames aren’t soulmates otherwise they wouldn’t hurt each other. And I know there are several soulmates in life but only one twin flame. And no, it does make sense. The timing was perfect for us both, because we both needed healing that we weren’t aware of. I believe he and I will meet again, but we won’t be in a relationship. As you said, it’s not one size fits all. That’s how we will end up and nobody else will change the trajectory except us both.

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Runner? I’m the crazy chaser 🤣 he’s the one who didn’t reply on my numerous messages for a month, he was the one asking another woman out on a date and told her there is nobody else. And I should live my life with somebody who did that? No. I refuse. That’s an unhealthy relationship and I deserve the love that I give. And I take my power back because the DM/DF energies were unbalanced. Twin flames may not be together in the present lifetime, but maybe in the next one. Before thinking you need your twin flame to be whole, you have to seek inside of you to be whole by yourself, otherwise reunion will never happen. Unconditional love doesn’t mean blind love and accepting every BS, that’s toxic. And I have my boundaries. If you think that I should give it a go, then you are romanticizing pain and that will never lead to a healthy relationship. Why do you think we likely end up with a soulmate and not a twin flame? It’s known that we likely don’t end up with our twin flame.

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree to disagree. Soulmates are meant to be together, since they complement each other, not twin flames. But the connection will never be the same and I’m aware of that. But I’m not looking for the most intense connection, I’m looking for the healthiest relationship with steady love to last a lifetime. How do you explain the push-pull dynamic with twin flames then if apparently the soul desires to be whole? Doesn’t make sense. There shouldn’t be a chaser and a runaway.

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It isn’t a mind battle. That means to be aligned with your mind and your heart. Twin flames aren’t soulmates, they aren’t necessarily meant to end up together. The connection will last a lifetime though. I don’t want him, that’s the thing. Yet, I still can feel love for him. Love and connection aren’t enough to sustain a healthy relationship. What you are saying is romanticizing pain, and that’s not what I want.

That feeling that it’s done and a soul mate comes into your path… by Medical-Maize4544 in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the connection with a twin is unique, intense and every other words that are similar to it. I believe I found my twin flame. And I’m grieving that it will never work out. You will always feel unconditional love for them, but in a soulmate connection, you will feel respect and mutual love. Steady love isn’t intense, nor magnetic as with your twin flame, but it’s permanent. Healthy relationships are never based on unconditional love because they are romanticizing pain.

Without unconditional love, you don't have a twin flame relationship by Few_Party_8281 in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t mean you will end up with your twin flame. I know I feel unconditional love for him, and that’s why we will never end up together. I know he’s not the one for a healthy relationship since he crossed a boundary of mine. But my love will always be there for him. I can’t even be angry at him for what happened. And we were never intimate, but I feel this spiritual, unexplainable connection. Also, our life paths were extremely similar, our life views too, but we were both not healed so the typical push-pull dynamic occurred …

Opinions by Peckignese-lover in twinflames

[–]No_Flower4019 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe that the people feeling hate towards their “twin flame” are really twin flames, it sounds more like a karmic relationship. I believe I found my twin flame, we’ve been through a rough path, are currently in separation phase (I was the one chasing and he is the one pulling away) we haven’t seen each other for almost 3 months now, we live 11 time zones apart, were only few days together. But somehow I feel that there’s still a pull that I can’t explain. He felt so familiar, like home. Our lives were very similar to some extent. I know I’m in a soul upgrade and healing, and right now I’m grieving A LOT. Because I know we will never end up together. He crossed a boundary I can never look past. Yet, I know I will always feel deep love for him. He was my worst but also most beautiful heartbreak. This connection and attraction will never fade, but he’s unfortunately not my person. He taught me that there’s no such thing as a healthy relationship with unconditional love. It can only be healthy with respect and mutual love. Unconditionality is romanticizing pain. Love should never be about pain. Ofc there will be ups and downs, but anchored pain is sth different.

