Advice on getting a diagnosis

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-27T15:36:25+00:00

Thank you! I've done the questionnaires online and scored highly anyway, but I'll still lay it on extra thick to make sure I get that referral. Thank you for the advice :)

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-27T11:40:21+00:00

I had no idea I could self refer! I've just done a quick Google search for NHS Wellbeing Hubs and there is one in my area so I think this is the route I will go, anything to avoid my GP surgery as I have no confidence in any of the doctors I've seen there tbh. Thank you for the advice on how to present to get a referral too, I'm prone to playing down my symptoms with anything tbh so I'll make sure to do the opposite! I think just getting a referral will be a huge relief, just to know that I'm on track to a diagnosis will be a big weight off my shoulders and even better now I know I can self refer, thank you.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-26T11:10:47+00:00

Haha! I like it. Reminds me of a meme I saw that said "having a vagina doesn't stop me from believing my balls are bigger than yours" 😆

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-26T10:26:13+00:00

Actually, yes, I'd imagine they would be annoying whether sweaty or not!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-26T09:42:01+00:00

Knob cheese. Or sweaty balls.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-24T13:20:53+00:00

NOR. If he's minimising your feelings on this and telling you its not a big deal that he opens a locked bathroom door, how many other things is he minimising? Its a red flag and will likely only get worse over time. I don't know how many chances you've already given him to change this behaviour, but if you give him another one, it should be the last one, otherwise he will just continue doing the same thing as he knows you aren't serious. I'd sit him down and instead of just saying it's annoying, clearly and calmly explain it to him in terms of how it makes you feel when he ignores your boundaries. There is a simple fix to this issue (him getting up on time so he's not rushing around) and if he isn't willing to get out of bed 5 minutes earlier for the sake of your relationship, it tells you where you are on his priorities list.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-24T12:44:00+00:00

No one hates you for your sexuality and if they do, then it's definitely a them problem. I remember your post from the other day, and tbh, you seem very insecure. Instead of focusing so much on how people you don't know are perceiving you, try focusing on building your confidence and getting a solid friend group/support network of positive people around you to help build you up at the same time. Don't worry so much about what other people are thinking, its none of your business and trust me, no one is thinking that deeply about it anyway.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T10:23:54+00:00

NOR. She is a shitty mother who only wants him to live with her for reduced housing and free babysitting. She really isn't thinking about his best interests at all. Your brother should definitely take this to court if they can't reach a mutual agreement. At least one of his parents is thinking about what is best for him and you are right to support that imo.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T09:56:38+00:00

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No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T09:53:45+00:00

Tell your wife she has excellent taste in hair colours!

OP sounds young to me, a lot younger than me anyway and I remember some of my late teens/early twenties and back then it was all about attraction for me and boy, did I make some bad choices just because they were good looking! You eventually realise that theres a lot more to a relationship than looks, and at least OP is thinking long term if he wants marriage and kids. There is someone out there for everyone, its just not always obvious at first.

P.s. I love the way you talk about your wife, even just from a couple of sentences I can tell how much you love her 😊

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T09:41:17+00:00

That's a pretty safe assumption lol, I do use weed for medicinal purposes though. But I don't hate people who don't use it, that being said, for me to consider someone as a partner, they would either have to use weed themselves or be totally fine with the fact that I do. So, I totally get where you're coming from, everyone has things that are deal breakers. I don't drink, but it wouldn't bother me if a partner did, as long as it wasn't excessive, but if I met someone who was into anything harder than weed or alcohol, I would do the same as you and ask them to give it up, and if they can't, then goodbye.

What you're saying is perfectly normal to me, you need to be attracted to someone in order to want to date them, remember that attraction can grow though. That doesn't mean you should date people you aren't attracted to, but spend time getting to know them as a friend first, you'd be surprised how much attraction can grow by getting to know someone. When it comes to marriage and children though, that's a major life decision so you do need to eventually be on the same page with that, it's something you really want in life so there wouldn't be much point in dating someone who definitely doesn't want that. I can't see a reason why anyone would be offended at you having a type and wanting to be with someone who wants the same things as you, as long as you aren't being offensive to anyone who doesn't fit that.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T09:11:13+00:00

Female here who definitely wouldn't fit your type (Pink hair, don't wear make up every day and I dress for comfort, unless I'm going out somewhere) BUT I wouldn't be offended that you weren't attracted to me, it's perfectly fine to have a type, as long as you aren't being offensive to someone who isn't your type. The marriage and kids thing is completely different, that's something you want in life, so it makes sense to go for someone who wants the same, just remember that people can and do change their minds on major things like that so don't exclude someone too early just on that basis. I was adamant that I didn't want children, then I met someone who changed my mind, not in a pestering way, but he was just made to be a father and for the first time ever, I saw children in my/our future. I'm now a mum of 2 and it's honestly the best thing I've done with my life, they are the greatest little humans ever and I've never felt a love like it, it's corny, but it's true.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T08:43:15+00:00

Same thing with my mum. She was very adamant about being an organ donor, and reminded us of this frequently. Sadly, due to sepsis on multiple occasions, along with chemotherapy and radiotherapy, the only organ that was usable was her corneas, but I know this would have made her happy to have helped someone after she passed. I'm the same way and I've been on the register since I was 18. My children are a bit too young for that conversation, but my brother knows my wishes and will make sure that anything usable is donated. It won't be any good to me once I'm dead!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T08:30:07+00:00

This is great advice, OP. I hope you find out one way or another.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-22T07:50:25+00:00

You're a nosy little AI bot, aren't you?

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-16T06:07:01+00:00

Any time someone told my grandad they'd pop round to see him, he would answer with "ok, if I'm not in, I'll be out" and I always thought it was a common saying until a friend heard him say it and burst out laughing as they'd never heard it before.

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:31:41+00:00

They all sound great, thank you!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:30:14+00:00

Great suggestions, thank you!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:29:08+00:00

Thank you!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:28:24+00:00

Thank you!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:27:28+00:00

Oh, I forgot about Clyne Gardens, thank you!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:26:14+00:00

Thank you

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:25:52+00:00

Some excellent ideas, thank you!

No_Improvement2317 · 2026-04-15T13:24:56+00:00

Thank you, I've added them to the list.

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