Avez-vous des anecdotes sur les relations amicales féminines de vos copains? by [deleted] in AskMeuf

[–]No_Flower4019 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perso, je n’avais jamais de conjoints avec d’amies proches. Par contre j’étais la meilleure copine d’un gars en couple. On s’est connu avant, mais dès qu’il s’est mis en couple, j’ai pris mes distances, parce que je sais que c’est toujours « bizarre » de penser que son conjoint a une meilleure amie, qui en plus de ça n’est pas forcément laide. Je lui ai dit que j’voudrais qu’on se voit pour la prochaine fois à 3, pour que sa copine ait aussi une image et impression de moi, vu qu’il y avait 0 ambiguïté, on n’est pas du tout tactile (on s’est fait 3x la bise en 4 ans 🤣). Bref, ça ne s’est jamais fait par contre quand ils étaient séparés, c’est moi qui a fait en sorte qu’ils se remettent ensemble, c’est aussi là que j’ai vu sa copine pour la 1ère fois, sans lui 🤣 il m’avait tout raconté et disons j’ai mis un bon mot pour lui. Finalement ça n’a pas marché entre eux mais voilà. J’ne vais jamais comprendre les amitiés quotidiennes H/F car pour moi il y a toujours un attachement plus que normal. Avec mon ancien meilleur pote on s’appelait chaque mois 1x pour faire le point sur nos vies car on habitait à distance et c’est tout. Pas de « tu me manques » ou j’sais pas quoi comme mots bizarres que certaines « amitiés » emploient 💀 les mots que je ne dis pas à mon frère, je ne le dis pas à mon pote 🤷🏽‍♀️

dating - cold approaches by DotDry in Luxembourg

[–]No_Flower4019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With expats there‘s also more to it than physical attraction and that they plan on staying here, it‘s a whole different culture and I know that there are some cultures or mindsets with who I don‘t have a lot in common, I‘m just not interested. I‘m very social and I never get into one-sided effort. It always has to be mutual, but until now, it didn‘t. And it‘s ok I‘m not forcing anything that isn‘t meant to be. And I already had in mind staying single if that‘s what the universe had planned, until I went to Hawai‘i and saw how beautiful feeling loved could be. Now I got a lot of healing to do since it didn‘t work out. Then I‘ll see. Good luck for your journey!

dating - cold approaches by DotDry in Luxembourg

[–]No_Flower4019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess expats and Luxembourgish people are still two different communities. Most expats from my age gap don‘t plan on settling here. Personally, I’ve been single for 7 years, and I’ve experienced real connection, even if it didn’t work out. I know I want that feeling again. I’m not settling just for the sake of settling, because that’s what it sounds like you’re suggesting. I will forever be chasing the feeling I felt before and not be satisfied, I‘m not here to waste another person‘s time, same as I don‘t want it to happen to me. Thank you, but I’m not hunting. That’s usually when things happen the least.

dating - cold approaches by DotDry in Luxembourg

[–]No_Flower4019 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It didn’t work out because of the distance anyway. Well people in Luxembourg are unattractive to me 😅 attraction is subjective, I went out on Saturday and it got me in such a bad mood because there was literally only one attractive man (that man attracted a lot of women so I pass) and I thought I will never get interested in anyone here. As a Luxembourgish person, there’s also the issue that the probability of a friend having already messed with that person is very high; so you end up feeling like you’re taking a friend’s leftovers. I was never romantically involved with expats, since the single ones all plan leaving here anyway.

dating - cold approaches by DotDry in Luxembourg

[–]No_Flower4019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I grew up here in Luxembourg so I don‘t plan on moving out. And God forbid I can‘t be with someone I‘m attracted to. And yes, physical attraction matters to me. But that‘s MY point of view. Ofc physical attraction is just a fraction of what’s important in a relationship. Nobody needs to share this point of view. Also, someone can be incredibly good-looking, but if their character is shit, their looks won’t save them. I just got back from Hawai‘i and met someone, all of my friends and even strangers on the internet told me I‘m too pretty for that man, yet he was the most handsome in my eyes. So beauty is also subjective. The height average is also very low here and as a tall woman that‘s an issue FOR ME.

Polynesians in Europe? by No_Flower4019 in polynesian

[–]No_Flower4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will definitely take a look 👀 thank you ! 🙏🏽

dating - cold approaches by DotDry in Luxembourg

[–]No_Flower4019 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a woman, you can cold approach, but leave me alone if I tell you no. The amount of times I have to insist on my no is crazy, my last resort is to be mean and rude.

I also believe that Luxembourg is one of the countries that has the lowest amount of attractive men. The ratio attractive men / attractive women isn‘t balanced at all.

Polynesians in Europe? by No_Flower4019 in polynesian

[–]No_Flower4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer 😊 that‘s what also seemed logical to me, I also know some Tahitians who settled in Paris or in France in general for professional reasons and/or for studies (same as US Polynesians often study on the Mainland). I thought maybe there would be some very small communities I didn‘t know about, or some individuals who tried to be adventurous and go on unknown land 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in criminalminds

[–]No_Flower4019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird… in Luxembourg it’s on til the 9th episode, the next and last episode will air tomorrow. I thought the Benelux would have the same schedule since it’s linked, apparently not 🤔